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I am not sure how to introduce myself on this board, so rather than a 'hi' post, I thought I would contribute here with brief on the progress my partner and I have been making in building our relationship. I am a thirty seven year old professional in Australia who is currently two and a half years into a long distance relationship with a lovely, forty year old American. We met on a fan board for a band that we both like and were firm friends from the first ridiculous joke.

Have you ever wished that you could be free from pain? The pain that you attribute to your marriage relationship? I sure have....I have found in my own life, that this freedom I have sought has taken me through many stages of psychological realities....I have been stuck in some of these stages for years...Because I would determine it to be a safe place (really I was just trapped there, due to expectations I was placing)....But when the reality would eventually set in, that it wasn't going to ever bring me to the place of real freedom....I knew I had more work to do:(.....

Hello like to get some advice , my wife is adhd she a special ed teacher who cant hold down a job , mostly from what i see no flexibility (black or white) and usually has a hard time with staff members, what i find is she is constantly negative

its a real struggle for me financially , Im on dialysis and i go to work everyday, what iam trying to do is not react to her problems , nobody want to be around her because its constant neg about someone or something ,

There are some things that, being in a marriage, are important.  But when you’re the Non in a dysfunctional adhd marriage, they suddenly become more important. 

By nature, I’m a pretty accommodating person.  That’s a good trait... as long as you are accommodating because you have a good balance. (“These are my boundaries.  If what is requested doesn’t cross my boundaries, then I don’t mind doing things they way they wish.”)

My bf of 10 years has ADHD, diagnosed as a child. However, as an adult refuses to seek medical advice and treat his ADHD. We lived the honeymoon phase, believe it or not for 6 years. And when we were forced to endure a series of catastrophic events, one which was my father's sudden passing, the honeymoon ended quite suddenly without us even realizing what had happened. We are now stuck in a parent/child like relationship, so much so he sleeps on the couch. 

I'm just wondering if you call you person on their lies. I'm not talking about huge life changing ones but everyday smaller incidents. We have been having issues with our furnace. The technician said it is because the filter isn't cleaned enough. I can remember one time my DH cleaned it. He swears he does it once a month. Such a huge bald faced lie. I cannot even believe that he would say that. What do you say in these kinds of instances?

So this is nothing new to any of us who post here, I'm not looking for solutions, I just had to get this out.  I bought the oldest son (19) Apple Air Pods for Christmas and DH thought they were cool and wanted some.  That's fine--he makes a decent salary, we both got a fair bonus, he can take calls on them instead of his bluetooth, fine.  So I stopped on the way home from work today at the Apple store by our house and bought them (they were out of stock for a while).

My husband (and the love of my life) has ADD. 

For the past 11 years, I have accepted that his strengths lie mostly in inconspicuous places: he is thoughtful with others, focused when fixing big machines, grateful for his hard work, observant of all that is going on in American politics, fun and jolly when talking with other guys, goes above and beyond the call of duty at work, full of zeal when it’s time to go to the bar to meet his buddies, super extra talkative with other women... That last one, is the killer.

I'm divorced.  Ex apparently hasn't changed his address yet, even though the divorce was finalized in May 2016 and he had already been living with his parents nearly full time for three years by then.  Yesterday, for the third time, mail arrived from the state department of revenue.

As you know I moved out of the house several months ago.  We are still married and have joint property.   One of the things I've been trying to do is to get my husband to either remember to put money into his old account to pay for the automatic withdrawals for his insurance or change the payment withdrawals to his new account.  I check and more than half the time since I've been gone, I've had to put money in the old account because he hasn't done it.   I went so far as to send him the paperwork to change the payment plan.   I even offered to help him fill it out.   I have not ever asked t