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  • Save yourself
    by: Haveaniceday - 5 months 4 weeks ago
    Your post could've been mine. If I knew at your stage what I know now, I would absolutely have left. Kids, finances and getting older makes it much harder, so if those aren't factors then take care of yourself first.  I know this sounds harsh, but honestly, the heartache and disappointment you are very likely to endure being married to an in denial and untreated ADHD spouse is no joke.  Sending strength and hope you find your clarity soon!
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  • Unmanaged ADHD justifies divorce
    by: swampyankee - 5 months 4 weeks ago
    Thank you for this comment, Swedish coast!  I ended things with my husband of 22 years in May, whereupon he predictably asked for a "second chance".  I foolishly agreed, but the requirements were that he needed to go to counseling for his anger management issues, and to get tested for ADHD.  He did go to counseling, but not for anger.  And he got to the point where he got a referral to get tested, but never followed through.  I gave him Melissa's book to read, and to his credit, he did start reading it,...
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  • If you stay
    by: sickandtired - 5 months 4 weeks ago
    If you stay, you are giving up on you. 
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  • What we promised
    by: Swedish coast - 5 months 4 weeks ago
    I'm so sorry about this. To me, unmanaged ADHD justifies divorce. Your partner might be limited in his self-awareness and also ability to change, and therefore perhaps not entirely accountable. But that doesn't make your situation acceptable. He's not keeping his vows if he exposes you to the effects of his untreated ADHD. That he isn't aware of the impact isn't relevant to the end result for you. You cannot be expected to uphold your end of marital duties alone and see your years and ultimately your...
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  • you aren't alone
    by: Off the roller ... - 5 months 4 weeks ago
    Hey exhastedkitten, you aren't alone in this. I can't type much now but we are twins in our situations. I don't have advice for you. I'm currently in the middle of the same. I've had such a roller coaster of emotions AND we are also dealing with the spending problems AND grief. 2 new packages came today. And all the same existing projects are just sitting in our house..nothing is leaving the house. It's becoming a hoarding house and it's really upsetting bc that's what I grew up in and it's so unacceptable...
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