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The reality of a mind that can't function normally means mental illness....It always has, and probably always will...The reason I got into this marriage, is the same reason I"ve had so much mental suffering in this marriage....Ignorance concerning mental illness, (add) and the refusal (for years) to realize it's going to play a role in my marriage relationship...A role that hinders or stops most every aspect of normal husband and wife interaction....I"ve lived it going on 13 years, and I've read the stories from many of you....It's always the same....The scale, mild to seve

Hello, my husband was diagnosed with ADHD in March 2018. He was prescribed adderall and has taken it daily since his diagnosis. 

My husband was diagnosed with diabetes about four or five years ago. I don't know if this is the reason for low sex drive or not, but when I try to talk to him about it he blames it on not wanting to have sex with me because not interested in me anymore. Due to my forgetfulness of items that i have forgotten to do, packed in his lunch, errands I didn't run, didn't pick up on knowing what types of things, food or whatever he would like for me to buy for him etc. We have been together for twenty years and there are times that I didn't think we would make it. I miss intimacy.

Hi all,
I realize this is a forum for addressing ADHD-related problems in marriages, and maybe venting a little, too. I'm curious, though — with hindsight, would you have gotten into your relationship? Is there enough positive to outweigh the negative? If, at the beginning, you'd had all the insights, tools, strategies, understanding, etc., you gained later in the relationship, do you think that would have put you on a happy(-enough?) road to choose to travel it? Or would you have found a different relationship?

Hi I'm new here. My non-adhd husband and I have been together for 9 yrs (married 7). I am the one with adhd. I want help. I'm frusterated and clueless how to "do life". I want very badly to be a better mom, wife, friend. I want to change. I just don't know how. I know that I'm not perfect...far from, yet I have a hard time seeing things from others points of views in the moment. An example would be...I forget things constantly, but when my husband forgets to put in his mouth guard that helps his snoring issues I go ballistic because it happens every night.

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My wife had her first meeting with a real adult ADHD expert (a local CHADD leader) on September 3.  I completed the questionaires she gave me an sent them in by September 17 (my wife did not forward them to we for several days after she received them).

My wife finally completed her answers on Monday, October 19.  I scanned them at work the next day and sent them in.

It took lots of reminders on my part.  I even contacted the expert and she sent a followup to my wife about completing the forms. 

Hi, I'm so sad and desperate for help and found this forum. I've been with my husband for 6 years, married for 2. We had a great relationship (while not perfect but had normal minor fights that were typical of any couple) up until the summer of 2019 where he began to change. He began taking Vyvance (30mg) and then added Adderall (40mg) because the Vyvance would wear out too quickly. 

Hey all I'm new to this site but so glad I found it. My son is ten months old and as we've gotten more responsibilities my husbands adhd has become more of an issue. He was recently diagnosed but states he is taking his meds when I know he isn't. My husband has no idea how much I think about separation because I can't communicate with him. He either blames me for pretty much everything, states I just want to change him or he doesn't talk or respond at all. I'm so lost lonely and confused.

"It'll be fine."

I hear this about so many life issues.  From tax questions to health concerns to car maintenance to issues with kids to... yeah.

His way is to say that it will be fine and do nothing.  And then when later it isn't fine, he's angry that he has to take time to fix it or spend the chunk of money to fix it.