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Here is a difference between an ADDer who is trying and and ADDer who is not trying:

"There’s a difference between someone who treats you like a priority and someone who treats you as an option."

Someone who cares about you communicates honestly and sincerely even though he makes mistakes.  We all need to come clean about our mistakes.

Im the one with ADHD in the relationship. Or the one that has been diagnosed anyway. Im writing here because I have nowhere else to turn without being judged. I'm tired of wanting to say something and not doing it out of fear of starting an argument. If there is one thing I just cannot handle in this world, its my loved ones not speaking to me and being angry at me. For example tonight my bf gets home from work and asks me what I did today.

My partner of almost 18 years now, is chomping at the bit to leave. He wanted to leave then agreed to stay to help support our daughter then changed his mind again. Now, when our lease is up soon, he will be off. He 100% has ADHD but was only unofficially diagnosed when our daughter was officially diagnosed. It was recommended that he go through the diagnostic process himself to make it official but he never did and has remained in denial ever since. He reckons he's fine and it's everyone else that has the problems.

I ran across this website by Lynne Forrest the other day and when I read her descriptions of this psych- model it really was enlightening. ( I had one of those "Holy Shit!" this is good stuff moments )  I'm not endorsing anyone here or trying to make recommendations to anyone.....or assuming that this will be helpful or not for anyone else. (I found the sight randomly when I was searching for some things I was curious about)....but what I got out of it really helped answer a lot of questions ( or understand better?

Hi everyone.  So...here I am:  trying to sit, stop prolonging... and write this post (again).  Last night.  When I found this site..I thought:  Wow!  The story of my life and found momentary comfort-being understood.  It soon was followed with fear and anxiety; and a world of questions or moreso:  guidence at this point.  Oh yeah...sorry..so I wrote and replied to a post that hit me expecially hard.  And somehow, right when I got done with a surprisingly long response, I deleted or lost it all.  Sigh...REALLY!?

I couldn't take it any longer, and my 11 & 12 year old sons begged me to give in and let dad have a divorce, so I agreed to a divorce.  H hasn't moved out yet, so the fighting has escalated exponentially, and things are really bad.  He's medicating now, and in therapy for the first time.  He says the medication is a miracle, and likes the counseling but cut me out of it right away, hence another reason for my agreeing to the divorce, I told him if he cut me out it was over.  But now he's taken to saying that the reason he's been threatening me with a divorce for 23 years is because I've

I have noticed that a few of the new posters have mentioned that their relationships (even long relationships that seemed to be fine) started to get frustrating around the time a child or children were born.  This has been my experience exactly and I am currently grieving for the nuclear family we will never be.  The unpredictability, extra work, organization,etc. that come with having children has pushed my husband's coping skills to the brink which has in turn pushed our marriage to the brink.

Hi! Im a psychology student and there is a boy that i like for three monhts. He is studying psychology too in the same university. He told me he has got adhd when our first date. I didnt know the effects of adhd in relationships. We were fighting a lot and we were so tired of it. So i decided to not to talk anymore and we broke up. But two days later i learned the effects of adhd in relationships. I searched and read the books, forums etc. After i changed my point of view for him I wanted to talk and explain to him this situation.

My next door neighbor has an ADHD son, and from watching how his parents "parent" him, they don't seem to know anything about ADHD. The poor little guy (he's 7 now) gets belted all the time, gets punished every single day, gets yelled at every day, and his younger sister is obviously the "favorite" of the two of them. It's very sad to watch, and I feel SO BAD for this kid. Are there any good books for parenting children with ADHD that I could give them?