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  • by: I'm So Exhausted - 45 min 52 sec ago
    J, I know when I see that glimmer of hope of understanding in my spouse's eyes, it causes my heart to try to flood back, full force.  It wants to, but wisdom prevails.  This has been a difficult journey.  I am not so naive, not so quick to base everything on words spoken, rather waiting to see that actions support those words.     I respond to things in my own environment.  I understand what is happening when I see my spouse's anxiety level rise.  I now clearly understand that my previous attempts to...
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  • by: JJamieson - 1 hour 26 min ago
    I did that too!  Double the fun for my mom!  It got the point that my Mom just let me go later since she knew where I was....in the toy section!  She could count on it...like clock work. Another funny story about that one.  When was it?....1962 or 3?  The World Fair in Seattle (Space Needle)...our family visited Seattle to go see the World Fair together.  And I proceeded to take off on my own immediately! ( I remember this one too )...I was 5 ?  My father held my mother back from going to catch me....and...
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  • by: JJamieson - 1 hour 50 min ago
    Which comes first....the chicken or the egg?  This does seem to be the universal paradox?   J
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  • by: c ur self - 3 hours 55 min ago
    Your comment reminded me of Bill Wilson (Metro World Child)...His Mother left him on a street corner when he was 12 and told him she would be right back...Three days later a man picked him up and feed him...No one wanted him; so he prayed and told God...No one wants me, if you want me here I am? God did:)... C
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  • by: JJamieson - 4 hours 12 min ago
    touche'  Faith is not about believing others....it's about believing in yourself:) J
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  • by: JJamieson - 4 hours 18 min ago
    I wanted to write to you with some feedback from the couples course that my wife and I participated in, and share something that really stuck with me that seemed to rise to the surface once I had a chance to sit with everything for a while.  One sound bite that stayed with me and has continued to help me in some difficult moments was what you said here in this very post.  Since you brought it up....I thought I might share it with everyone else as well.  I hope that isn't being too presumptuous of me? The...
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  • by: c ur self - 4 hours 42 min ago
    The path is always Illuminated ( the Holy Spirit will lead you into all truth) I may not have the faith to follow it, but, the provision is there:) C
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  • by: c ur self - 4 hours 46 min ago
    Zapp 10 I doubt there are any here who can't identify w/ you...I know I can, all to well....One thing that I read in the bible a while back that has been a wonderful reminder for me is the words of King David in Psalms 62...specifically verse 5...My soul, wait thou only upon God; for my expectation is from him....To long in my own neediness and weakness, I placed expectations on my spouse that I would justify based on my view of life...All I got from it was this frustration you speak about, along w/ anger...
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  • by: JJamieson - 6 hours 37 min ago
    My whole family is in denial.....that's the point.  To this day....I cannot talk about these things with my sisters. I tried once....and my middle sister broke down in tears and my oldest sister started to rationalize in defense of being just the way they are even though....my oldest sister is pretty sharp.  She thinks about things deeply and in part....has come to accept certain things but just not others.  For example....later....she admitted that she looked up "introversion" and agreed.....she's an...
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  • by: JJamieson - 6 hours 42 min ago
    I mentioned "misinterpretation of the word" earlier.  What you said makes perfect sense.  Any time your following the "word" as explained to you....and it's not working or something is wrong.....what's wrong with that picture?.....the "word" or the person who told you the wrong interpretation?   J
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  • by: Zapp10 - 7 hours 37 min ago
    My belief too, c. I think I was saying about the "2 in 1" in frustration to vent when I knew all along. My H's faith is at the top of his list, as it is mine....which is why I have been so conflicted with myself in my own behavior and understanding. Ah....the knowing versus doing.....kind of what I am expecting from H isn't it? Sometimes I think I am pulling the childish " you go first" crap....shame on me.  We continue to navigate this "addition" to our path and hopefully someday we will just "stumble"...
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  • by: Zapp10 - 7 hours 53 min ago
    It is hard enough to understand the "workings" of ADD for the "nons".....am I really surprised that those WITH this find it "difficult?" My H loves adventure.....wish he could see it this way:) I do honestly believe that because he can see that his own father(had) and brother(has) it he is comparing their behavior to himself. They, to me, represent the extreme of ADD. There is no use in even trying to have a conversation with either of them unless you can be happy talking about them ALL the time. They...
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  • by: JJamieson - 8 hours 40 min ago
    You caught yourself right here..."Oh for crying out loud ...there I go...I am losing my "positive" mojo....my apologies." No apologies needed.  You're doing it...and you just did it here!  Awsonium!:) And yes....I can sleep at the drop of a hat...or at least....I did up until I was in my late forties.  This was before medication and diagnosis. You mentioned one big difference between your H's mom and my mom.  I absolutely believe at this time.....it was my mother who had ADD and that's where I got it. ...
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  • by: c ur self - 16 hours 56 min ago
    ( I find the statement" the 2 shall become 1" very interesting and telling. Is this a multiple choice ?  Which of the 2 are the 1 going to be? His way? her way? Mutual agreement? Mutual respect and compromise? and  yes, love. While definitions are universal, individuality is not....and how people perceive things......holy cow? THAT is NOT what I said! How did you GET THAT from what I said?) God said it, and it's recorded in Genesis, and repeated in the new testament in Matthew, Mark and Ephesians...But,...
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  • by: Zapp10 - 18 hours 57 min ago
    I agree totally about manifesting differently.There have been ones  who describe their H's response to things and I don't see THAT in my H BUT a completely different way that causes issues.  As far as his moms reasoning.....I'm not so sure.....She had a very sad way of viewing life. She was and still is afraid of it. She believes that if someone is nice to anyone they are out to get something. And she believed that most kids are causing trouble out there including hers.She has no self esteem and she made...
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  • by: Delphine - 19 hours 14 min ago
    "Another one....my mother told me that taking me to the store was a real chore for her when I was really little.  She said she needed to walk down the middle of the isle and keep a wide margin of room between me and anything I get reach because as soon as I could....I would pull everything off the shelves or cause a chain reaction of items to cascade onto the floor.  Apparently....this happened quite often as I was told. lol" My issue with taking my son to the store when he was young (or out places in...
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  • by: JJamieson - 21 hours 11 min ago
    it is for me to do what I just told you to do!!!  That needing to be heard and holding my thoughts until next time.  Hoooeeeeyyy!  It takes an act of God for me to do that but....I found it was the only way.  Most of those attempts I was talking about....was me failing to do so! lol But I found....that my wife finally admitted to me....she wasn't really listening in the first place.  Once I hit her comfort zone edge....it was all down hill from there.  Once she jumped the tracks and started moving in...
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  • by: I'm So Exhausted - 22 hours 55 min ago
    J, How I am sorting this all through: it turned south and then it got derailed and went down hill....both of you not just him? I can speak for my part - I think I got a bit excited - too excited - and jumped the gun. Until I found out where that turning point was and was willing to stop and walk away . . . . you can do even if your H does nothing different.  I think this what I tried to accomplish . . however, it was not until I increased the speed at which the conversation was going.  I saw an...
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  • by: JJamieson - 23 hours 2 min ago
    I think no matter what....ADHD is there in some way.  How each person responds to it...is different even under the same circumstances.  I think the feeling of being held back or restrained is a real part of ADHD.  Part of what you said about how your H saw this....was the same for me too.  What I did about it....and what he did about it.....seem to be different.  That's what I've found to be true especially after coming here to this forum and going..."that doesn't sound like me?"  But once I thought about...
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  • by: Island-Girl23 - 1 day 9 min ago
    Thanks so much for following my threads. I'm sorry that it's been some time since I've posted here.I am working on part three now and hope to have it up soon. c:
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