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"He who cares the least wins."  I think of this quote quite often in my own relationship with H. He seems to need his independence and control and "self" more than he needs a relationship with his marriage and wife. That seems to be the mode of the day ..... boundaries and self-hood and self-pampering.   I DO feel needy often.  I WANT to care and have connection.  Does that make me co-dependent?  Or does the fact that our needs are not being met mean that our needs are not being met?  Does our society believe that caring more is linked to desperation? 

I feel so beaten down today.  Today I could walk out my front door and never look back.  Everything is a project.  Nothing is smooth or easy.  I have gained 25+ pounds for a grand total weight of 170 pounds.  That is in the last year.  Oldest son, turning 17 tomorrow, OD'd in January and got out of rehab in late February.  He has been clean for 138 days.  Youngest son, 14-freshman, has Asperger's and is doing terribly in school.  We had a family session with me, DH and oldest son today as part of his recovery.

im not married, but my partner and I have been together for just over 3 years. I am 20 and he is 22. We have been living together for a year and we are expecting our first child in October. He was diagnosed with ADHD very early in life and was on medication for it until high school, but is no longer on it. I'm struggling to find a way to deal with and put an end to his pattern of lying. He has never cheated on me (that I know or) but he will lie about EVERYTHING, even if there is no reason to lie. Sometimes it's flat out lying to my face, other times it's lying by omission.

My divorce was finalized this morning. I still like my former husband. But I have no regrets about no longer being married to him. I'll always be an anxious person but now I won't have the concealed dangers resulting from his and his family's dishonesty and denial weighing me down.

Perhaps this forum is a safe place to stow some baggage...as we try to move on...

I just had an epiphany of sorts...not that this is anything knew...but coming to a speculation I've had for years in an understanding of it better.  The epiphany...is within this possible new understanding.

I remembered something, that was passed along to me from a friend who was an athlete and competitor, as a means to focus during a sporting event to perform at your best and not let you mind get the better of you and "play tricks one you".

Anyone Here, familiar with the posted relational wariness of ADH9er & I'm so exhausted, willing to offer their impartial, outside-looking-in observation of our dizzying flatlining cycle ?  (Your honesty and 'shorter winded-ness' would be much appreciated by the guy asking the question) Thanks

I'm so overwhelmed I don't know where to begin. My husband and I have been married for 3 years in July. When we first started dating, he was only concerned about himself and didn't give any thought or consideration to me or to his kids. From day 1 I became the caretaker to his children taking them to school and back since I had a car. Giving baths, doing homework etc. on top of taking care of my own priorities and job (he didn't work when we met).

I'm,not sure if this man's name has been brought up before, but I've been watching many  videos on YouTube, that are truly some of the most informative and engaging videos I've EVER seen on the subject of AdHD. He is knowledgeable and seems to  understand just about everything there is to know about ADHD and co-morbidity. He is Dr. RUSSELL BARKLEY, and he has many videos available.

      There is one especially good on "The importance of emotion in ADHD. I hope you guys check them out, and let me know what you think.

Dede