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I have been with my partner for 3 years (I am the non-ADHD partner).  He has known since he was a child that he had ADHD and was medicated for it at a young age but stopped taking medication up until about a month ago.  At first he seemed so charming and great with my children, understanding and fun and spontaneous.

For the past several months, I was involved with a man who had been diagnosed with ADHD not long prior to our meeting one another. He initially presented as a well-adjusted, educated, self-aware man who had just happened to have experienced a number of challenging life experiences in his adult life. However, over the course of my relationship with him, it became more and more apparent that his ADHD traits were taking over the relationship despite my best efforts to understand his newly minted diagnosis.

Hi again. I started the topic "Wife-Moving-Out" ( http://www.adhdmarriage.com/content/wife-moving-out-now#comment-14875 ) some time ago. I said I would close that topic because at that time we were planning on ending the separation on 5/1/2011.

I'm 61 and have been in therapy for over 50 years.  It didn't work.

I had no friends, had tics, was chronically depressed, creative, high intelligence - yet not doing well at school.  Subsequentially, with work.

At 58 (after being fired from my last job) I was formally diagnosed with ADHD.  Later, that was augmented to include OCD and Asperger's, along with mild NVLD.

Looking back, this explains why I could only hold a job for two years; and why 'standard' talk therapy didn't help.

Last weekend I had 2 setbacks:

I will start with a couple of caveats.  First, I am dealing with ADHD - Combined type.  second, I have known about my ADHD since age 15, medicated since age 17. (it's amazing what 2 accidents within 6 months will do for rushing to find effective treatment)

I'm rather new to the discussion, but here goes..

I've been married 10 years to a wonderful woman. She's highly organized, and I am highly not! ;) I have read Melissa's book, and see myself clearly. My wife brought this to my attention, and finally got the nerve to share with me...she thought I would be upset.  I have met with a counselor, and done some preliminary testing, and results do NOT show ADD. Whether I have it or not, the symptoms and behaviors are the same. So - a couple of thoughts:

Why does it feel as though my husband with ADHD can't see beyond himself?  I feel very controlled and very unheard.