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I'm reading that many of you are being treated for depression and I was wondering how you knew when to get treatment for yourself?  I'm not only dealing with a difficult marital situation but I'm also going through hormonal changes (I'm 48 and have been having perimenopausal symptoms for 7 years) so I'm never really sure what is causing my depressed moods.  I have days where I don't know how I can go on but then I've never missed a day of work and can always manage to pick myself up and accomplish whatever has to get done.  Usually my worse days are after a busy work week and then I tend to

I put up with my husband verbal abuse for over 27yrs.  I always hoped things would get better but he never changed.

Just joined the forum last week after reading posts from lauriejs and many others, and wishing I had found this place a long time ago.  I've suspected my husband might have ADHD since last summer; suspicions increased when I found out his 13 y.o. daughter from his first marriage had been diagnosed with the same. 

I have never posted before…...husband self diagnosed add and went and got on meds after our kids were born. Unfortunately his prescribing and treating Dr did not tell him to discuss it with me and or the impact add likely had on our marriage. It would have explained and helped a lot.

My new insurance covers individual therapy/counseling, but not couples (which we need but can't afford.) I have been thinking about going to therapy on my own, but wonder if it is worth it. I will probably just talk about my spouse and how his ADHD has affected our marriage. Has anyone gone on their own? Is it beneficial?

My husband was diagnosed with ADHD about 7 months ago.  He was only diagnosed because I screamed at him to get tested.  Three different therapists over the last 10 years have stated they think he has ADHD but he never did anything.

All the same symptoms.  He is textbook inattentive. I'm lonely.  No help or at least consistency with pretty much anything but his job.  And his job he hyper-focuses so that pretty much leaves no room for anyone but him.  He is so self-centered that I just want to slap his face. (I will not and never have but the urge IS there.)

I am reading a good little book called, "Soul-mates.  How to Find Them and Keep Them." Here is an excerpt I would like to share which I can sense is what has happened to our marriage:

He talks. From the moment his eyes open till he falls asleep. I dont say a thing because by the time I do, he's on to another topic or I cant keep up with the ten different trains of thoughts he crams into a 30 minute speech at me. I TRY and pay attention and look interested, but come on...really??? I just cant do it. Things and people and places and activities and objects and news stories....on and on and on.

I feel that I have recently had a breakthrough and would like to share!  I recently posted about my confusion under the Anger topic of this forum, and talked with a lady that helped me so much understand her point of view and what I did not understand.  I wanted to know why was it so hard for me (the ADHD spouse) to understand my non-ADHD husband?  Countless times we would argue and he would say I was blaming him and I would feel like he was blaming me.  

Hello, I have been dating a wonderful man for 4 months now. In those four months our relationship has completely spiraled out of control. Some of it I feel is me not understanding his ADHD. Him not communicating, and possibly the fact that he feels like he is an alcoholic.  THere is no talking to him. He shuts down immediately when I try to quietly communicate my views. As I read more into ADHD I am seeing things that trigger his shut downs, but I did not know it would be something I need to research before starting a relationship.