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Hi there...I'm new to this forum and site.  I came upon this site because my girlfriend has treated ADD.  I've know this since I've known her, but I felt like her ADD affected our relationship still so I wanted to know what I was getting into by being with her for the long term.  So after reading on here and doing research, I got the book from Melissa the other day and started reading it.  I looked on this website and saw a lot of the frustrations that people had.  I worried about kids in the future, them getting fed and will she just be all over the place to help take care of them.

I have been married to my ADD husband for almost 3 years. It is my second marriage. I have 4 children and he has 2 children. I have tried everything. I have resorted going to Alanon because he also has on/off addiction issues. I love him, but he just has too many problems. His ADD has ruined his life and is ruining my life. I am in debt because he CANNOT manage money and blames it on everyone and everything else. When I try to talk to him he gets defensive and makes a million excuses. At one point he had the business account -7,000.00. I almost had a heart attack.

Ok, life with an ADHD spouse is a roller-coaster.  I have been in every type of counseling for about a decade.  My husband was diagnosed with ADHD, very severe about a year ago.  In my opinion the ADHD lifestyle has been a very cruel way to live.  There is so much hurt that I clearly remember and live with each day.  most of it is very well explained in the ADHD book.  Being ADHD, my husband seems to be able to move on very easily.  I think he is working moderately-hard to learn from his ADHD.

I  am hoping someone here can advise me.  I am seriously just losing it. Please bear with me if I seem like I'm rambling, but I'm just trying to give a full, complete picture here

I've been married to my non-adhd (but OCPD) husband for almost 3 years. We've been together for almost 8. In the beginning of our relationship, I was VERY immature. At 38 I had never yet really, truly fallen in love. But I fell in love with him and he with me. We were deleriously happy and content. At first.

I have been married to my husband for 4 years now. My husband has been diagnosed with ADHD and has recently filed for disability, due to doctor's advice. He is THAT bad.

I am done with having ADHD.  The history as to how I got to this point is not important anymore.  

My husband is the true selfish ADHD type!and how long will I go on accepting it!?!?!?!?I can't say?It's all in the stupidness of that dysfunctional brain and I have had enough!There is no doubt of the way I love him and the things I go through with him on a day to day basis,I have been putting up with a lot and more,this is ridiculous,how much more again can I put up with?????.He has left a different city to move here and resided for 2 and a half years now, and only been settled and stabled for the last year or so when he met me.I gave him the motivation to live here and be stabled when he

What do you do when he refuses to see his anger? My fiancée and I have been together on and off for almost 6 years. (I’m 44 and divorced. He is 49 and twice divorced. His kids are grown and out of the house. I have my 13 year old daughter living with me.)  The first few years we were not aware of the ADHD, so the usual problems occurred.  I found this site and started researching ADHD about 2 years ago. When I showed it to him, he was interested in learning more, but flatly refused any medication.

I'm feeling so sucker punched I can barely breathe.

I recently felt the usual, "something is up," feeling, so I actually asked if there was a surprise coming down the pike.

The answer was an emphatic, "No, of course not."

Today as I sat down today do bills, I thought something was wrong with my online banking at first.

Turns out he diverted his check to an account I had no idea about.

When I called to ask, what I got was something about, "You remember what happened in December."

I have been venting on this forum about my unhappy married life to an ADHD husband. I have been talking and talking and talking about how miserable and suffocating my one year of marriage with him has been. Yesterday I read a book "Is it you, me or adult ADD" and found so many lines that were exactly depicting my husband's behaviors, which brought me into tears: