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Hi. Hope you guys done mind. I'm not married to him yet. Still dating. A year and a half today actually. I found this site by googling issues we've been having. When he was younger he was diagnosed with ADD and put on meds for a few years, saw a therapist and when he got about 15/16 and dropped out of school. He stopped both. 

Hi everyone.  I have a spouse who has ADHD.  He went out drinking with his friends and came home very drunk at 3:40am, after having blacked out.  I was upset because when he drinks he can be very nice, but also can be very sharp with me, or he shows poor boundaries even if I am present.   Normally he wont go out, but twice in the last month, he has been a jerk when he was drinking, and this latest night really got to me.  The guys went to a meat market, he couldnt even walk when he got home, and when I tried to talk to him about it the next day, it was my problem.

I am new to all of this.  I am in a relationship with a woman who has ADHD. I never really had a clue what that meant.  We are talking about marriage. From reading this forum I see that certain issues seem to be constant.  Such as infidelity, lying, anger and communication. I want to see if we can make it.  What are some good strategies? I saw one post about having the right mindset, What else can I do to understand her needs?  She really means a lot to me and at the end of the day I need to know I am doing all I can for her and us.  

Hi everyone!  I am new to the site but very familiar with ADHD and the effect it can have on a marriage and partnership as my husband has ADHD.  I will preface this by saying I adore my husband.  Melissa's book helped me a TON to understand why he acts the way he does and says the things he says.  I feel like I am probably one of the only people who understand him...his parents don't even get him.  However, he is brilliant, funny, smart and I love his spontaneity (even though it can drive me crazy too!)

I've just joined this forum, seeking a bit of advice I guess, having just ended a relationship with a man I love. The relationship has only lasted ten months - we've both been married before, and when we met it was just the most incredible joy I've ever experienced. He delighted me - and that's not a phrase I ever would have thought about using to describe a grown man before :) Everything seemed to line up perfectly - our values and lifestyles and dreams were so similar, our kids similar ages. We'd hardly sleep because we had so much to say to each other.

I'm in a bit of a bind here. I got into a fight with my boyfriend earlier this evening and I need to know why ADHD affects relationships. Speedy answers will be greatly appreciated!! Thanks! :-)

My husband and I live apart; he lives with and takes care of his aging parents.  He almost never calls me or responds to emails.  (E.g., in the past 10 weeks, he has called 2 times, I think.)

After our older daughter said she wouldn't be able to come home for Christmas, I said that I'd try to get some family members out to visit her in December.  Other daughter originally was interested but then decided she didn't have sufficient time, with school obligations.  I mentioned to my husband a few weeks ago that a trip was a possibility. 

Hello. 

Any advice welcomed on what to do when my husband is blaming his ADHD for something that is just really shitty behaviour?

I am so incredibly frustrated and don't know what to do, so am looking for advice.  

I am the non-ADHD spouse.  I know my ADHD husband needs me to constantly give him praise and I go out of my way every single day to make sure I do that.  If he actually finishes a project around the house, I go above and beyond praise.  I will literally take pictures of it, email my mother, show him her response about how nice it looks.  I will bring it up for days about how I'm so glad he did it, how it looks great, how I'm proud of him, etc etc.  

My ADHD husband goes away for a few weeks every autumn for some R&R, visiting his friends, chill-out time etc. It is virtually the only time I get to stay home alone and I relish the fact that I can adopt a regular routine and live calmly. For the last few years, hubby has returned in a worse state mentally than before he left.