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  • Sorry to hear that. It’s hard
    by: Groot Lover - 5 months 3 weeks ago
    Sorry to hear that. It’s hard at times. I don’t want use the adhd as an excuse for his behaviour. I’m guessing there’s a big learning curve for me. 
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  • Things in his head
    by: Swedish coast - 5 months 3 weeks ago
    During divorce, my ADD ex was deceitful and hurtful, explaining he hadn’t valued our years together, and that he was happy to get rid of me. It was hard to hear since I’d been his caregiver for years, supporting him financially and carrying the family responsibilities alone.  Then, a year later with no attempts from him whatsoever to make peace, he apparently told my mother he had conversations with me in his head every day. He was mulling about how things had gone wrong, and wanted to make...
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  • I did too
    by: honestly - 5 months 3 weeks ago
    I really did love him, and he broke me again and again. I kept pulling myself back together and working harder. After half a lifetime of this - 25 when I met him, together for 25 years - I collapsed, physically and emotionally, and could not pull myself back together again, even for the kids. This past year - just 10 months in fact since we split - I have been gradually reassembling something like myself, and reassessing his behaviour and no longer finding excuses for it.  Maybe I didn’t love...
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  • Sorry to hear this. I love my
    by: Groot Lover - 5 months 3 weeks ago
    Sorry to hear this. I love my husband dearly so I’m determined to make it work.  
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  • yes
    by: honestly - 5 months 3 weeks ago
    With my ex, I would find myself facing consequences of ‘decisions we’d made’ that I had been completely unaware of. On one occasion this involved him cancelling a lovely hotel so we could go stay with his ex girlfriend instead. Apparently we’d agreed this. I would never have agreed this; not in a million years. I ended up changing beds and making conversation with a woman I disliked rather than relaxing in a hotel. With him I thought of it as convenience rather than actually believing we had had the...
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  • Oh yes
    by: Swedish coast - 5 months 4 weeks ago
    Sadly. I loved him dearly, but the ADD has ruined it.
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  • As you say he’s your ex - was
    by: Groot Lover - 5 months 4 weeks ago
    As you say he’s your ex - was it the ADD that broke it for you? 
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  • Have seen this too
    by: Swedish coast - 5 months 4 weeks ago
    And my ADD ex partner was actually angry and disappointed at me for not having heard him. 
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  • also sorry
    by: honestly - 5 months 4 weeks ago
    What you describe is so close to what I experienced with my ex. Career hyperfocus and success, neglect, negativity and misery for everybody else. The DARVO, the gaslighting, the lying, the lack of empathy and the lashing out. I hope for you that you get out of it. There is happiness and peace on the other side. There’s healing. 
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  • Conversations are in his head!
    by: Groot Lover - 5 months 4 weeks ago
    I’m desperate for some advice!  My husband has continual conversations in his head but is then convinced that he’s had the conversation with me. When I question it he says I’m wrong and we argue. It’s like he’s gaslighting me constantly. I’ve tried to stay calm and the last time it happened I reminded him exactly how the conversation had gone without raising my voice and he eventually remembered what we’d discussed.  It’s like he has his own script that he thinks he’s said out loud but then...
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