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I am a 41 year old female married for 19 years, i have not been diagnosed officially, and my husband has been committing financial and emotional abuse the entire time, and deception takes two. I can tell you the whole story from my slanted view, but i really need help with what he just did yesterday.

My husband of 26 years was recently diagnosed with ADHD. My threat of divorce finally moved him to seek help for his many issues. And, although we now have a "label" for his behavior, the diagnosis does nothing to alleviate the many years of anger and resentment that have accumulated in my heart towards him.

I love my husband, but I don't know what to do with the anger he has elicited. And that is difficult to deal with.

I'm sure other ADHD spouses have confronted the same issue and wonder how they overcame this gigatic marital hurdle.

 

 

 

So like many non-ADHD spouses on this forum, I struggle with acceptance.  My counselor and I have been working on this a LOT--how to accept my ADHD DH for who he is-period.  Not who I wish he would be-after all, he has been this way for the entire 20 years of our marriage, so why is it bothering me so much now?

My whole relationship with my ADHD spouse can be explained with one word...tired. In fact, that is the one word he knows from me time and time again. He is going to be 35 in July, and we have been together off and on for nine years. I will be honest I have dissociative identity disorder, and the switches can be terrifying and unsettling. My own mental health is often unstable, and I feel guilty. My husband often claims he is abused, unloved, mistreated, and he doesn't deserve this to happen to him.

Hello - I am new to this forum and very grateful that it exists !   Brief as possible, my story:  I am 59 married to a 61 year old man for about 3 years together 7 years.  About a year after I inherited some money, my husband just stopped working.  He works freelance from home, and he just stopped.  Since then we have gone through much of my inherited money (I bought us a house and furnished it) because he has NO income.  On top of this I discovered that he had lied to me about his finances before we married,as I asked for full financial disclosure.

I realized today what the overwhelming feeling I had living with my ADD ex was...pessimism.

I felt like all the dreams and goals I had before we met, were no longer attainable, nor obtainable.

I felt like the lifestyle I lived when I was single, was now entirely compromised.

Things like nice vacations, saving for retirement, home improvement projects, etc., all GONE with him.

Community members, I'm looking for hope and inspiration for my non adhd wife and my marriage's sake....does anyone have sucess stories about coming back from a marriage that's on the brink of collapsing? what worked? what helped? I don't believe my wife understands ADHD. It is somewhat complocated because its paired with my bipolar 2 disorder. This combination might be specific but any advice and the coping with these comorbid conditions, singular (ADHD or bipolar or both) would be very help full. Thank you in advance.

Not for here pity or self-indulgent sentiment, just trying to understand and learn because currently I'm at a loss because all of this is foreign to me.

I have so much to say here, but not sure where to start!  All I know is that this is my husband:  https://www.lifehack.org/articles/lifestyle/20-things-remember-you-love-person-with-add.html.  He has 90% of these traits!!