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As you know I moved out of the house several months ago.  We are still married and have joint property.   One of the things I've been trying to do is to get my husband to either remember to put money into his old account to pay for the automatic withdrawals for his insurance or change the payment withdrawals to his new account.  I check and more than half the time since I've been gone, I've had to put money in the old account because he hasn't done it.   I went so far as to send him the paperwork to change the payment plan.   I even offered to help him fill it out.   I have not ever asked t

If you've read some of my other posts here, you know I am at my wit's end and that I feel divorce is inevitable. At this point, I am waiting to get some ducks in a row, which could take months or could take a few years.

Hi, all,

I would love to hear from some of you who also have (or their spouse also has) Central Auditory Processing Disorder in addition to the ADHD.  Both of my sons have been diagnosed with ADD/ADHD as well as my husband.  One of my sons was also diagnosed with Central Auditory Processing Disorder in addition to the ADHD.  It was very obvious to me that my son had it because in addition to having to repeat things sometimes, I would have to re-explain and/or re-word things.  And, not only that, sometimes when things are inferred or implied he misunderstands the meaning or intention of what is being

The following was part of today's Weekly Marriage Tips email, from ADHD & Marriage:

"I remember my own years of saying ‘no.’  I felt confined.  I felt like the ‘bad guy’ in the family.  My kids even joked about ‘mean mom coming out of the glove compartment’ one day in the car when I was particularly cranky.

You don’t have to say ‘yes’ all the time, as Rhimes did for her book experiment.  But what would happen if you said ‘yes’ 50% more?

Hello!

I can't believe I'm sitting here writing this on NYE but after a very difficult festive period with my partner, I'm really needing some support and advice from others who know what it's like!

I have been with my partner for 3 years now. We live together and have for quite some time now been clear that we want to build a life together and make further deeper commitments such as buying a place together, getting married and hopefully having children.

Our kids have adhd. My H has adhd. I’m fighting for health in this family. The wheels came off everything, and in looking for help from professionals, we realized our kids have adhd, which led to the realization my H did, too.  Cliche story, right?

I’ve been doing so much to try to give my kids a better life than what my H has lived. Therapists, psychiatrists, meds, good diet, supplements, exercise, charts, routine, etc. But sometimes it feels like it will never ever be enough and between my H and my kids, I feel like I’ve been through the ringer.  

I know it's an unusual forum topic but it's not really about the butter. We leave our butter on the counter and it tends to get too hard to spread. A quick pop on the microwave and it softens. My DH totally melts it every time. I know this seems petty but what the neck I don't care to try and spread melted butter. Why does he not see and remember that it only takes 6 seconds to soften it not one minute. And it's not really about the butter but about my need to be considered as to what I like and his denial in not being able to soften butter without a making a melted mess.

Excuse me while I blather here

I've noticed that since I've moved out of the house, some of my anxiety over chaos in day to day living is disappearing.  I'm smiling more and sleeping better.

Last week my husband texted me wondering if we had any plans for Friday (we celebrate Yule)  I texted back no.  And that's the truth.   I was kind of wondering (and hoping) maybe he would invite all of us to the house for Yule but I haven't heard from him since.  I even got him a lovely little gift that would make him smile.

I just saw this posted on Facebook.

The most important lesson I've learned over this past year is don't let anyone make you cruel. No matter how badly you want to give the world a taste of its own bitter medicine, it's never worth losing yourself.

I also know the wisdom of "You teach the world how to treat you."