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So, cried myself to sleep last night...

After two days of refusals to talk, which he, of course denied. Funny thing is I actually believe he does not identify the fact that I asked for talking about specific issues.

No sex for about a week. That anxiety thing on that issue just feeds.

He left at 11:30 yesterday saying he'd be back soon n returned at 9:30 last night.

Today he justified the behavior by trying to give me money n saying he enjoyed his time away from me. He completely ignored the fact he discounted anything I actually asked talked about.

I feel that my husband, who has ADHD but not admit it affects my life, is so clever that he manages to turn everything around and back to me. This makes me feel so hopeless and I don't really know whether I should worry about it or just do what I have done for seven years, just let go! and forget about it until the next stormy day.

I keep asking myself where I went.  It sounds strange but it is a nagging question that I have.  I was once happy, loved change and adventure and appreciated what people did for me.  I used to always make time for my hobbies and even just time to myself.  That has all changed.  Over the years I have become someone that I do not recognize.  I find that I am constantly complaining and that there is very little in my life that brings me joy.  My child is essentially the one bright spot that I have and I even find that I get very short tempered and aggravated with him.  I know that the issues i

My spouse lies for everything possible you could think about"little" and "big" the little things tend to piss me off,right now I am pissed off! tell me why bother lying in the first place,is it AN ADHD trait? I guess so! I am very furious right now, I need a moment to recheck my memory about certain incidents, and figure out why this has to even be a circumstance beyond his control.I went to the " seafood outlet" to purchase shrimps to cook a meal for lunch, now now this has happened, and the lady said to me"oh how are you?

I am doing much better I must say with my "emotions" regarding my ADHD spouse,but sometimes he still hurt's my feelings very bad,but,as the days go by and the months follow through, I am also scared,very scared that all my efforts will come to an end in separation one day.What to do?

I got into a relationship with a wonderful woman almost 3 years ago.  It was amazing, she was my soulmate.  She was understanding, sweet, impulsive, up for anything, and I thought just beautiful.  It was a romance that could not be replicated.  The sex?  Forget it.  The best ever.  Never more connected with a person.  It was like that for about a year and a half when all of a sudden in the beginning of last year she got a new job and was learning how to become a personal trainer (not at all related to her job field, but something she wanted to do).

Thank you.

A CONSTANT struggle for me when having a discussion with my husband is to quickly just tell him "one more thing" or try/want to explain my position better so that he "gets it."

Example: we have an argument about something and I tell him I need to pause and "think about it." (A tool that I need because I can't process quickly). A few minutes later, he hears me typing away on my computer and says:

So, I've touched on this a bit in responding to others.

One thing I'll reiterate is that if this wasn't an anonymous forum I doubt I could even brave talking about it.

I'm feeling extremely anxious. I'm guessing some of the wives in similar situations will relate.

Others would laugh at what I'm about to say next.

I am completely anxious and fearful. My husband and I had the rarity of sex four times last week. That truly never happens. I don't even remember when it happened last. I just know what comes next...

What to expect from DH this weekend,well it's simple to say LOOK OUT!!! big fights coming!!!!,should I stay into the comforts of my own home and be missing him? or should I go and just learn how to handle it maturely? well a few weeks ago I would have gone at DH apartment without even thinking this through,but now I know different, I am thinking it through and still very Happy to share the long weekend with him!Opps!!!!! LOOK OUT! the mood swings!!  the tantrums,fights,accusations,hell the "blame game" what to do?