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My husband takes Wellbutrin for depression and Concerta for ADD. He has gone through several ADD meds and had bad side effects-shaking hands, falling, lightheadedness. He's had some of that on Concerta too but felt like he could handle it. He was going to see a neurologist about it today.

I somehow thought that my husband was past the "I don't love you anymore and want a divorce thing".  I guess I was just believing what I wanted to believe. 

Can anyone offer me advice on how I can leave my relationship with my ADHD husband?  It's gets worse by the day.  He has and is destroying me and my life.  He says he can't help himself and I cry everyday because I'm being abused.  We're not even married a year and its getting worse to the point I have suicidal thoughts. 

As I've posted before, I work and go to school. It's not graduate school but it is pretty demanding. I started during a period of prolonged unemployment for my husband, figuring that if I had to support him for the rest of my life, I needed a better job.

Well, eventually after about 6 months of ADD meds, he got a job. Now he realizes that to advance in his profession, he needs a graduate degree.

I really appreciate the viewpoints posted by the AD/HD mates especially as my husband sometimes doesn't appear to be/want to be introspective enough to give me similar feedback.  

I am in so much emotional turmoil at this point in my life. I am engaged to be married to a man who while convinced he has AADD he is unwilling to accept or understand my frustrations and feelings on this. He has told me on multiple occassions that I am the one with issues. I feel like I am losing my mind, Its like I am always walking on egg shells until eventually I erupt in a fit of anger. I don't know what to do? I love him with all my heart but truly feel like I need to find a solution to this issue or leave. Does it get bettter, how do I handle this situation?

I've been reading a lot of posts where the non-ADD spouse complains about the ADD spouse not helping with housework and it seems that it's always the ADD that's blamed. But, I wonder how much of it is the ADD and how much is it that the spouse just doesn't want to help? The reason I ask is that I am the ADD spouse.

I am a little frustrated here.  I know I'm still new to this ADHD thing, but help me out here.  So I found some symptoms of ADHD, sounded like my husband, gave him one of those ADHD tests and it said "highly likely you have ADHD".  He TOTALLY sounds like he has it.  I come to this website and the way that everyone is describing their ADHD spouse is my husband to a T.  So why doesn't anyone else think he has it besides me?  We had our 2nd session with the therapist today and she told us she's still not sure he has ADHD.  And my husband will not admit he has it, which seems to be fairly commo

After reading a lot of the postings and after much thinking, I see selfishness and selfcenteredness of ADD afflicted persons as a core reason of the suffering of their spouses.  It is the core reason of my own pain.

I have been wondering, what of the both is more probable:
1. Selfishness is hardwired in the brain as a part of ADD.
or
2. Selfishness is an independent trait, and it determines, if someone burdens the detrimental effects of his ADD upon others or takes the burden of sparing others upon himself.