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I am getting to the "acceptance and understanding" phase of having this information of DH's probable ADD. I only found this site and learned about ADD one month ago. I knew about "hyperactivity" and heard the ADHD label but never associated it with anyone I was knew.   I have SOOOOOOOO much built up frustration, resentment and mistrust from this 35 years of marriage.  Every day I have more information and I test it and it turns out what people are saying is happening the same way with us.

So I have ADHD I can be short tempered and quick to annoy. Have been madly in love with my girlfriend for a long time now, since meeting her it has been the happiest time of my life. Unfortunately she has to deal with me and my AHDH. I am successful professionally, on the outside everybody likes me because they do not see the Mr. Hyde in me, only the nice caring loving giving Dr Jekyll. I was always afraid things might get out of hand and she would want to leave me unless I got more control over myself.

My husband and I have been together 10 years, married for 7. I'm in my late 20's, he is in his early 30's. This march he started acting cold and distant. After being obviously annoyed by my presence one night out with our friends, I asked what was wrong. He said he wasn't happy and hasn't been in 5-6 years. I was shocked! He says I had shut him out emotionally for so long that he is numb to me. To say I was hurt is an understatement. I suggested counseling and he said he would try. I met with the counselor once on my own, and it helped me realize I was alittle co-dependent.

So I met up with my exBFw/ADHD this past weekend after not seeing him for four months (there was an occasional text but nothing meaningful).   Truthfully it was a nice meeting and we were both able to see some changes in each other.  Now I have known that he was spending time with his best friends ex wife and i knew it was probably more than that.  Well, he confirmed it.  I discussed this with him for a while and basically asking him a few questions I KNOW he didn't think of because of his ADHD (diagnosed and unmedicated).  For instance, do you realize that even though your best friend is s

Today I found out that my car is only missing the transmission oil for it to be ready for me,his friend from in his work came to my business place to wait for him this morning and told me that,Ha!!! I thought he told me last time that the car needed a next part in the transmission that he forgot to put in, and that he had to drop the box again and I may have to wait a next couple of weeks for it,And all this time the car is almost finished and he is procrastinating it,What the hell is he doing??? I am suffering for it !!!my hands hurts me with the grocery bags!!

Ok many of you here know we are almost 5 years post-diagnosis with a very happy solid marriage.  We definitely have ADD impacts, but patience on both our parts as well as regular work, meds for my ADD-I husband, and coaching have made our challenges no worse than any other couple trying to navigate life when one is from Mars and one is from Venus....at least my assumption is that our issues are roughly the same based on what my friends complain about in their husbands :)

 

Besides building communication progress with my DH, and on DH behalf trying to make progress,I still find him scanning the horizon to make us fight,he would come home by me on mornings before going to work to get his breakfast,(I run my business from home), and then leave with a good morning kiss and the days well wishes,but,before doing this he would scan the whole horizon by my work site to see what's undone, like the floor might need sweeping at the time or the yard or anything he could scan to build up an argument with me,to stimulate him,I read about this so it really don't bother me a

Finding this site and getting acquainted with ADD these last few months, has been cathartic for me.  I have been married for 35 years and have been working hard to "fix" something in myself not knowing what it was.  Blaming myself for being unlovable, stupid, too weak, too strong, nuts.  I want to scream in frustration. But with this site I learn that I am not alone.  I am not unlovable, stupid, too weak, too strong or nuts.  And this site gives me a place to go with my fears, anger and frustration.  It gives us a mirror to see ourselves in other people's stories.

My husband was just diagnosed with ADHD but has not yet started meds. We've been together four years, married not quite a year. In the beginning of our relationship he was helpful (to a degree). For his birthday I bought him a motorcycle. Now all he does is work on that. He completely blows me off and every time I mention his lack of attention (which was a problem before) he says I'm jealous of the bike. We are currently doing a lil mini home project-stripping and restaining all the baseboards and doors of our house-and by we I mean me.

He is making some sort of progress,all the while I was thinking divorce,now I am thinking support on his behalf ,and I have been considering his disorder to heart, that I feel the need to stay and work this through with him,but,it get's so tough sometimes that I don't even know if it would work.I am trying with him and he has been trying with himself,I could see where he is building a little empathy for me and a bit more "sensitive" to my feelings.He still have sooo much work on his behalf,taking into consideration he is also very "depressed" and full of hatred from his overdue past resentm