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First off, I have to make a confession that I honestly had no idea the depth and effect that ADD/ADHD can have on a relationship when I began dating my wife.  Sure, I knew people who were "ADHD" growing up, and even a few as adults, but for the most part they seemed happy, adjusted, and vivacious individuals who were also succeeding at their jobs or careers.  

2. NOT BEING ABLE TO SHUT UP IN PUBLIC

There are many aspects of ADHD that I think can be managed, tolerated and worked-around. I have yet to have the privelage of going through Melissa's counseling sessions (financially strapped). Until then, here are a few out of the MANY issues I deal with with my ADHD spouse that I am looking for a workaround for. Anyone, including Melissa, found a solution to any of these?

My Husband was just diagnosed about 2 months ago with ADHD (the combined type). We have been married 2 1/2 years and together for almost 4 years. I just don't feel like we have a relationship anymore and I'm not sure we ever really did since we rushed too much in moving in together and we got married after only knowing each other 1 year and a half. I feel too much like we're just room-mates who rarely talk to each other. I'm really tired of feeling like I'm the only one who ever makes the decisions and initiates sex or conversations.

I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was very young.  I went to private catholic school my grade school years and took ritalin every morning and at noon.  As well as counseling.  This continued into my teen years through middle school and high school.  I am also a only child.  Here is what annoys/angers me.  I feel as though I am very different from the rest of the world.  The thoughts always racing through my head, sometimes very irrational according to my wife of 10 years.  She says I make myself believe stuff and make up things to fill in the gaps, when I don't have all the information.  I h

My husband has ADHD, dyslexia, depression, has been laid off twice in recent years, and is a pretty nasty (verbally abusive), and angry with me all the time. We have been to see professionals (the top of the food chain), marriage counseling, and now our first grader is in therapy once a week, as am I - the solo breadwinner in our house. We have been married for 8.5 years now, two kids, boy 7, girl 5. Oh, he probably drinks too much as well.

More and more lies and broken promises keep cropping up.  It is clear he has ADD and has always had it. The more cover-ups and deceit and missed times lines the more I think maybe he really doesn't care about me.  

Maybe he deserves someone more capable of really likes the constant "live by the seat of your pants" existence.  Someone less traditional and more flexible. Someone that can laugh at the years she's waited to have things fixed and she roll with the punches (instead of feeling punched).  There must be someone out there that can make him happy.

This weekend I went to a work function with my husband and blurted out a comment that was inappropriate in front of one of his coworkers. It was the final straw that broke his back and I am terrified he is really done with me now. 

Three long years and very slight improvement? ok maybe on my behalf,i had to learn "his way" follow "his way" or else i would be running out of labels...Fact remains,(HE WOULD NEVER CHANGE)...In order for my marriage to work i had to change my way of understanding to value his,my way of motivation to stand along side him,my way of every single thing to accommodate his way..