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I have been married for 5 years and me and my husband have gone through so much in those years we have both had affairs I with two guys and him with TWO guys I had no idea that he was bi he cheated on me when I was pregnant with our now 2 year old and I have also been going through all the anger that ADHD can give and probably more, he can be one of the meanest person I have ever met before in my life and even after staying with him through all of that now he doesn't touch,hold,kiss,or make love to me AT ALL my soul is tired of this I have put in 5 years of work for this man and I haven't

Does anyone have any advice or has had to deal with a self medicated spouse? What are the effects of him self medicating? I can’t find much in books and thought maybe someone has experienced this.
I have read a lot of posts here and I am very confused at this point and sad and getting some anxiety. From what I have read it seems like a terrible life of stress and bad communicating.

I am new to this board and hoping to receive some helpful input.   My long term boyfriend has never been officially diagnosed, but he admitted he was probably ADHD not long after we began our relationship.  Shortly after this, I recognized a number of ADHD symptoms in myself which led me to get diagnosed and I am medicated.

HE cannot be diagnosed or medicated for career reasons.  I have suggested going to counseling and we went once but he said he did not want to keep going.  However, so many things are just adding up and frustrating me. 

I am wondering if there are any others out there dealing with ADHD and a history of trauma. My partner has both and is currently untreated. We live very close to Hallowell Centers in MA but need to find a doctor that accepts insurance.

Hello, I'm new here and have been amazed at the amount of comfort I've found in reading other people's messages.  Finally I don't feel so confused and alone!  THANK YOU!!!

Without getting in to too many details, I have had a STRONG suspicion that my husband has ADHD (with a BIG emphasis on the "H"!!!) for as long as I've known him.  Now that I've begun reading things here, as well as reading the book "Is it You, Me, or Adult ADD?", I see SO many traits in him, and the coping skills I've adopted in response to his behaviors, that make me suspect this even more.

My ADD husband makes his own cigarettes and keeps them in tupperware type containers. I had gotten him some cheap ones at the dollar store, but the lids were breaking and he needed more. I had recently purchased some for my own use in the kitchen, higher quality since they were for food. He texted me a 'list' of things he needed yesterday when I went to town...and "air tight containers" was on the list. I didn't get them, for a couple of reasons.

I have been taking aderall xr for the past 4 months It has taken cared of my anger and fustration but I am hyper focusing all the time. No sleep and weight loss. I can hardly ever eat. Does anyone have experience with foacalin this is what I have now been subscribed never have taken it before kind of nervous. I don't want the anger to come back but I do want to have some type of emotions again this has taken a toll on my marriage. I would love to hear peoples experiences with foacalin.

When we first got married right off the bat there was a clutter problem, it was in all rooms of the house. I refer to the clutter as piles. They would develop faster than I could clean them. We would fight about them all the time. Im the type of person that needs organization in the house. I need it so I can think clearly, I know it sounds OCD but I am far from it. I just need organization in the house.

Hi, I have been married to my husband for 11 years now and he has been in the navy almost 20 years, soon to retire.  We have two kids, a daughter who is 6 and a son who is almost 11.  He also has ADHD.  Well, my husband hasn't been diagnosed with ADHD because he is in the navy and he can't take any meds while in the navy.  I just recently realized that he might have it.  My son was dx when he was in kindergarten.  My son has anger problems and tantrums all the time, and is very forgetful.  He just started middle school (6th grade) and is having a hard time turning in work, doing homework,

Ok - how do you handle your AD/HD at work? I am a Systems Engineer consultant which has it's ups and downs. It is incredibly difficult to see a project through to the end. Let's just say that I don't, ever. I need to though. Maybe I do, but in that particular situation I find it hard to use the force and hyperfocus like I can at other times. My Bose headphones help, but I am rarely left alone and getting back on task... well...

On a related note - if your job interferes with your mind, do you move on? Can you make AD/HD work with any job?? I usually feel mismatched.