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by: Swedish coast -
I’m sorry this has come to a standstill and makes you unhappy. It sounds unpromising for marriage and family, which puts hard demands on a partner. If its not possible to arrange a wedding together with a fiancé, perhaps one shouldn’t marry them. I did, but have regetted it in hindsight. You need a dependable partner on your life journey.>>> on Forum topic - House renovation to infinity
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by: J -
"Yes, people with PTSD often experience dreams of being attacked, as their nightmares frequently replay elements of their traumatic experience, which can include scenarios like being physically assaulted or threatened. " Last night, I had a vivid dream of being menaced and stalked by a man ( who looked like Jack Black ) wielding a long knife. This dream went on for quite a while, in fact, I woke my SO up three times screaming as I was running for my life and trying to hide from this stranger. ...>>> on Forum topic - Makes me feel alive
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by: EMADHD -
good luck. if you have question about the cards, please let me know. happy to help.>>> on Forum topic - My Partner Revealed that She Has Been Keeping Score
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by: Swedish coast -
I can’t imagine how hard this must have been. Hugs ❤️>>> on Forum topic - Both sides now
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by: 1Melody1 -
I really appreciate your kind words. It has been an unbelievably painful time. His parents are still living even - it all feels so shocking and unjust. I didn't have the strength to reply to your post about grieving, but if your ex husband needs you because he becomes unwell, just believe that you will know what to do when the time comes. Your heart will guide you. At least for me that was the case and I have a feeling we're pretty similar. :)>>> on Forum topic - Both sides now
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by: J -
I'm sorry for your loss, truly. I can understand the bitter sweet feelings of gaining peace and losing something in return. There's no free lunch as they say... Hoping the best for you regardless of where your life takes you in the future. J>>> on Forum topic - Both sides now
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It wouldn't really wouldn't change anything.>>> on Forum topic - Grief work
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by: exhaustedkitten -
Nothing has really changed, but I've more or less been focusing on myself and doing things just for me. Work has been incredibly busy so my focus has honestly been there. I think the best advice someone else gave me was to focus on me and enjoying life outside of my husband.>>> on Forum topic - At a crossroads on whether to give up or stay in
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by: Swedish coast -
It sounds nice to know where your happiness lies. It sounds like you’re on your way to having fun.>>> on Forum topic - Grief work
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by: Swedish coast -
I’m smiling J, it’s nice to hear you explain what makes you happy. It sounds like you really want to get those skis on and ride your motorcycle! My ex is a totally different story, he’s never pursued activities for himself (unfortunately) and is instead oriented towards his closest people. His children mean the world to him. (In my country dads are very active and involved parents as a rule.) I think his biggest fear during divorce was that he mightn’t be able to live with them. That fear led to...>>> on Forum topic - Grief work
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by: J -
I don't even know how to clasify myself !>>> on Forum topic - Grief work
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by: J -
"I know nothing about how he’s currently doing. Initially he implied he was better, but during this year he’s backed out of every annual activity the children enjoy. It seems he isn’t yet fit for a day at an amusement park. He seems to initiate very little. All he says is caring for children 50% is going well." I'm guessing, this might be one of those places where empathy is difficult because there's a fundamental difference in how things are seen and felt between men and women. There's a big...>>> on Forum topic - Grief work
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Absolutely. I only come on here when I feel I've reached my limit to how much longer I can deal with the bizarreness that is ADHD. It truly is that saying "misery loves company">>> on Forum topic - Is it normal
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You summed it up! Like two ships passing in the night is exactly how my marriage has always felt.>>> on Forum topic - Energy drain
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by: How Long will t... -
YES! I know exactly how you feel. My husband lives in a different state 6 months out of the year. When he is gone I feel alive! When he is here I feel stifled, unable to speak and overall depressed. People may ask why do I stay? When we are with a group he is the life of the party. He is so wonderful with everyone else. He is a killjoy with me. So I plan as many group activities as I can when he is home. (Married 29 years)>>> on Forum topic - Energy drain
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by: Swedish coast -
I’m so sorry to hear this too. Melody, I know how hard you’ve worked to support the relationship between him and your daughter. What a cruel twist of events. I’m sorry for your loss. I think of you.>>> on Forum topic - Both sides now
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by: 1Melody1 -
I'm so sorry for your loss, Jennalemone. What a terribly hard year you must have had. I have not shared this here yet, but my ex-husband also passed 3 months ago. I am still reeling, devastated and doing my best to support our grieving daughter who lost her dad at much too young an age. I very much relate to what you wrote about still being in love with that young guy. The bad was real but so was the good. Thank you for sharing and I hope you are doing okay. I'm so happy to hear you have...>>> on Forum topic - Both sides now
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by: Swedish coast -
This moves me so. I’m sorry for your loss. Figuratively and non-figuratively. I share your journey from deep love and trust to disappointment and distrust. It’s heartbreaking. I’m glad you’re on the forum to share your insights.>>> on Forum topic - Both sides now
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by: ctbuchy -
What a beautiful post. I wish you joy looking at these old photos of "when the love really was there" :'-)>>> on Forum topic - Both sides now
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by: J -
my EQ may be higher than hers. She is quite intelligent and quick whitted with a good sense of humor. All signs of an intellegent person. In fact, she's much more quick whitted than me in that respect. I think we are quite compatible in the IQ department. Her son and daughter in law are very sharp and intelligent too...but I question their emotional intelligence at times. I'm no genius, but I feel like my emotional intelligence is at least up to par.>>> on Forum topic - Guilty by Association - Contempt
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