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An Easy Trap new On January 23rd, 2008 MelissaOrlov said: It is not only non-ADD spouses, but also some doctors and some people with ADD who would pathologize ADD and make people believe they have something wrong. They have something...yes...just like people who can't see without glasses have something. It's hardwired into their brains. BUT, that something can be wonderful and fabulous, too. The issue is - how do you find the equivalent to glasses for your ADD relationship? The thing that makes it easier both for you and for those around you?

No posts here? I guess people only like to talk about problems. I think thats human nature, not ADHD. Joy, in a marriage with ADHD. I assure there's rarely a dull monment. Both of us are. We get some good laughs at the others expense and one of my favorite hobbies is making fun of myself and all wonderful things I get myself into- some of which I think may only take place in the life of a person with ADHD. I'm sure there's more, but I've typed more on this forum in last 2 days than I did in all of 2007. So I'm going to shut off the computer and give my fingers a break.

I'd like to start a conversation with input from people with ADHD and even from Dr. Hallowell about the impact it has on a person with ADHD when people who may or may not understand it are trying to manage or fix the person and what some are calling shortfalls.

I just answered part of my question in a reply to another post- by groups like CHADD and recomendations of others. I'm asking more along the lines of credentials, experience, and style. Well, I guess too- other sources for recomendations. Is there any sort criterea or resource to find someone who actually specializes in the topic? I have a hang up about the medical field becasue I've run into people and offices who are clearly more intersted in their business interests than what I wanted or needed.

First a little background. Within the past few years, both my wife and I have been diagnosed as having ADD. I’ve been more active in seeking help with “fixing” some of related aspects of my life than she has with education, medication, and counseling. Lately I’ve felt like I’ve been bogged down on making any progress and have slipped back into some of my old habits like clutter, too many projects started at once (and not finishing them), dropping the ball or being forgetful on important things, and I’m back to a general “fly by the seat of my pants” approach to things.

My wife and I are both ADHD and both recently diagnosed, which has helped explain a lot. Through prayer, stubbornness and Omega 3 we are just beginning to figure things out. Yet if ADHD in marriage were a sport, I'd certainly be playing defense. I am laughing about it now, but I had to take the day off work to write the following to my wife explaining another incident. I'm sorry it is a bit lengthy, but I thought I'd just post in entirety what I've written her.

Hi everybody, I need some advice about financial organization. Both my husband and I have been diagnosed with ADHD, which means that we both procrastinate mightily when it comes to paying bills and doing other financial stuff. It's incredibly frustrating to make the same mistake over and over and over, not to mention expensive as I have to pay late fees that I wouldn't have to if I'd paid the darn bill on time.

I am a non ADD spouse entering into our 19th year of marriage. We have had major communication difficulties right from the beginning, and LOTS of marriage counseling. We ended up separating in our 13th year. It was during this time that I came across a one page article entitled ‘Can your marriage be saved?’ The husband was ADHD. WOW! That article explained my husband to a T, (he’s ADD) and has also helped me understand what was holding back our son. My husband moved back home 3 years later, and we have both made a concentrated effort towards reconciliation.

Good Afternoon, My wife and I have been married for a little over a year and she is taking Adderall XR. Does anyone know of any adverse effects it might have on, over-focusing on the negative in a relationship, increasing hostility, causing "bi-polar" type symptoms (rapid mood swings) or anything like that? She was not on it before marriage, started slightly after and I swear she is a different person from when we got married. Thank you Bob, NY

Hello, I'm starting to lose home in my marriage. I love my wife very much and we have been married for a little over a year. She is diagnosed with ADHD and is confident in talking about it and feels she is in total control of its symptoms. She is taking Adderall and has been for long before we were married.