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Hi everyone,

Been lurking for a few months now, finally decided to speak up. 25 year old male, newly (self) diagnosed ADD with some help from the GF. Unfortunately, thats where her helpfulness and support seemed to stop. We have been together for 4 years, and have seen our share of hardships together. After getting an idea of what is happening, everything really hit the fan. I'm angry, she is angry, and there is no end in sight.

I am 29, this wonderful boyfriend (30 years old) for almost a year. When we first started dating, he told me he has ADD. He told me because of his ADD I will be angry at him because he is forgetful and other things. So he borrowed me a Edward M. Hallowell book so understand him more, I read breifly and convinced myself - there is nothing like him, he is adorable, caring and intelligent. He is everything I want, we shared the same interests, had great fun exploring new things together. He called, texted, IM me everyday. I feel like being with him every minute of my life.

My partner was diagnosed almost a year ago and has been trying a variety of ADHD meds, trying to figure out the "right mix". Avoids reading the books we purchased to try to work through and resolve some of our ADHD relationship issues although he did agree to read them initially after diagnosis and felt that they would be helpful.....One of the issues we are having is that after a fight or disagreement , when we try to discuss it (after a half or whole day of cooling off) he has memories of things I never said, and repeats these things back to me in a tone that I would not use.

I really have no statistical bases for the question I am going to pose.  I am not sure how many out of how many meet the criteria of behavior.  Yet, I am still interested in the dynamics between ADD and cheating on your partner.

I have read many stories of infidelity in relationships between ADD / Non ADD individuals.

I'm a 25 year old with adhd, diagnosed in high school my parents thought I had a learning disability got tested, IQ of 125. My Adhd has changed over the years. I started off very unmotivated father constantly asking me if I was on drugs. Well I finally got on drugs (adderall xr) and with this prescription my academic life improved. emotionally was ok, but Had some ED issues for an 18 year old guy that's terrible, so adderall went bye, bye.

Let me first open with what most of you already expect from someone with ADD :).  I will do my best but make no promises to make updates to this on a weekly basis.

Purpose: my goal is to try and articulate on a weekly basis what goes through the mind of someone with ADD.  I hope over time this information will catalogue the struggles, successes, failures and experiences associated with treating and changing ADD behaviors.

Style: journal style with limited structure no committed topic on a weekly basis.

Is there any hope of a husband with ADHD and a wife with OCD maiking it through?  I just got diagnosed and my wife is extremely angry with me.  Not sure it is even worth salvaging.  I want to do everything I can to manage my ADHD and work out our relationship.

 My husband has ADHD, we've been married for 19 years.  We didn't know he had ADHD until we were in our late 20's and we're now 42. I have stayed with him although he has cheated on me three times (one being with my now sister in law).   He has not been able to keep a job more than a year for over 10 years and because of this we are now in bankruptcy.  I've kept us in this house as long as I can, I've exhausted all of my savings and 401k.  I've given up on what was once our beautiful house.   I tried for 11 years to keep it clean and beautiful as a source of pride for our family.

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It's really lonely where I'm sitting here this afternoon. I had suspicions that I had ADD for years, but finally talked to my doctor about taking something for it about a year ago. I taught myself coping skills to deal with my symptoms, regulated video game time, alone time, 8 hours of sleep a night. But my wife and I decided to foster-to-adopt three siblings. I found myself in a place where I didn't have time for any of my coping skills, so I finally talked to my doctor and asked for medicinal help. I'm on medicine now, and doing much better.