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Hi all, I’ve been going through the process of a breakup. My partner broke up with me six months ago, but as of two months ago he started reaching out  and we would meet up from time to time. We had agreed to be friends but that got muddied by lingering feelings although nothing physical happened. I was confused about the breakup and he essentially told me that my adhd symptoms were just too much. I can see he loves me but seems unwilling to work with me. I guess I just need some advice on the possibility of reconciliation.

My wife and I are trying to find a good Dr. to give a more complete diagnosis including spouse input. We're in the Catskills region of NY and would like to find someone that is local and takes insurance. Anyone have related experience or recommendations?

This is more of a general question than an experience. I'm curious if couples that have ADHD on both ends (both spouses) actually live more harmoniously in certain situations. I can imagine it could be a train wreck for some people but more curious for two adults that are further along in life (maybe that already have kids, a stable job, and live single on their own). I was thinking about this because mostly I see couples where it's always one-sided. A family friend met a woman recently who's also been diagnosed and he and I were talking about potential bliss or major red flags.

Hi, its my first time here and I wish I knew about this community sooner as I might have been able to get support and not feel so alone about my 16 year marriage issues. I'm a 41year old male with ADHD diagnosed twice now. 

I read the ADHD and Marriage Six Steps book 6 months ago and it opened my eyes to a lot of the effects of ADHD and my life. Almost every story/anecdote felt like I could have been the one to write it from my experience. There is several things that Im still struggling with that just isn't talked about.

Hi everyone i would like to just discuss what im currently going through and just wanted to see if I could get help.

Hello,

I’m looking for some advice please regarding my partner who has ADHD. We have been together for 4 years and moved in together 1 year ago, in that one year she must have shouted at me to leave calling me all the names under the sun, and how I’m so useless, a bad boyfriend etc. At least 4-5 times I packed my things and left. A few days to a week later she messages and calms down and we work it out and I go back, I know myself this isn’t right I shouldn’t go back, but it’s difficult when you love someone.

A quick ADHD tips and tricks post, something that came to my awareness that I thought was worth mentioning.

It occurred to yesterday, that there's something I learned to do a very long time ago ( intuitively ) or otherwise, that I started doing as a way to get things done. The reason I just now rediscovered this trick I do, because it's been ingrained into my "being" for so long ( long before I was ever diagnosed ) that it's something..."I just do". 

I just need to admit this and deal with it. I saw signs of him "resigning himself" nearly 20 years ago and failed or refused to see those signs as red flags. In these past two decades, it has slowly, progressively gotten worse. Whenever I brought up ADD, he'd fly off the handle.

Have been trying online dating for a few days. Out of hundreds of men’s profiles I’ve found only one person attractive. He contacted me full of enthusiasm. 

Then we’ve tried to arrange a first date. Yesterday I drove 15 miles to a place and time he’d suggested, just to find he’d cancelled on 1,5 hour’s notice because he was ’caught up in a neighboring town’ and wouldn’t make it. 

Today he wanted to see me but we were both busy during the day. When I suggested 8 pm in his neighborhood he answered it was too late for him. 

Before I say another word. I want to express wholeheartedly that I come to this forum to share my deepest and most intimate thoughts because I know, there are poeple here I can trust.  Having said that, I'm going to to say a few things that might not be well received by everyone, especially those with string religious ( Chriatian in particular ) conviction. What I'm about to say, is approximately 63 years coming to my best recollection....age 5. 

What I'm doing now, is making a list of people who no longer get access to me. These people are off my list.