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feel like I’m at the end of my rope with my ADHD husband. His anger issues have gotten the best of me. I try and try but no matter what, it is always “my fault”. Last night, he was physically abusive to me. He is constantly mentally and verbally abusive. He has issues with other family members as well but always finds ways to blame everybody else. I’m at work now and I don’t even want to go home. I’ve asked him to go to anger management – he says no. I’m tired of walking on eggshells around him.

This really isn't about anger, but it is about frustration..and confusion.

When I was 33 years old and in my last semester (of many) before obtaining my bachelor's degree I was officially diagnosed with ADHD by a graduate student in the campus psychology clinic. I made my "big discovery" the previous year but it took me a year of struggles and raging against the reality of what my life had been for nearly three decades before I sought professional help.

My wife (the best on the planet) was all my prayers answered and not so ironically a special ed teacher. She helped me a great deal in the initial months and in the years since.

My husband a few months ago went to the Dr and while he was there I convinced him to ask the Dr about ADHD.  At this time I had moved out.  He told me when he asked the Dr about the matter he responded that he was too old to worry bout that.  Just this week I am at the end of my rope with him for all kinds of reasons.  I told him if he didn't go back and ask a Dr about that again and explain he needs to be diagnosed or find out something so things can get resolved in our marriage some how.  He is in Denial of the matter but I'm 100% sure he has it.  I know he was diagnosed 7 years ago whe

As I've mentioned in a few other posts I don't have a really bad marriage situation like a lot of people who post here.  I'm so sorry for how difficult many people's lives are.  When I heard Melissa talk about this book I really thought it sounded like my husband and I  thought if this is what's going on with us maybe we can improve our marriage by learning more.  After reading here though I sometimes wonder what am I thinking - my life is heaven compared to many.  I'm reading the book though and it's very good.  My husband has never been diagnosed with ADD/HD but the more I read the more

My husband has ADD, and takes everything SO PERSONALLY.  Including things, that non-ADD people would simply brush off.  They put him in a tailspin.  He keeps me up all night stressing, and eventually starts lashing out at me when I've done nothing but support and love him.  He says the most hurtful things to me.  So now, every time I hear that he's had a problem with his dad, or something at work, I know I have to brace myself because he's going to turn his angry reactions on me.

My husband was diagnosed with ADD about 17 years ago. We have been married for 15 years and things are beginning to fall apart.Here is the current situation: my daughter (from another marriage) has a son aged 2 ½ . This little boy just adores my husband who has a hard time interacting with him. My husband is oblivious to the fact that he doesn’t really interact with him. My daughter has been angry about this in the past and I have had discussions with my husband to make hi m aware of his non-interaction and he had corrected his behavior for a while.

I find your struggles so familiar.  I have been married 13 years.  We dated for 5 before that.  I loved the hyper focus lovefest--especially so because I am the adult child of alcoholic/co-dependent parents.  I also loved to rescue my ADHD man from his various crises. 

My husband was a very intelligent, funny, adventuresome, loving man.   He has always provided well for us, has had a very steady work history, and wanted to spend time together (bowling, vacations, ect.) He didn't need to be the center of attention, he was quiet and witty. Then ADD became dominate in his life and things began to unravel.

We have 23 years together, 2 kids, a house and a history together. Our future is not looking bright.

He has ADD is on fluxotine and dextroamphetamine XR (depression and ADD) and therapy once a week. 

Is there any evidence of this?

My husband has recently been diagnosed with ADD at age 42. No family history that I can see (in fact, everyone is a high achiever, professional, successful.)

My husband is very smart, well educated. He was a heavy pot smoker at a young age (12 or 13 to about 18.) He no longer smokes pot but does have some issues with alcohol.

Thoughts?