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I'm not even sure where to start with this post.  My husband and I have been married for almost 12 years and he has moved out of home.  We also have two great children and everyone is so hurt and confused by his actions.  He has always had the classic ADHD symptoms and never has done anything about it.  Our relationship has intense at first, we were engaged in 7 months and married in a year and half.  We also have our first child by our second anniversary.  He always drank, but I never realized how bad it was.  We moved back to my hometown area and he was determined to make a name for himse

It was a tough decision over which forum I should put this thread in, because it touches several of them...  Here's it goes, because right now its a frustration.

I've had a very stressful few days.  My husband has been at home more (he usually spends four days a week helping his elderly parents) because one of my daughters is about to return to college.  She'll be driving with my husband.  

Hi everyone. I've been reading this forum for a while but I'm still pretty new to all this. I feel like I am running out of options here, so I would really appreciate any help. Sorry for the long message.

My ADD husband and my relationship is non extent anymore. He wants the relationship when he wants, so its on and off all the time and i can't live like this anymore! We don't talk, don't really touch , hardly around and internment unless he wants it. What am i ment to do even when i have tried everything i can think of and tried some stuff from here?

I have given energy and time trying to figure things out since I found this site in March and since my mother died at the end of last year.  I believe I went into a bit of a depression/anxiety and DH withdrew.

To be resilient, I get to let the past go.  Learn from it.  Accept the reality. But rather than live in the resentment of the past or the uncertainty of the future, I am trying to find some balance and peace.

We are always told that if you have a problem, go see your doctor. What do we do when the doctor becomes the problem?

He's by far one of the best things that's ever happened in my life. He's incredibly sweet and caring, and attentive. The thing is, he used to smoke marajuana, but quit because he went to jail. He shaped up for a while but i recently found out he's been doing it again with his friends. We're currently not talking and i feel so betrayed. I know he's impulsive, so i tried to talk it out with him but because of his ADHD he said that he was overwhelmed and couldn't deal with it at that point. I would love to help him get back on the right track. He's a great person and he could go so far.

Not saying good bye when leaving.  DH regularly just leaves home without saying a word.  He leaves at different times in the the day as he works out of a big designated home office (even though he is there only about 1 hour a week).  I have a profession out of a home office also. He spends most of his time when home smoking and drinking beer in the garage and doing crossword puzzles (on the average of 4 or 5 hours a day). All of a sudden he is gone and I am left with the sound of his car going out the driveway.

My husband and I have our issues. He has ADD (probably, evaluation still pending), and none of us has had any idea about how to deal with it. The last few months has been bad. Really bad. Then, the other day I bought the book "the adhd effect on marriage" and started reading it right away. I hadn't been reading long before I started crying. He of course wanted to now what was wrong. So, I had to tell him that I finally started to understand him. And that I felt really bad for blaming him for pretty much everything the last few years.