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Hi

Although iam not married to my boyfriend ( who is 44yrs old ) i searched the web and discovered this web site and could relate to a lot off the posts so hope i can post here ?

I have had 3 yrs with him and its a rollercoaster ride which i seriously need to get off for my own health , i can be up there in the happy place for say 2 wks then he will pull the rug from beneath me with his tantrums & childish behaviour throwing his teddy in the corner if things dont go all his way or the way he wants !

I am at the end of my rope, and am not sure if my husband's behavior is related to his ADHD/Depression. Here is the story: My husband has a "good" day 10-25% of the time (one to three days a month). A good day is one where he can communicate without being defensive, where he is not depressed and so can fulfil plans, where he doesn't accuse me of trying to control him, etc. We have been in marriage counseling fo awhile, and I have come to realize that he might be incapable of learning these skills.

Honey, are you listening?

I think that the most illuminating thing is that there are few (no?) joyful posts in the Joy in Marriages with ADHD forum.

Reading these posts and Melissa's commentary makes me think that her experience is clearly the exception and not the rule.

My husband can't decide ANYTHING! When we got to be friends while working together, I waited and waited for him to ask me out, but he never did, until I finally gave up and asked him out. (BIG mistake!)

I have reached my limit and although we are not married, we have been together for 7 years, have one child and one on the way ( I am 8 months pregnant).  I am leaving about one month after we have the baby, and we have discussed this.  The first time I tried to talk to him about it he was predictably angry.  He probably has no meaningful recollection of the reasons why I am leaving and unfortunately I can't really care too much anymore, I have a 3 year old and soon a newborn to care for.

When I was diagnosed last year as an adult male 51 years old with ADHD I thought at last I have an explanation for what I have been going through and inflicting on others. I dutifully took medication that turned me into a zombie but I found that work wise I was not doing well at all and stopped the meds. My behaviour in terms of frustration and anger had changed and I was less partial to meltdown with the meds.

Hi everybody...

I am new to this forum.... but am bang in the middle of yet another crisis... so here goes.

I have been with my ADHD husband for nearly fourteen years, and all that time, despite all of the research I've done, despite the fact that I consider myself to be a very strong woman, despite the fact that I am clinically trained to a fairly high level and supposed to know about these things.... I have always managed to convince myself that it was his ADHD that made him behave so badly towards me at times....

I am so grateful to have found this website. Reading about everyone's individual experiences has been incredibly affirming. I know my post is going to be a long one but I am desperate to hear from others in the same situation and to figure out what factors are ADD related and which are just my husband.