So it's been a little over 3 weeks since my relationship ended with my undiagnosed adhd boyfriend. For the majority of of this time I've surprised myself and coped ok, feeling rational about it. However since the weekend it's been hitting me more, and causing a sadness, low mood and dare I say at times regret?!
Hi all
been reading on here for awhile. I had an adhd boyfriend before and he ended up being abusive so I left him. My current boyfriend also has ADHD. We live together and have been together for over a year.
Every couple has their thing, for my husband and I it's coffee. He didn't drink it much when we first met but I did and yeah. It doesn't have to be anything fancy. We don't roast our own beans or anything (now grinding the beans, umm yeah!) but we like to enjoy a cup in the morning to start the day. He prefers the coffee from the same gas station and really only drinks it at home if it's the 'right' kind like the last sentence. That's a whole thing lol. Its good coffee but I don't mind making it at home.
What does that word mean to me? In theory it works like this, I did something really bad that adversely affected someone else. We come to a point where they tell me they are no longer going to focus on that thing I did. Doesn't mean they forget or that it doesn't still hurt, just means they won't focus on it.
My life: my husband and I have been married/together for close to ten years. We have a four year old. He works and so do I. I am going taking classes to make a better life for my family. I don't want my husband to work anymore. I don't want him tired day in and day out.
I am the Non ADHD spouse and am currently so confused on this rollercoaster with my ADHD husband. We are both Christ followers and truly that is what is saving me from leaving this marriage at the moment. I am hoping someone will have some words for me that will give me comfort that what I am experiencing is normal for ADHD brains. My husband and I have been married for almost 3 years with him recently diagnosed and taking meds. We just found out he has been severely under medicated and they have doubled his dose.
Married to ADD husband for almost 17 years. He was diagnosed at 19 when he was having trouble focusing in college (he was a straight A student his entire childhood and through his masters program). He tried medication briefly, but it interfered with his drinking, so he gave it up. We met and married at age 29 (had 2 young children from previous marriage to an NPD). I knew nothing about ADHD, and I let all of the red flags pass me by as he lavished me with attention, intellectual stimulation and love.
Recently - within the last year - my husband was diagnosed with ADHD. For some background, We have been together for 5+ years and we moved where we are at the beginning of 2020 so he could pursue an acting career with my full support. He has been in several background roles but otherwise had not been working. When we first came here he got a full time job that he quit after like 3 months or so due to terrible management issues within the company and having not enough time to pursue acting the way he wanted. In the past he has quit all of his jobs for a similar reason/him hating the career.
Hi all - first post after finding this via Google.
I've read a lot of posts that give me great comfort in knowing I am not alone in this, but also a lot of fear that things really do not change and if I should carry on with this relationship.
I met my husband in 2016, he was diagnosed with ADHD in 2018 and we married in 2019. I feel like his diagnosis has been detrimental to our marriage as ever since it's like his symptoms have been heightened and as if he plays up to it or hides behind it rather than taking control.
Hello all,
So this just happened:
H has not worked for a few years. Retired. He used to have a business that he conducted from a large room we call the office. It is piled high with things like receipts from 5 to 25 years ago - dirty and musty papers and decades old files all over. No horizontal space open. I have been telling him that I would like to clean it up and use the room as a craft room/tv-room. We have a living room, dining room and a very large den. This room is now a very large hoarding storage space that it is impossible to clean. It is starting to smell.
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