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My boyfriend has been my best friend for 7 years, and we have been dating for over 2 years. We have a lot in common and care about each other deeply. When it comes to communication, not only are we stuck, it devolves into feelings being continually hurt on both sides. We can't seem to break through, and his reactions keep us stuck in the cycle.

I don't even know what just hit me. My husband and I sat down to listen to Session 3 of the couples seminar, and we were discussing our worksheets beforehand. During our anger worksheets discussion, I said that I answered one of the questions according to my resentment because I don't really have anger. He asked me what I was resentful for. Normally I would not answer because in the last 6-8 weeks, he has been very irritable, and little things set him off. But I figured--hey, we're having a nice honest talk, so I will try to explain.

I have been married for one year to me ADHD spouse. He was just recently diagnosed, but refuses to treat because he says the military won't allow it. Our therapist called bs on that, but he still thinks he has it under control. To make matters worse, his daughter is super ADHD with a number of other issues that he refuses to address. I have patience for one, but not both. The only time we ever argue is when she is with us. Up until about 3 months ago that was only sporadically, but now she lives with us full time and it is a huge challenge for me to balance it all.

Hi. I'm new here, but I'm totally in.  I've been married to a woman with undiagnosed ADHD for 13 years now with 6 kids.  My wife just got officially diagnosed a few weeks ago, after I had basically given up on "my plight" as a man condemned to live in "trash can".  This is how I often felt.  That feeling of giving in was good in a way, but anger and resentment always seems to creep back at some point.  

I was 20 when I met this wonderful 26 year old woman that was pretty, divorced,  had a child, and I thought everything was great about her. During early portions of the relationship I didn't notice things about her behavior right away but I was botheredby certain things such as having a conversation and she quickly got side tracked, and during arguments she would twist my words and said that I said things that I never said.

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I'm 26, married with two children ages 9 months and 4 years old. My husband and I have been married for 4 years. I have ADD, but have known for quite a while and have it fairly under control. My husband has recently become diagnosed with ADHD. He has gone to counseling a couple times and is suppose to go on medication in about a week or two. I am excited to see how it will work, but at the same time, I'm not sure our marriage will even last to see the benefits. We have been having a hard time, but I feel like recently, I am just ready to give up. I feel invisible.

i am very frustrated and need advice, my boyfriend who have been with for almost a year has got ADHD he never talks about it also never talks face to face about his feelings. he gets very angry easily and says very hurtful things and calls me some terrible things. my mother and close friends say to finish it with him but i love him and i find it hard to let him go because when it is good it is amazing but when it is bad it is dreadful, we are in an argument now and it hurts so much especially the way he goes on.

I'm facing a very difficult decision right now. I am the ADHD spouse in the relationship (you can view my story here). I am 33 year old male that was diagnosed with ADHD in March this year. I decided to see if I was ADHD after reading Mrs. Orlov's book. My wife introduced me to it in September of last year but I didn't start reading it until January and it was like a revelation to me. Since diagnosis, we began seeing a marriage counselor that is experienced with ADHD and CBT.

This is my very first post. I stumbled on this site a few months ago, ordered Melissa's book, and read it. My husband (the ADHD- spouse) won't read it. Nor would he consent to talk to a therapist or use medication. He seems to think that doing any of these things would admit to being "at fault."