..that I thought definitely applied to many of us here..
It is just something I heard on one of my ebooks (Five Love Languages) on my iPod this morning and it really goes along with what Melissa is always trying to stress. A few key points I thought were worth sharing..
Today was our first couples session with a therapist who specializes in ADHD and it was AWESOME!!!! :))))
Even my ADHD partner who completely resisted the idea of therapy, let alone thinking ADHD had an impact on anything, loved it too!!!!
All we needed was someone who understands BOTH OF US and could calmly clarify our feelings and needs without strong underlying emotions! We're both starting to understand, and this was just our first session!
I posted this in the Hope forum, because I guess that's what I want to hear about...hope.
I am not sure yet, but my own diagnosis of my husband is a form of adhd.
One symptom is watering. He waters plants, trees, and the grass with the hose for hours. HE thinks he is doing something important. When I come home and ask what he has done say for the last 3 hours, I can see all the puddles and wet sidewalks. He waters sometimes daily, sometimes only 3 times a week. But even when it has rained the day before, he waters.
I've been with my husband for 6 years and now married for only 3 months. He said he may have a bit of ADHD but was never diagnosed as such. He has a union job and used up all his vacation and sick time within three months and now he uses FMLA to take days off. He got it for his back, but hardly any of the times he takes off are because of that. He is on day 3 of calling in sick. I get home and find him there in his pjs, playing his online game, drinking beer. If he called in sick and actually did something productive it wouldn't be as bad, but he does nothing.
After living with my husband for 32 years, and suffering , grief, loss, being constantly lonely, raising 3 children almost single handedly and working to make ends meet, while he squandered our money, spent most of his spare time out enjoying his latest hobby (hyperfocus) completely oblivious to how much I was hurting, I finally found out that he has ADHD - He is still in denial, but at least has attended 1 appointment with a Psychiatrist after I threatened to leave 2 months ago.
I am an ADHD single parent (female) and am in a very critical stage in our relationship (it is with "baby daddy"). We have been off and on for 4 years and reconciled in January and were separated for a year prior.
I'm wanting to meet a therapist who I can work with and trust as much as I trust what I've found in the book. What should I look for? What questions should I ask of them?
I have to preface this by saying my husband has never been officially diagnosed with this. It's me who has been looking into it because I thought our marriage sounded just like what Melissa was describing when she was promoting her book. The more I have been reading though the more I think he has ADD but things aren't too bad with us so I am not pushing him to do anything about this. I think we are able to get along pretty well because I have a good job and there are just the two of us - no kids to be responsible for. So he does things that drive me nuts sometimes (like today when he
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