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My husband and I fight all the time about his refusal to do what needs doing in the house. I need help!!

For background, I married a sweet man who would do anything for me. He drove me to work and home while we were dating (2 60-mile trips each day). He is gentle and sweet and did not come across to me as a male chauvinist pig who expected the woman to do all the work.

Do others know about your or your spouse's ADHD?  Is this something you willingly told them?  Does the ADHDer like people to know or keep it a secret?  What kinds of reactions have you received from people finding out?

 

            Hello, I've been married for 8yrs. My partner has been dedicated to his military career for 13 years,and I have been having lots of issues with our marriage as a whole.  I have known for a long time about my husbands ADHD. It was diagnosed when he was a child.  I admit I haven't dealt with this very well and from this (ADHD,Military career, and my own diagnose of colon cancer). I have sought out help from a family practitioner about being put on meds.

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My husband has ADD and we are having a lot of the problems that are described here. It is a relief to find this website and have what I am going through validated. 

We are at the point where we need to find a good marriage counselor, or we will end up breaking up. From reading the material available here, it seems that not every marriage counselor knows how to deal with the specific issues of a marriage where a spouse has ADD. It seems that counseling can make it worse unless the counselor has experience dealing with these very specific issues. 

I keep reading from members here that they feel their spouses ADD has gradually gotten worse over time, and blame this on the condition being left untreated. Is this common? Does being left 'untreated' include medication? My husband is trying to avoid meds, and I am 100% supportive of that decision. I am VERY gun shy when it comes to meds. For years he was mis-diagnosed and given anti-depressants and they ALWAYS made him very moody and irritable and MUCH worse than without them.

I'm curious if anyone else suffers from any mental health issues while also dealing with their ADHD spouse.  I suffer from depression and I know that this only makes our marriage harder than it already is with the ADHD issue.  I'm not BLAMING my adhd husband, but I know the issues the adhd causes in our marriage has made my depression worse.  For the first time I'm thinking I could use some therapy myself, as I think about how negatively the adhd has impacted me in our marriage.  Of course my husband needs therapy and I desperately wish he would do it (and we could afford it, we would ser

Back out of the driveway and hit the car of a guest even though you knew very well that the car was back there?  DH did this today - this is entirely a new one.  He said he knew it was there but he was thinking about something else....as he backed right into it.

Do you think this might be ADD related - or is this something that could happen to anyone.  I backed out of the garage this morning without hitting the guest's car....

Many times I am left feeling confused and frustrated because I try so hard to 'understand' and as we all know, this understanding doesn't come easily to us, especially those of us who are just starting down the road to treatment. I suppose it's a good thing we're starting counseling tomorrow...

We have a lot of progress, even if it was 1 step forward and 2 steps back sometimes we always come out of each issue moving forward and there has just been a new and improved understanding of what we both want and need from this marriage in the past 9 monts, since we reconciled.

We are finally starting counseling tomorrow and I am very excited and hopeful about this.

My husband had no problem embracing the ADHD diagnosis once it was suggested. We had problems getting him on meds and lots of problems with side effects of those meds. He's on something that works for him now [more or less]. We've done counseling, etc and at the beginning, he read some books. But now he's tired of hearing about it. He feels he's done dealing with it, I guess. I know I think about it a lot more than he does.