I am the non-ADHD partner, a 35 year old male. My wife is 34, and suffers from not only ADHD, but BPD, OCD, PTSD, and generalized Anxiety. It's an interesting combination.
We followed the standard formula - meet, have an amazing dating life, amazing sex life, quickly get married, and three months later, wind up pregnant with our first daughter (now 2).
Hello!
I just picked up my first prescription for stimulant ADHD, Metadate, and am optimistic.
Online, most of what I read focuses on side effects. I am well-aware of these, and am now interested in hearing from those with experience in stimulant meds some of your positive experiences.
On successful prescriptions:
How long until it kicks in? Will there be some instant lucidity, or does it come slowly as we repeat doses? What does a positive result feel like?
Thanks!
I got myself to a place of some contentment and peace a few weeks back. Now I am floundering, and I am not really sure why.
"The problem isn’t that you don’t know what’s going on; it’s that you’ve had trouble sorting it all out."
Kirshenbaum, Mira (1997-07-01). Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: A Step-by-Step Guide to Help You Decide Whether to Stay In or Get Out of Your Relationship (p. 6). Plume. Kindle Edition.
I don't even ask H to run any errands for me, even if he is in the same vicinity of one I need to run. He is always asking me to stop by somewhere on my way home and pick something up for him. A few years ago when I worked form home and we only had one vehicle, I would often drop him off and pick him up if I needed the car. Well one morning I took him in, ran a few errands and got home and within 15 minutes he calls and says he forgot his iPod at home and asks if I would mind bringing it to him.
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Greetings all!
First time on here… in fact, new to realizing I have ADHD.
At 43 years old, I seem at first rather successful in life – good career, winning competitor in several (and strangely unrelated) disciplines, lots of wonderful friends, community/charity involvement, beautiful wife and children, big house etc.
Sounds great, right? Well for example…
Oiy. Holding the responsibility for holding the financial bag has got to end. Somehow. Wisely. With out stupidity on my part. But with a firmly laid out plan THAT I WILL FOLLOW TO EXTRICATE MYSELF FROM THIS BONDAGE.
My spouse just called from Wal-Mart. He had gotten an RCA tablet for his birthday last month. As a gift. About $150.00. A few days ago the power switch stopped working. I called RCA. They will replace it if we pay the shipping to return it. So, we thought we would first try taking it back to Wal-Mart.
I have a reached a tipping point in my relationship and I fear that unless some changes happen, and happen soon, that my marriage will soon be over.
Some quick background info:
My husband and I have been married for 9 years (together for 10). When we met I was a divorced mom with 2 boys - ages 4 and 6. My husband-to-be was a batchelor.
How many times because of either denial, unconcern, inability to hear (no matter the reason) have words destroyed peaceful moments for you? I have come to realize my trouble is me in every instance...First, to share with words, someone has to care to listen, and do it...How many times have I tried to press into a closed mind with words that wasn't desired, nor under no circumstances going to be heard, yet I continued. Too many!...How many times have I not wanted or wasn't able to receive truth about myself because I was blind to it?
My husband gets impatient and tense over, omg, an endless numbers of things. He is sort of Jekyll and Hyde bc he's not a mean guy - he is sweet and caring and tries to do his best with me - but just, like there are frequent circumstances where he is tense/tired/hungry/trying to focus and can't, etc., where he has a very very short fuse.
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