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Hello everyone. I guess this site has been bitter sweet for me. As an ADHD guy who is just about to start as second marriage, I can't help but be discouraged by what I'm reading. It seems to me, that almost all of the conflict in relationships is attributed to the partner with ADHD. Can this be the case? I struggle with emotional impulsivity - outbursts that are both irrational and uncalled for. Is this the ONLY reason my marriage failed? It was certainly an ugly aspect of it, but up until now, I thought it was one ingredient in a large list of reasons we didn't make it.

I have been married to my wife for 5 years now. During this time I have put her through absolute hell. The anger and the things I used to say and do to her never anything physical but all mental. I was away for the very beginning of our marriage being held on restriction by the Marine Corps.

I am coming to terms with the fact that my husband in all likelihood has ADHD. While we do not have an official diagnosis, 80% of the indicators are there.

What trial and errors did you go through in treating your or your spouses adhd/add. Did it end well or did you just give up and moved on?

It's so sad to me.  I have no desire to be intimate with my ADD husband.  I know that's fairly normal, I don't feel close to him at all mentally or emotionally.  I pretty much hate sex b/c it's him getting his "fill" from me and I'm just there to help him get the job done.  I asked him for the first time last week if he felt any emotions during sex.  He said only "sexual" feelings.  Nothing involving me.  Just him getting his feel-good.   I of course don't feel any emotions during sex either, but I'm not the one wanting sex.  So hearing him say he didn't feel any either, I guess hurt a li

I have been with the one I love for 2 years. I have plan to marry her but ADHD prevent us from moving forward .I have tried everything to get her to understand that I am here with her for the long run,but nothing I to do seem to gets threw to her and as I sit here typing 4:44 in the morning after a long night of going back and forth,one of many I wonder to myself Is it time for me to move on. How do you leave some one you love when you commit to not only them but to God. Sometimes thing are OK most times seem hopeless. I have empathy for her situation but she uses it as an excuse.

Am I the only one that is having this issue my wife came to me today and said that she wanted a divorce. That I spend all my time on the computer and that she is just tired and fed up. She says that she has begged with me to come to bed or watch a movie with her. I am a college student going on to get my Ph. D. after my bachelors. We have 2 kids the youngest 2 and the other 10. I am still in love this woman she is the love of my life what do I do. Is it me or the Ad/hd? I am on aderallxr 20mg.

I have been dealing with ADHD traits for as long as I can remember. I have used many of the creative "gifts" ADHD provides to make a successful living in advertising. Ideas seem to come naturally. I think in different ways. That seems to have helped forge a career. For this I am thankful.

There are good days and bad days....

I see a lot of frustration posts on this site and there may already be a post out there on this subject, but I am unable to find it so I thought I'd bring up the topic here and get some other opinions. 

My ADD spouse has been unemployed for over 15 years.  Now that he is "diagnosed" with ADD, he claims that he could never work at a real job because he can't deal with people with his ADD.  I have been the sole bread-winner all this time, which, ironically, he resents, as he says it gives me all the power, and apparently makes him feel like a big loser.  I have been at my job for over 20 years and am really tired of supporting him, I need a break myself!  He's been taking Strattera for over a year, and he thinks he sees a difference, but I honestly think he's worse, has many more "explosio