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  • by: Tokiwa - 3 months 5 hours ago
    Hi, first of all, I am not a native English speaker. My English might not easy to understand sometime.  My husband and I have been together for 25 years now and just recently found out he has probably ADHD. He is going to see a specialist soon. I love him very much but I have to say our relationship went through a lot of tough moments. He had a girlfriend and I didn't know at all. Once this happened, I was always scared if something similar happens again. Rebuilding trust is very very hard on me or you....
    >>> on Forum topic - ADHD & Affairs - redefining our boundaries

  • by: Elena - 3 months 3 days ago
    I deeply appreciate your reply. My free time is extremely limited. There is so much more I want to share & recognize it will take considerable time to do so. The sensation of being 'crushed' has not abated..yet. Only now (10/17) was I able to get online & read your reply. The idea that you took the time to reply was a huge blessing & deeply appreciated. Hopefully the free time I need will come. I surely need it. Thank you for being there   With Deep Appreciation   Elena
    >>> on Forum topic - Will I Survive This?

  • by: Elena - 3 months 3 days ago
    1Melody1 Only now (10/17) did I get back online & read your most welcome reply. Reading your words was such a blessing. Saying "Thank You" doesn't begin to express my gratitude. I don't have very much free time right now & recognize my response won't be as detailed as I need to share. To say I feel crushed is an understatement. The things I get 'blamed' for are beyond ridiculous. They make no logical sense at all. However, the depth of despair has hit a new low. Please, understand that I need to...
    >>> on Forum topic - Will I Survive This?

  • by: AdeleS6845 - 3 months 3 days ago
    Hugs.  :(
    >>> on Forum topic - What do you do when you can't rely on your spouse?

  • by: Gayle - 3 months 4 days ago
    What do I do when I can't rely on spouse you ask.  Do it myself  give him deadlines  ignore and focus on my needs give up
    >>> on Forum topic - What do you do when you can't rely on your spouse?

  • by: Gayle - 3 months 4 days ago
    No he is not. I've given him tools suggestions counselor names coaching ideas been his personal organizer. He doesn't follow thru. Can't manage two lives. 
    >>> on Forum topic - What do you do when you can't rely on your spouse?

  • by: SamBamiteko_ - 3 months 4 days ago
    Is he treated 
    >>> on Forum topic - What do you do when you can't rely on your spouse?

  • by: Gayle - 3 months 4 days ago
    I'm fed up and want out of my marriage
    >>> on Forum topic - What do you do when you can't rely on your spouse?

  • by: Neuchatel81 - 3 months 4 days ago
    I had a phone conference with the attorney yesterday. Bottom line is I am responsible for all debts incurred in the marriage. Only option to get my name off Equity Line is to have husband get a new mortgage in his name only, closing out current Equity Line, with using house as collateral. Husband would be responsible for paying new mortgage with his business funds (since all of the debt is business related), but just the house would be encumbered. If he does not pay the mortgage, then the house would be at...
    >>> on Forum topic - What to do?!?!?

  • by: SamBamiteko_ - 3 months 5 days ago
    is he treated what are the things you have trouble with his adhd 
    >>> on Forum topic - Will I Survive This?

  • by: 1Melody1 - 3 months 5 days ago
    I recently left my ADHD spouse of 20 years and I know exactly what you're going through. Please don't feel bad for believing him. I did that too. We see the best in people and we WANT the marriage to work out so badly. I'm sorry you were out at one time and perhaps want to be out again. Maybe there is more going on than just ADHD if he is a therapist. He may be skilled in using words to keep you hoping or keep you doubting yourself. That would add an extra layer. I would recommend that you believe that...
    >>> on Forum topic - Will I Survive This?

  • by: Geir - 3 months 6 days ago
    Good tips for the non-ADHD partner. Any tips for the ADHD partner?
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  • by: AdeleS6845 - 3 months 1 week ago
    Deleted 
    >>> on Blog entry - Feeling Ignored - The Non-ADHD Spouse Dilemna

  • by: eet5030 - 3 months 1 week ago
    You are not alone! I understand what you are feeling. Please know that there are others out there and we can all battle this together. Please contact your doctor if you're having suicidal thoughts. There is always a way through it!
    >>> on Blog entry - Feeling Ignored - The Non-ADHD Spouse Dilemna

  • by: SamBamiteko_ - 3 months 1 week ago
    im sorry about that 
    >>> on Forum topic - His perception is inaccurate and he accuses me of feeling ways I don't

  • by: jenna-ADD - 3 months 1 week ago
    For the person who was curious and wanted an update to my original story:  I found out about three months after the post, that he had impregnated someone else. After all my bending over backwards trying to understand and accommodate his ADHD, that's how it all ended. I did hurt for years afterward, but in the immediate aftermath, i cut off all ties and blocked him on everything. Cold turkey. It hurt like hell, but I just felt like this was the best course of action. (Then I had forgotten to block his dad...
    >>> on Forum topic - His perception is inaccurate and he accuses me of feeling ways I don't

  • by: c ur self - 3 months 1 week ago
    I'm efficient and responsible (first) a worker, my wife is the good time fun girl (first, and most all the time, lol), the typical thrill seeker, w/ high level add (Thinks a lot like a spoiled child, and wants her way). But, I also love my wife, love to show it, and am very male :)....So when boundaries had to become a way of life for me to help put an end to all the dysfunction and conflict, she turned to using her vagina as a bargaining tool to get her way...She would say things like, "You can forget...
    >>> on Forum topic - What is a boundary?

  • by: MATTHD - 3 months 1 week ago
    Great post. agreed.  what do you mean she used sex to manipulate you? And how did you put an end to it? 
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  • by: Mizeeyore - 3 months 1 week ago
    And this is exactly why I give up.  I cannot and will not be heard, but he's entitled to say whatever he wants and I am expected and required to understand him, and return a smile, no matter what. I admire dogs for their limitless patience and loyalty, but I'm not going to be able to maintain it.  That's why dogs have short lifespans. But trying to say this to be understood  is pointless too. If setting an appointment for togetherness works for people in this situation, then it's a choice that he's able...
    >>> on Forum topic - Distracted and taking it personally

  • by: c ur self - 3 months 1 week ago
    My boundaries aren't mutual....They are set by me, on me....When you separate finance's....That ends it!.....He can't touch anything that is your's...Nor you his....But, I understand completely if you feel he will bully you into giving in to his irresponsible financial habits, if you are present....Some times separating is the only way.... c
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