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  • Learning how to navigate changes in intimacy
    by: LucyLu2024 - 5 months 3 weeks ago
    I appreciate the open discussion on intimacy. I have been on the roller coaster of affection with my partner getting love bombed and now nothing for weeks. I understand the ups and downs related to his ADHD but it can be very hard to be on the other side wondering when he is going to be interested in it again. When I try to approach the discussion, he gets defensive and I know has feelings of inadequacy. I’m trying to be understanding and gentle with my approach, but he doesn’t really want to discuss...
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  • Not Helping
    by: Orbital Seattlite - 1 month 3 weeks ago
    There are a lot of comments here about how this isn't an ADHD trait, and should be seen as a selfish or abusive behaviour. Except it absolutely is an ADHD trait, and should be approached as a perceptual blind-spot on the part of the ADHD partner: Reduced emotional empathy in adults with subclinical ADHD: evidence from the empathy and systemizing quotient (link removed) The Empathy/Systemising Quotient deals with the degree of emotional engagement vs systemising - an analytical...
    >>> on Forum topic - Absolutely no sympathy from husband when I'm sick! In fact, it seems to be my fault!

  • I don't really feel like I
    by: Saira - 2 months 1 week ago
    I don't really feel like I was being brave. More like, I don't know, like maybe there was room for a different perspective. I admit I kind of just expected to get shot down and told that I didn't understand what people like me put their partners through and I'd understand that. It wouldn't be completely wrong, but not completely right either. I do think I understand part of it. Maybe not full empathy, but I can grasp that it's extremely painful and frustrating from an objective standpoint at the very least...
    >>> on Forum topic - Do they realize as soon as they say they'll do something that they have no plans to ACTUALLY do it??

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