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I am really hoping for some input here.  My ADHD husband has built not a wall, but a brick fortress up to me, and I have tried everything I know to penetrate that fortress and try to rebuild our relationship.

After reading the ADHD Effect, I really tried to change.  I stopped being demanding (at least I think I did), I quit nagging and would be really sweet to him, I mean I really tried my hardest to change.  All this did was cause him to stay gone from me more and more and more.  

Finding this site today has given me some relief. I am currently undiagnosed in the process of going to a new doctor this week to see what can be done. My brother and father both are diagnosed with ADD. My parents divorced when I was two and my mother always thought I was strong enough to take care of myself and put all of her time and effort into my brother. I experienced many symptoms of ADD as a child and teenager but it was always just brushed off as "being a teen" and so on. I never really developed coping mechanisms or just had the comfort of someone being there for me.

I just finished filling out my child's college financial aid application.  My husband used to do the taxes and financial aid applications, but this year, I took over these chores because of my husband's ADHD.  Doing these things causes me a great deal of anxiety because of our financial situation (husband is chronically underemployed and not looking for work), but I'm committed to getting the job done.  So, first, my husband suggested not including all his income on the tax forms (he works for his dad part-time as a caregiver).  I said that I was going to put down the income, because as his

Can someone tell me why some people just refer to their diagnosis as ADD while others refer to it as ADHD.  I've always thought that the hyperactivity is always a part of it even if it doesn't show physically.  One of the reasons ADHD has the symptoms that it does is because the brain is "hyper"...right?

I have no idea how I got to this place in life.  I am a woman with ADHD and I found myself physically abusing my husband tonight.  A significant event regarding our child began an evening long verbal battle, then helpful discussion, then a physical attack on him.  (up and down just like my mood) God bless him, he did not hit back or kick me out.  I need to know if there are other women out there who are like me.  I need to know how to "turn it off".   

I am new to this site and this is my first posting. This site is like an oasis in the desert to me right now. I am about to gush out all of my frustration here..    

There is always so much when it comes to finances. We have both improved dramatically in the realm of finances since we started dating. That said, I wasn't that great to begin with and DHs version of controlling his finances was not to have any. The only bills he had when I met him was his car insurance and phone. He lived in the barracks and bought his car outright. He spent every dime he had every paycheck but took the attitude that it didn't matter because he didn't have any bills (or thoughts about the future.)

It's been almost a year since I asked for a divorce from my ex, who moved out of our home after I could not take his inability to empathize and contribute anything to the household, followed by verbal abuse and a chronic, maddening sense of irresponsibility. Too little too late, I'm learning about a condition that very, very closely mirrors ADHD (and is sometimes comorbid with it): Aspergers Syndrome.

My husband was recently diagnosed with ADHD at age 62.  He grew up feeling something was different and adjusted.  We have been married 5 years and it was a wonderful dating and "in love" time.  And as the books say, then things become real, not so focused on the in-love and we approached the normal life.  This diagnoses has helped us to see and understand some things, but it is very new and scary to me.  I have searched some counseling help for me in our area but don't seem to be getting anywhere - lots of help for him though.  We have discovered the medication has helped him put clarity in