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Not Respecting Other People versus Being Unaware and not showing respect for other peoples' belongings, time, or space.

I'd like to hear what others, including those diagnosed with add, think about this.

My husband is diagnosed both npd and add. He definitely has unawareness, but I've also seen clearly that he has no respect for other people as valuable individuals in their own right.

Let me preface this post by saying that I don't believe in anything supernatural. I have no religion, and I am not in any way (even vaguely) spiritual. I'm being facetious.

So this morning we set out early and drove almost an hour away to an apple orchard. One of those "you-pick" agri-tourism outfits where you pay for a basket and you let the kids tear through their orchard having fun picking apples. We do these kinds of things mainly because my wife was at one time a professional photographer, and it is a good backdrop for fall pictures of the kids.

I noticed a forum discussion on sex with a ADD/ADHD partner my husband is not only ADD/ADHD he is also addicted to video games and loves his computer.

Hi,

After several years, I've realized my partner is high-functioning ADD. He has blurts and doesn't hear me a majority of the time, although he tries to do well. My self-worth was very badly damaged, but I love him and I am realizing that I fell in love with someone with a disorder. I'm a professional, bull-headed type who has never responded well...but now I understand that he can't help it.

I haven't been here in awhile but had a huge fight with my husband last night and I'm feeling in need of some venting.  I'm 3000 miles from home because we are out of state attending my father-in-law's memorial service.  My FIL died a couple of months ago so all of the planning and preparing was done before we got here.  We couldn't fly in to help right after he passed because we only had the money to make one trip (because my husband hasn't worked in a couple of years) and my MIL wanted us to be here for the service.  I had been saving for a small vacation anyway so I made arrangements to

Hi;

Hello everyone:

1,  act in an excessively subservient manner.
"she didn't have to kowtow to a boss"

synonyms: grovel to, be obsequious to, be servile to, be sycophantic to, fawn over/on, cringe to, bow and scrape to, toady to, truckle to, abase oneself before, humble oneself to; More
curry favor with, dance attendance on, ingratiate oneself with, suck up to, kiss up to, brown-nose, lick someone's boots
"she didn't have to kowtow to a boss"

2,  historical
kneel and touch the ground with the forehead in worship or submission as part of Chinese custom.

I have been on this site many times over the years and felt both hope and despair based upon what I've read. Now after 15 1/2 years of being in a relationship and 10 years of marriage, I truly am ready to throw in the towel. My wife was diagnosed in 2001, based upon an ultimatum that I made. Being in the mental health industry, I knew that she had ADD and her symptoms were so bat that I wasn't willing to spend one more day with her if she didn't go get evaluated. Sure enough, she was diagnosed ADD and has been on several meds since then - but that's about it.

So I'm somewhat new to this but I rather get a head start and work toward change now and be able to enjoy my relationship before its completely ruined. I feel that most of what I'm dealing with is similar to what everyone else is dealing with. Heres some of the things that I'm trying to work with:

He lies and lies and lies some more. I can usually tell when hes lying but he says he lies because the truth would make me mad. 

He's very short tempered and gets very angry or sad within a short notice