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Hi there from the UK

I would like to hear your experiences about people who have ADD and are passive aggressive.

Is this a common combination? What can I do as a spouse?

My husband and I have finally hit a breaking point in our 12 year marriage. 

I'm not new to knowing I have ADD, but going through the medications to help me is some what new.  I'm very sensitive to higher doses, so keeping the meds low helps, but I have had a lot of trouble with various meds (anger issues, paranoid, stomach trouble and more). I tried the patches and they have not had the boost I need and the side effects are not good.  Now that I'm out of meds, new doc appointment set up, I realize how much worse I am since I was first told I have ADD & tried meds.  I'm about 60 pages into the ADHD Effect on Marriage.

My DH just spent a week visiting his sister in another state. Her newborn son was recently diagnosed with a very serious illness, so he was helping out with our 2-year old niece while his sister and her husband were in the hospital. This left me at home with our 1-year old son alone. 

Of course, I was glad that he was able to go down and be there for his sister. I have no resentment about being alone with our son for a week if it meant that my SIL was able to have her mind at ease knowing her daughter was well taken care of. 

I have been married for 3 years to my husband and we have 2 children. He also has 2 other children, only one of which he sees. We both work and I also go to school. He makes much more money than I do and most of the time works until dark or later. I ask for a certain amount of money every week for bills and I take the responsibility of making sure theyre paid. As well as his child support payments. He is a self contractor and is supposed to keep all gas and tool receipts as well as getting all his employees info, hours, pay, etc for tax purposes.

Hi. 
My husband and I have had a few fights lately - the same ones we always have and then ignore for a few months. He says I don't listen to him but I really feel like I am listening.

I'll spare the details and get to the point ... my ADD wife has heard enough times that she doesn't pay attention, doesn't listen, talks over people, etc and she gets that.  However, her strategy now is to "pretend to pay attention."  She'll be watching tv and on the computer and I'll talk to her and she won't look up from her computer or tv (whatever has her attention at that moment) and then when I have finished talking, she'll reply with an inappropriate response or an inappropriate facial expression (in the past she'd simply stay in whatever zone she was in).

Not sure if this is the right section. I have been in a long distance relationship with  a man with ADHD for almost a year now. Since it is long distance and I would only see him physically once a month or every two months. I didn't really pay too much attention to his flaky behaviors. It was more of a companionship thing for both of us really. We both have some intimacy issues going on and both were working on ourselves after failed marriages. So the set up was perfect. We'd mainly text/email/call most days.

So here is my dilemma.  We have $ problems.  I know what we need to do to get started on the right track.  I go to DH and tell him we got something urgent in the mail and we need to act.  That was Monday morning.  He said we would go over it that afternoon.  Its is Thursday.  Still haven't gone over it yet.  Always happens this way.  And I let things go (which is how we got into the $ mess we are in).  I have been reading and trying everything to help him, me, and our marriage.  In my reading, I come across something a woman wrote that said wives need to support their husbands but not take