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As the wife of a man recently diagnosed with ADD, I want to know when do I get to stop being him mother?  When do I get to stop having to clean up behind him?  When do I get to stop being the only mature, responsible person in my home?  When do I get to stop hurting, crying loosing sleep?  Is it wrong to feel that everything is all about him, while I'm the one suffering?

I have been with my husband for about 3 years now and we have a 14 month old son together.  As I have read a lot on the site, our courtship was amazing.  I came from an abusive relationship and thought that I had finally found Mr.

I once was loved. Before marriage, I felt loved by family, friends and the universe and saw beauty and synchronicity all around me.  

Hi, 

I'm married to a wonderful man who was diagnosed about 4 years after we were married with ADHD.  His mother still don't want to believe that he has this.  

I was diagnosed with ADHD as an adult, and find it a burden. My first marriage ended after eleven years of my undoing. I felt that my wife was enabling me not to manage my ADHD. I have been in a relationship now for just over a year and I have no objective data as to why I am different in my current relationship. people with ADHD do very well at the tasks they like doing and poorly at the tasks they don't like doing. I characterized myself as having a T-1 personality to conflict, but I am functioning at maintaining a T-0 level.

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Hi, fairly new here.  I recently rediscovered this site in an attempt to figure out what is going on with my marriage.

I am reading "To Love and be Loved" by Sam Keen.  He says: "Once our attention is captured, a love story develops only if we escalate the contact by a decision to pay attention... The decision to pay attention to someone is the first act of self-limitation, the first sacrifice, the first gift we make in the name of love."

It has taken me 25 years of marriage to realize the impact my husband's ADHD is having on our marriage.  He is aware that he has ADHD but thinks most of our issues are my fault.  Went to counseling last summer: didn't help at all.  I am overwhelmed, angry, sad, and actually mourning what I thought my marriage should be.  I have no feelings left for him.  I am choosing to stay because of my kids.  I have decided what is best for them is more important than what my needs might be.  I need advice on how to let go of the anger.  I feel that his ADHD is an excuse sometimes for behavior that I se