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The myth of the "hidden disability"

I have been reading a bit lately about ADHD and this idea of how it is hidden compared to a person with some more obvious disability. I find the comparison to a blind person to be particularly amusing and misplaced because ...

After running into a couple walls a blind person would no longer deny the problem.

In my experience that is simply untrue of an ADHD person. Instead, the ADHD person rationalizes their predicament by claiming they are not running into the same walls so that is somehow different.

Is this ADHD or just quick to anger issue?

Sunday afternoon H was making soup. He was in a great mood. He had cooked down a pork roast in a pan and then put it in the pot with some stock. He then went and took a shower because we were expecting guests. Well I see dirty dishes in the sink and put them in the dishwasher. I see the pan he used to cook the roast sitting on the stove so I wash that too. Big mistake! He comes out of the shower and sees that I washed the pan and gets mad saying "WHY did you wash the pan? I use that to cook the vegetables because it gives them a good flavor. You did this last time too!

Welbutrin

Does anyone have experience with this medication?

My husband's primary care physician diagnosed depression and "borderline ADHD" and gave him the lowest dose of Welbutrin.  His pyschologist held onto the ADHD diagnosis (he attended 6 sessions)

He did not attend his final appointment with the psychiatrist for final testing and diagnosis.  When I look back on the past, I see something besides ADHD.  However, I'm not going to make an armchair diagnosis.  I'll just say that I think there is a reason that Welbutrin worked so well for him - increased focus and leveled moods.  

Adult ADHD affecting their own child's development

With or without treatment, at what point do the behaviors modeled by a parent, with ADHD, negatively impact the development of their own kids? What is best for the child? Divorce with co-parenting or staying together and risk the exposure of learned helplessness?

The "All One" Miricle Space.........6th Demension of God

My search for an explanation of what happened to me on that fateful day when I took the accidental "Big Dose" of LSD is over....and finally figured it out.  When I first came here and started writing....I had no idea what I was doing but as anyone who has read anything I have written....you may have recalled when I was jumping all over the place and not really following along very well....that I said  "I had a feeling"  and I was just following it but I really couldn't explain what that was?

how do you tell your ADHD spouse that you cant take it anymore?

the anger, frustration, resentment, exhaustion, anxiety is growing in me

i have to tell my husband how i feel and how the adhd affects me and the marriage

but he is short tempered, overly emotional, and always flip it to make it about me

also, it's so sad and i dont want to hurt him but i just cant take it anymore

i cant see myself being married like this forever

i love him, i love him deeply... but that isnt enough

my needs in this marriage are not being met

i am growing more and more anxious and angry by the day

Communication breakdown: 10-months relationship and I am completely lost on my ADHD partner

Hi everyone,

my boyfriend and I’ve been dating since March and we were uber happy and in love during the first 3 months. I felt like the center of his universe and, even though it was a long distance relationship pretty much  from the beginning, we managed to get to know each other quite well thanks to Skype, Messenger and all kinds of other tools.

I'm not sure I'm doing this boundaries thing right.

I am trying so hard to set boundaries and it's not working and he is just being resentful. About 3 years ago I quit doing everything for him. He was offered a promotion but had to move across the country for it. And that's pretty much all he told me. I knew from past experiences that the next steps were for me to ask him questions about the details, make a plan, assign tasks, stay on him to complete the tasks, then scramble to fix whatever crisis arose because he didn't do what he was supposed to do. So I refused. I told him to come up with what he was going to do and I would let him know.

Birthday Disapointment

Just had yet another birthday for which my ADHD husband did not prepare. The last minute card and chocolates from the local drug store are hurtful. Didn't even remember to wish me a happy birthday. How am I not supposed to translate this as not caring? Try not to build up my hopes at times of birthdays, anniversaries, valentines etc. And remember that planning is difficult for him but ADHd is an explanation not an excuse. When we discuss things he says he cares but how am I supposed to believe this?

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