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My partner with ADHD lies to cover up shame or embarrassment. He will tell me he is doing something when he is not, or will lie that he didn't do something if he knows it would stir up conflict or I would not agree. On top of that, his communication style is such that his actions do not match his words- for example he will say he is "Wrapping up" at work and then won't be actually done until an hour later (I recognize no bad intentions) but it makes it very , very difficult to trust just about anything he says as reality, factual and accurate.

Been with the ADHD man a year. During this time he's been settling a high conflict divorce, been to psych ward twice as not on correct meds.  
 

I used to be Brindle, and now I am brindle2.  Or just "Brin."  I had some email trouble and had to start again.  
 

I've been reading old posts from various users for the last few days.  It has been most therapeutic.  Always is!  
 

Hey everyone 

im new here and love reading the other posts. I'm not married to this guy but I've been in a relationship with him and I've been hurt badly.

My husband was diagnosed with ADHD in February. He hid the diagnosis from me (he said its a private matter, and he’s very secretive by nature) and I only found out because I found the tablets. 

There’s a backdrop of him blindsiding me with things in our relationship - his impulsive behaviour / not thinking through the consequences is as a result of his ADHD, but hiding his diagnosis was almost the final straw for me. We have two young kids, one of whom is struggling at school - so his diagnosis is relevant and it is not a private matter in my mind.  

I am close to my breaking point.  Has anyone has had experience about divorce proceedings with someone with ADHD? Its so difficult to accomplish anything with my spouse that I cant imagine how difficult it wil be to go through a divorce (splitting assets, signing documents, etc). Any tips? Thanks

I have been married to my ADHD husband for 13 years (no kids thank god!).  We met at work and although he had his quirks, he was (and is a brilliant guy). However thing have gotten  bad in the last 6 years. He hyper analyzes everything, up to the point that it is difficult to make  decisions. And he knows everything (so forget about therapy, coaching, etc). I read what others post here and I see my relationship with my husband.  He was caring at first, not anymore. He has become really aggressive every time I said something that requires his attention.

Hey everyone,

This is my first post. I’ve read and lurked for a good long while.  Finding solace in shared experiences.

Can we talk about running away? My grown adult husband has run away several times now in the last few years. RUN AWAY! As in twice I had to file missing persons reports, other times I didn’t. One of those times after he was found as he was crawling back home after a 23 hour over the top meltdown, we then got to sit in the hospital for 18 hours with no help after the police found him and brought him to the ER. (Covid has the ER packed and psych couldn't get to him)

I've recently entered into a new relationship with a fantastic person who has ADHD and autism. When we are together, and can talk face-to-face, then the relationship is one of the best I've ever had. She is kind, caring, a fantastic Mum, and everything I want in a partner. She is also incredibly strong, and very independent.