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Hi

Im getting married to my ADHD partner soon. We have been together for 6 years and I have a preteen son. We are getting married in April. Partner doesn’t want to medicate as he doesn’t like taking meds as they will change him and it’s unnatural. 

The issues we have had in our relationship are

Times are hard in my caregiving profession. Several people at our clinic, myself included, are feeling overwhelmed when fewer people are supposed to do more. 

Again noticing signs of burnout (have been here briefly before), I seriously think about quitting. 

The ADD ex husband until two years ago leaned heavily on me for a lot of things, there are several teenagers, a house, and for the last decade there’s also been this clinic. I’ve tried to further an education, simultaneously working long hours in a chaotic environment.

I haven't posted here in years, not sure when the last time was. I'm now 14 years into my marriage to a highly ADHD man with probably other issues. PTSD perhaps from a traumatic childhood, and not a small amount of NARC. 

We’re navigating a separation where ADHD plays a big role (time blindness, conflict spirals, paperwork overwhelm). If you used mediation instead of a full court battle, what made it easier/harder?

Things I’m curious about:

• How you handled appointment scheduling and follow-through (reminders, shared calendars?)

So those who have been following my story, we got the official report for my 12 yo son - he's not autistic OR adhd. 

I was actually shocked big time. I wasn't sure on the autism but with my spouse's unmanaged adhd after being diagnosed 3 years ago, I felt certain my son was going to be diagnosed. 

In the last ADHD Partner group, I said I would share my Habit Tracker and Brain Dump sheet.  I forgot to get the emails of those who wanted it.  This is for anyone who struggles, like me, to make sure I get the things done that I need to do on a daily basis.  I created this in Google Sheets.  You can click on the link to open and then choose Make a Copy under the File menu or choose Download to edit it and make it your own.

Hey everyone, looking for some support/help/relatiability..... 

We've unfortunately gone through a tragedy with saying goodbye to an immediate family member dying suddenly. While he was older, he got sick quickly and just went so quickly, it's been a whirlwind of 10 days. In the time our family member got sick, he passed away less than a week later and then we had the funeral and services that are relevant for the country I live in super fast - which is normal by the culture here. 

My husband has ADHD that he is not being treated for/managing. I find myself reading all of the books and listening to all of the podcasts, trying to understand what is going on and how I can help (I have some anxiety based attachment issues) but felt I needed some support from this group and others who might be feeling what I’m feeling. 

I cannot say this is the hardest thing I've ever had to go thru, but its definitely equal to the worst. There's no easy way around it, you just have to go through it and it's very  painful. Even if you've done it before, it still never gets easier.

This time however, I'm paying attention and doing things differently than in the past.  It doesn't make the pain going away, but it does help tell me where I am in the process. For me, it's a little less scary this way.