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Hey all,  I'm new here so go easy lol.  First of all, I know most of the problems in my marriage I brought on myself.  I have been diagnosed, and I do take meds.  I've made some mistakes I'm not ready to fully discuss.  For the last maybe year, my drinking has gotten worse (bad coping skill I know), and so has my ADHD.  My wife has slowly started withholding affection and intimacy from me.  She says she's "guarding" herself.  I have stopped drinking and plan on doing so for a few months at least.  Anyway,  things have gotten pretty bad lately and it's hard to communicate.  If I talk about m

I have been with my partner for around 2.5 years, and we currently live together. When we initially started dating, it was a whirlwind romance... we unofficially moved in together after only a month, we were so in love that we talked about our future constantly, and we officially moved in together about 6 months into our relationship when both of our leases were up. 

Hello,

This will be my second post on here and I'm still not sure how to bring the thought storm in my head to paper.  So I apologize for any confusion. 
 

So I have ADHD, which is basically concert hall of thought and distraction in my head.  It sucks. It's depressing. It's been a life long, and only recently identified, torture of being judged and then disregard with the trash. 
 

I've posted a few times here, particularly following my breakup with my non diagnosed ex. In a relationship for 2.5 years, he wanted me to move in, house a mess, he didn't work, lack of empathy Many of the toxic behaviours came out, however like so many he could be very likeable, charming and he loved sex and loved showing me physical attention, though it was increasingly apparent that if something was distracting him I would literally be forgotten. 

Hi all,

Glad to have found this space. My partner and I have been together 4 years and I'm struggling. They have a diagnosis of ADD and also a history of trauma. They're currently going through a horrible work situation which is bringing up all kinds of problems and triggering them a lot. Hopefully this will resolve in the next month or two.

Hello all. Curious to hear if others have experienced this in some capacity. And if so, what have your done or how have you dealt with it.

My partner has ADHD, diagnosed about 6 years ago whilst in his 40s. We have our ups and downs, but on the whole are still doing okay after 10+ years.

Our difficulty doesn't stem from the forgot/was late/taking responsibility/sharing the load (some we have worked out, some just are). Rather our difficulty stems from medication running out.

I'm so relieved to find this forum - I mean, I knew it wasn't just me, but my sisters are tired of hearing me complain! Husband diagnosed with ADD (originally by me!) at least 10 years ago and taking Adderall. He says it helps, but I'm not sure. Two nights ago, he got into bed and realized that he didn't have his phone (yes-I bought him the Tile app so he can find keys and wallet, but his hearing isn't great and he can't always hear the tone). So I kept calling his phone so he could find it, and he went downstairs to retrieve it. I heard him call "got it"!

I'm a happily married adult ADDer who went undiagnosed until I was 46 years old, some 15 years into my second marriage. That was 15 years ago and the memory of how that positive diagnosis felt is still vivid. Relief?  No. Not even close. Joy? Sorry, No. Disappointment? Well. We're getting warm now. I had suspected that ADD might have been behind the struggles with procrastination and time management that had plagued me since my childhood, but I had always entertained the hope that someday I would be able to find a way to not be that way. That hope evaporated the day my diagnosis came in.

Im so done w/ this. After 20 years, im so...bitter, annoyed, angry, fed up. Im overwhelmed every day. On top of it my teen kid has add. Chores not done or half ass done. Cant figure anything out on the computer or even try. "Can you print this?" "Can you email so and so?" Im a secretary? Scanned, organized 3 years of bank statements to get taxes done because he cant figure it out. Find me a doc, i cant figure it out! Intensive lawsuit case evidence, fell on me. Extra money is blown on his shit or big vacations we shouldnt take. Acts like a bratty, pouting, tantrum child.

Hey all, my husband has hypomanic episodes a few times a month.  He comes home after having a few drinks and then chats my ear off all night.  Not listening to me, interrupting, and saying things that he doesn't mean (I hope).  This is really stressful for me as in the past, these episodes usually result in arguments because of the way he is acting.  I have CPTSD and have been doing EMDR for almost a year.  This situation has been a really big trigger for me as he has abused alcohol in the past and the episodes were way worse.  I have been considering just going to my room for the evening a