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Hi Guys/Gals,

I am 38 yo male and I was recently confirmed as a victim of severe ADHD. I have been married for 13+ years now and we have 2 kids but somehow I feel that I have not lived up to the expectation of my spouse. Though she is not the first to be disappointed by me, she is the one who suffers the most. How can I ease her pain?

My husband just started Ritalin, yesterday. I am mortified, afraid, angry, and trying to decide if I should hang in there. It's been such an uphill battle. He is the life of the party among our friends whereas I'm the old shoe. We're not even forty!!!! And I keep thinking, "Is it gonna get better?" "Am I gonna be ok with the 'what-ifs'?" I just don't know what to do. And feel worried that it's going to take a long time for him to get it together. I'd rather be on my own, knowing that I can take care of me and my son. But I also know that he's trying.

I am a 58 year old male and was diagnosed with ADHD about 14 months ago. Before being diagnosed with ADHD I regularly exercised, took fish oil, and I have been on an anti-depressant for several years that really allowed me to sleep well for the first time in my life. I have tried: Vyvanse, Concerta, and Stratera. I tried each one for several weeks. All 3 made me feel awful physically. I felt tired all the time and just felt "yucky." I also did not notice any help with my distracted mind.

I came to the forum today to try and search for answers. Support.

My husband was diagnosed with ADHD about 2.5 years ago. It explained at lot. I thought at the time that we finally had an answer and we could start working on solutions. 

Wrong.

OMG!!  Today is NOT going well!!  My dh's old counselor called and discussed the bill with him, after I made it a point to ask them to NOT talk to him about it.  I have been making payments but the balance is high due to complications with my insurance (things that in a million years my dh will not "get" and will only piss him off).  Well my dh calls me at work (I'm not supposed to get or make personal calls) and completely freaks out.  When I tried to tell him we would talk when he picked me up from work he hung up on me...now I don't even know if hes picking me up, as he wont answer the p

I am going to be tested for ADD.  My husband has severe ADHD...I wonder if it is common for people with ADHD to attract ADD spouse?  Anyways some of my symptoms are anxiety/depression, innatention, inability to accomplish dreams, spacey, bad working or short term memory I have to compensate and do things to hide it a lot at work.  When both him and I go to the grocery store...it's a disaster in stress and spaciness!

1. Adderal XR
2. Ritalin
3. Dextroamphetamine
4. Straterra
5. Adderal, Ritalin and Dex again with "drug holidays" (2 days on, 5 off)
6. Neurontin
7. Vyvanse
8. Provigil
9. Nuvigil
10. Namenda
11. Intuniv

I first took Adderal XR in November of 2008. For 2 weeks the noise was attenuated. It was truly remarkable to have the first vacation in my life from the hell that is living with my own brain and getting to experience what life must be like for everyone else.

Just a lil update.  The dh and I are still making progress, the weekend went well with minimal problems.  We took his daughter back to her mom's and saw family while we were down there, I went and hung out with my mom and he hung out with his brother and mom.  He even wore his wedding ring for the entire weekend....amazing for him seeing he used to complain it bothered him.  He was pretty crabby on the way home (3 hours one way in the vehicle), but when I mentioned it he DIDN'T blow up!!  He thought about it for a minute, told me "yeah I guess I am a little short tempered today" and then to

I need some help from the non-ADHD partners to understand my husband.  He is so angry and bitter.  We have been together for 18 years, and I started meds 10 years ago.  I only started therapy 6 months ago when I realized I needed help for my anxiety related to his pronouncement that he didn't love me anymore and wanted to divorce when the kids were older.  In spite of the changes I've made, he continues to vacillate on whether I've actually made any progress (You never change!/Why didn't you make these changes 10 years ago?  I don't love you anymore!/I love you.  If I didn't, why would I st