Best Selves
ADHD & Marriage News - January 6, 2026
Quote of the Week
“There is no crime, absolutely none, that connote be condoned when ‘our’ side commits it.”
- George Orwell
Best Selves
Well, I might not agree completely with this statement as I think there are crimes that aren’t ever condonable. But when one is talking about behavior in a relationship, then I think that this statement holds true. Do we not tend to criticize our partner for being angry, curt or hurtful yet ‘understand it’ when we do similar things ourselves?
I certainly fell into this pattern. For years it wasn’t okay for my husband to treat me poorly, but his inconsistent behaviors ‘justified’ my criticisms and anger in return. This kept on until I realized that not only did I not like him very much, but I also didn’t like ME very much, either. It was time to set my own standards – and stick to them!
Partners do best when they conscientiously contribute their ‘best selves’ to their relationship and I challenge all with whom I work to look at their own behavior with an objective eye. Would they like to be with themselves if they were in the same room?
How about you? Are you contributing your ‘best self?” If not, look back to your most important values and ask yourself how you might do better. Your situation will likely improve.
REGISTRATION OPEN:
LIVE! Couples' ADHD Effect In-Depth Seminar - starts January 14th.
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Use code gift40 at checkout to take $40 off registration.
Our life-changing ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar has helped hundreds of couples 'do better'
➤ REGISTER NOW - Starts January 14th
This 9-session Zoom seminar has helped many couples thrive in healthier, happier relationships. Questions? Contact us. "Thank you for such a life-changing seminar. It was the best and most effective money and time we ever spent." It provides hope, information and the tools you need to move towards a HAPPIER, HEALTHIER & THRIVING RELATIONSHIP.
NON-ADHD Partner Support Groups
➤ REGISTER NOW - Starting THIS WEEK!!
Understand how ADHD impacts emotional connections, communication, and day-to-day relationship dynamics. Each Zoom session focuses on topics chosen by group members for in-depth exploration and actionable strategies.
Join a community exploring similar issues, learn from each other's successes & struggles and find new, more effective ways to be your best self in your relationship.
i2a Masterclass: Mastering Learning Conversation
➤ REGISTER NOW Jan 7th
Free, one-hour webinar — How to Turn Tension into Understanding in ADHD-Impacted Relationships. Learning conversations are structured, compassionate dialogues that replace blame with curiosity and create safety for real connection. Discover practical strategies, examples and tools to apply at home right away! Plus, ask your questions live with an ADHD & Marriage Expert Consultant.
Seminars, Groups:
Intent to Action (i2a) Membership Program - (Registration Ongoing). i2a helps couples impacted by ADHD find practical strategies, a safe space to work through challenges, and a supportive community of peers. Our mission is to equip you with actionable expert guidance, a reduced sense of isolation, and foster real, lasting change in your relationships. Learn more and sign up here!
- i2a Masterclass: Mastering Learning Conversation - Jan 7th.
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i2a Foundation Courses - New! These courses bring together the core concepts, tools, and practices that help ADHD-impacted couples move out of distance and reactivity and into improved teamwork and connection. The i2a Foundation Courses offer a shared starting point—and a steady path forward. Exclusive to Intent To Action, and free for members, join us today for reliable support for your relationship to thrive!
Live ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - (Registration Open, Starts Jan 14th) Is your relationship in trouble? Melissa and senior consultants help partners improve their lives together in this premier 9-session ZOOM seminar that has changed the lives of many, many couples impacted by ADHD. Mental Health Professionals, learn about our Affiliates Program.
The Self-Study Seminar - (Ongoing) Move at your own pace. Includes materials & recordings from recent live seminar lessons and Q&As. 3 months of Office Hours to support your learning! Military and Mental Health Professional discounts.
Non ADHD Partner Support Group - (Registration Open, Starting NOW) - Join a community exploring similar issues; learn from each other's successes and struggles; find new, more effective ways to be your best self in your relationship.
Foundations in Habit Development - This special series is for ADHD partners who have completed The ADHD Effect Couples' Seminar. This two month program helps you solidify the changes you have started to make.
ADHD & Marriage Consulting Group - (Ongoing) - Work with an ADHD expert who understand the issues faced by individuals and couples impacted by ADHD. We STRONGLY recommend you also take the ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar
Couples Support Group - (Full) - Seven sessions. 5 couples only will work with Internal Family Systems (IFS) master facilitator, Jason Weber, to understand what ‘parts’ of themselves are participating in the parent-child dynamics and learn how to compassionately move away from it.
Therapist Training & more - (Ongoing) - For counselors, therapists, social workers, coaches, and other professionals who currently work with adults and couples impacted by ADHD, or who would like training to help improve their skills in this important therapeutic area.
Free Resources:
- Weekly Marriage Tips email newsletters;
- Free Treatment E-book "How to Optimize Treatment for Adult ADHD";
- A community forum with other couples facing similar issues;
- A large number of blog posts on various topics;
- Referrals for ADHD-Savvy Therapists;
- Chore Score Worksheet;
- Recommended Reading for Couples Impacted by Adult ADHD
- The ADHD Effect on Marriage, Huff Post's top book that therapists suggest all couples should read.
Is there hope? This video may help you answer that question:
Register for free marriage tips here! "Your weekly messages are beyond wonderful to receive, I cannot thank you enough! Please know the gifts that you give are treasured."
For those in marriages impacted by ADHD
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Adult ADHD can have a huge impact on your relationship. ADHDmarriage.com can literally change your life! Questions? Contact us |
© 2026 Melissa Orlov |
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Unrealistic Expectations
ADHD & Marriage News - December 30, 2025
Quote of the Week
“It’s always helpful to remember that when perfectionism is driving, shame is riding shotgun.”
- Brene Brown, in Rising Strong
Unrealistic Expectations
Satisfaction, happiness, and self-esteem are related to the gap between expectations and reality. The smaller the gap, the higher the levels of happiness and self-esteem are.
This creates a problem for adults with ADHD, because expectations are generally that they will perform just as well as those who aren’t encumbered by ADHD symptoms, simply because they are adults. Though they often do perform well – and even excel - on big picture tasks (think starting a new company) and in high pressure emergency situations (think day trader; emergency room physician) the mundane parts of life can be tough. Forget about perfectionism…ADHD symptoms get in the way of meeting ‘regular’ expectations! Most ADHD adults experience a lot of shame, even if they aren’t talking about it.
Be aware of triggering that shame (shame does not lead to positive responses in most cases!) And, if you are the partner with the ADHD, get to understand the ins and outs of your specific ADHD. “Right size” your expectations to fit where you are in the treatment optimization process. Over time, you can – and should! - learn skills to help you perform reliably. In the meantime, don’t torture yourself with unrealistic expectations.
Talk with your partner about your specific plans, goals and expectations as you set them so you are both on the same page.
Happy New Year! May we continue to support and inspire each other, embrace new opportunities, face challenges with courage, and fill our hearts with love and gratitude.
REGISTRATION OPEN:
LIVE! Couples' ADHD Effect In-Depth Seminar
Want to do better? ... (who doesn't?!) Our life-changing ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar has helped hundreds of couples 'do better'. Don't delay, it starts on January 14th.
No matter where you are in the world.... you can take this 9-session Zoom Seminar. It has helped many, many couples thrive in healthier, happier relationships. Questions? Contact us. "Thank you for such a life-changing seminar. It was the best and most effective money and time we ever spent." It provides hope, information and the tools you need to move towards a HAPPIER, HEALTHIER & THRIVING RELATIONSHIP.
The next live seminar will be in Spring, 2026.
NON-ADHD Partner Support Groups
➤ REGISTER NOW Starts Jan 5th
Does your partner have ADHD? Each Zoom session focuses on one or two topics chosen by group members for in-depth exploration. Spots fill quickly — 4 sessions are already FULL!
Non-ADHD support groups' objectives:
- Join a community exploring similar issues
- Learn from each other's successes & struggles
- Find new, more effective ways to be your best self in your relationship.
i2a Masterclass: Mastering Learning Conversation
➤ REGISTER NOW Jan 7th
Free, one-hour webinar — How to Turn Tension into Understanding in ADHD-Impacted Relationships. Learning conversations are structured, compassionate dialogues that replace blame with curiosity and create safety for real connection. Discover practical strategies, examples and tools to apply at home right away! Plus, ask your questions live with an ADHD & Marriage Expert Consultant.
Seminars, Groups:
Intent to Action (i2a) Membership Program - (Registration Ongoing - Subscribe by Dec 31, 2025 to secure the special rate). i2a helps couples impacted by ADHD find practical strategies, a safe space to work through challenges, and a supportive community of peers. Our mission is to equip you with actionable expert guidance, a reduced sense of isolation, and foster real, lasting change in your relationships. Learn more and sign up here! i2a Masterclass: Mastering Learning Conversation - Jan 7th.
We are exceedingly excited to announce the i2a Foundation Courses! These courses bring together the core concepts, tools, and practices that help ADHD-impacted couples move out of distance and reactivity and into improved teamwork and connection. The i2a Foundation Courses offer a shared starting point—and a steady path forward. Exclusive to Intent To Action, and free for members, join us today for reliable support for your relationship to thrive!
Live ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - (Registration Open, Starts Jan 14th) Is your relationship in trouble? Melissa and senior consultants help partners improve their lives together in this premier 9-session ZOOM seminar that has changed the lives of many, many couples impacted by ADHD. Mental Health Professionals, learn about our Affiliates Program.
The Self-Study Seminar - (Ongoing) Move at your own pace. Includes materials & recordings from recent live seminar lessons and Q&As. 3 months of Office Hours to support your learning! Military and Mental Health Professional discounts.
Non ADHD Partner Support Group - (Registration Open, Starts Jan 5th - Spots fill quickly — 4 sessions are FULL!) - Join a community exploring similar issues; learn from each other's successes and struggles; find new, more effective ways to be your best self in your relationship.
Foundations in Habit Development - This special series is for ADHD partners who have completed The ADHD Effect Couples' Seminar. This two month program helps you solidify the changes you have started to make.
ADHD & Marriage Consulting Group - (Ongoing) - Work with an ADHD expert who understand the issues faced by individuals and couples impacted by ADHD. We STRONGLY recommend you also take the ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar
Couples Support Group - (Full) - Seven sessions. 5 couples only will work with Internal Family Systems (IFS) master facilitator, Jason Weber, to understand what ‘parts’ of themselves are participating in the parent-child dynamics and learn how to compassionately move away from it.
Therapist Training & more - (Ongoing) - For counselors, therapists, social workers, coaches, and other professionals who currently work with adults and couples impacted by ADHD, or who would like training to help improve their skills in this important therapeutic area.
Free Resources:
- Weekly Marriage Tips email newsletters;
- Free Treatment E-book "How to Optimize Treatment for Adult ADHD";
- A community forum with other couples facing similar issues;
- A large number of blog posts on various topics;
- Referrals for ADHD-Savvy Therapists;
- Chore Score Worksheet;
- Recommended Reading for Couples Impacted by Adult ADHD
- The ADHD Effect on Marriage, Huff Post's top book that therapists suggest all couples should read.
Is there hope? This video may help you answer that question:
Register for free marriage tips here! "Your weekly messages are beyond wonderful to receive, I cannot thank you enough! Please know the gifts that you give are treasured."
For those in marriages impacted by ADHD
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Adult ADHD can have a huge impact on your relationship. ADHDmarriage.com can literally change your life! Questions? Contact us |
© 2026 Melissa Orlov |
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Do Better
ADHD & Marriage News - December 23, 2025
Quote of the Week
“I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better I do better.”
- Maya Angelou
Do Better
Once you have learned just how much adult ADHD can impact your relationship I think you have actually got two relationships. The ‘old’ one and the ‘new’ one you are building. The old relationship included under-managed or undiagnosed ADHD and all of the symptoms and responses that go with it. You grew to struggle, but you did the best you could do given the information you had – responding in very human and understandable ways to the pressures that ADHD – and responses to ADHD – encouraged.
But the new relationship – the one you’re in once the two of you genuinely start to work on your ADHD-influenced interactions – that one can be so much better! You can be better equipped – with knowledge, strategies, forgiveness, treatment and so much more – and you can do better.
Take each day and make it the best, warmest, most reliable, most patient, happiest day you can….using the strategies you are learning about how to thrive with ADHD. Then string a series together…now that you both ‘know better’ you can and ‘do better.’
REGISTRATION OPEN:
LIVE! Couples' ADHD Effect In-Depth Seminar
Want to do better? ... (who doesn't?!) Our life-changing ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar has helped hundreds of couples 'do better'. Don't delay, it starts in THREE WEEKS on January 14th.
This 9-session Zoom seminar has helped many couples thrive in healthier, happier relationships. Questions? Contact us. "Thank you for such a life-changing seminar. It was the best and most effective money and time we ever spent." It provides hope, information and the tools you need to move towards a HAPPIER, HEALTHIER & THRIVING RELATIONSHIP.
The next live seminar will be in Spring, 2026.
NON-ADHD Partner Support Groups
➤ REGISTER NOW Starts Jan 5th
Does your partner have ADHD? Each Zoom session focuses on one or two topics chosen by group members for in-depth exploration. Spots fill quickly — 4 sessions are already FULL!
Non-ADHD support groups' objectives:
- Join a community exploring similar issues
- Learn from each other's successes & struggles
- Find new, more effective ways to be your best self in your relationship.
i2a Masterclass: Mastering Learning Conversation
➤ REGISTER NOW Jan 7th
Free, one-hour webinar — How to Turn Tension into Understanding in ADHD-Impacted Relationships. Learning conversations are structured, compassionate dialogues that replace blame with curiosity and create safety for real connection. Discover practical strategies, examples and tools to apply at home right away! Plus, ask your questions live with an ADHD & Marriage Expert Consultant.
Seminars, Groups:
Intent to Action (i2a) Membership Program - (Registration Ongoing - Subscribe by Dec 31, 2025 to secure the special rate). i2a helps couples impacted by ADHD find practical strategies, a safe space to work through challenges, and a supportive community of peers. Our mission is to equip you with actionable expert guidance, a reduced sense of isolation, and foster real, lasting change in your relationships. Learn more and sign up here! i2a Masterclass: Mastering Learning Conversation - Jan 7th.
We are exceedingly excited to announce the i2a Foundation Courses! These courses bring together the core concepts, tools, and practices that help ADHD-impacted couples move out of distance and reactivity and into improved teamwork and connection. The i2a Foundation Courses offer a shared starting point—and a steady path forward. Exclusive to Intent To Action, and free for members, join us today for reliable support for your relationship to thrive!
Live ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - (Registration Open, Starts Jan 14th) Is your relationship in trouble? Melissa and senior consultants help partners improve their lives together in this premier 9-session ZOOM seminar that has changed the lives of many, many couples impacted by ADHD. Mental Health Professionals, learn about our Affiliates Program.
The Self-Study Seminar - (Ongoing) Move at your own pace. Includes materials & recordings from recent live seminar lessons and Q&As. 3 months of Office Hours to support your learning! Military and Mental Health Professional discounts.
Non ADHD Partner Support Group - (Registration Open, Starts Jan 5th - Spots fill quickly — 4 sessions are FULL!) - Join a community exploring similar issues; learn from each other's successes and struggles; find new, more effective ways to be your best self in your relationship.
Foundations in Habit Development - This special series is for ADHD partners who have completed The ADHD Effect Couples' Seminar. This two month program helps you solidify the changes you have started to make.
ADHD & Marriage Consulting Group - (Ongoing) - Work with an ADHD expert who understand the issues faced by individuals and couples impacted by ADHD. We STRONGLY recommend you also take the ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar
Couples Support Group - (Full) - Seven sessions. 5 couples only will work with Internal Family Systems (IFS) master facilitator, Jason Weber, to understand what ‘parts’ of themselves are participating in the parent-child dynamics and learn how to compassionately move away from it.
Therapist Training & more - (Ongoing) - For counselors, therapists, social workers, coaches, and other professionals who currently work with adults and couples impacted by ADHD, or who would like training to help improve their skills in this important therapeutic area.
Free Resources:
- Weekly Marriage Tips email newsletters;
- Free Treatment E-book "How to Optimize Treatment for Adult ADHD";
- A community forum with other couples facing similar issues;
- A large number of blog posts on various topics;
- Referrals for ADHD-Savvy Therapists;
- Chore Score Worksheet;
- Recommended Reading for Couples Impacted by Adult ADHD
- The ADHD Effect on Marriage, Huff Post's top book that therapists suggest all couples should read.
Is there hope? This video may help you answer that question:
Register for free marriage tips here! "Your weekly messages are beyond wonderful to receive, I cannot thank you enough! Please know the gifts that you give are treasured."
For those in marriages impacted by ADHD
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|
Adult ADHD can have a huge impact on your relationship. ADHDmarriage.com can literally change your life! Questions? Contact us |
© 2026 Melissa Orlov |
|
How Alive Are You?
ADHD & Marriage News - December 16, 2025
Quote of the Week
“It matters not where or how far you travel…but how much alive you are.”
- Henry David Thoreau
How Alive Are You?
One of the things that attracted me to my husband was how much energy he has. He is truly alive – thinking all the time, enjoying his life, open to doing new things, ready to jump!
This sounds like many ADHD adults, and one of the things that saddens me is when the trials and troubles of life start to extinguish their fire. There are lots of ‘good reasons’ this happens, most of which have to do with ‘settling down’ and ‘acting like an adult’ - AKA ‘being more responsible.’ Being RELIABLE makes a good partner, to be sure, but this can be done poorly. Too much attention to being responsible is like putting a wet blanket on your life. If you always choose to do the chore because you must, then days, months, even years pass without the fuel that passions can provide.
Non-ADHD partners – overwhelmed with too much to do, also suffer greatly from becoming ‘too responsible.’ I know I sure did!
The most successful adults – ADHD or not – are those who let some fire and passion into their lives. They are purpose driven and eager. Open to new ideas. Willing to explore. They save at least some time to ‘play’ with things and ideas that are important to them. I’m lucky – my work is a passion. I also ‘play’ with music, bike riding, and life-long learning.
How about you? Do you have enough ‘play’ in your life to feel fulfilled? I’m not advocating all play and no work (as you might well end up out on the street!) but a balance.
As Thoreau asks…how alive are you?
REGISTRATION OPEN - No More Procrastinating:
LIVE! Couples' ADHD Effect In-Depth Seminar
➤ REGISTER NOW Starts Jan 14th
Our life-changing ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar starts January 14th! This 9-session Zoom seminar has helped many couples thrive in healthier, happier relationships. Register Now. Questions? Contact us. "Thank you for such a life-changing seminar. It was the best and most effective money and time we ever spent." It provides hope, information and the tools you need to move towards a HAPPIER, HEALTHIER & THRIVING RELATIONSHIP.
The next live seminar will be in Spring, 2026.
NON-ADHD Partner Support Groups
➤ REGISTER NOW Starts Jan 5th
Does your partner have ADHD? Each Zoom session focuses on one or two topics chosen by group members for in-depth exploration. Spots fill quickly — 4 sessions are already FULL!
Non-ADHD support groups' objectives:
- Join a community exploring similar issues
- Learn from each other's successes & struggles
- Find new, more effective ways to be your best self in your relationship.
i2a Masterclass: Mastering Learning Conversation
➤ REGISTER NOW Jan 7th
Free, one-hour webinar — How to Turn Tension into Understanding in ADHD-Impacted Relationships. Learning conversations are structured, compassionate dialogues that replace blame with curiosity and create safety for real connection. Discover practical strategies, examples and tools to apply at home right away! Plus, ask your questions live with an ADHD & Marriage Expert Consultant.
Seminars, Groups:
Intent to Action (i2a) Membership Program - (Registration Ongoing - Subscribe by Dec 31, 2025 to secure the special rate). i2a helps couples impacted by ADHD find practical strategies, a safe space to work through challenges, and a supportive community of peers. Our mission is to equip you with actionable expert guidance, a reduced sense of isolation, and foster real, lasting change in your relationships. Learn more and sign up here! i2a Masterclass: Mastering Learning Conversation - Jan 7th.
We are exceedingly excited to announce the i2a Foundation Courses! These courses bring together the core concepts, tools, and practices that help ADHD-impacted couples move out of distance and reactivity and into improved teamwork and connection. The i2a Foundation Courses offer a shared starting point—and a steady path forward. Exclusive to Intent To Action, and free for members, join us today for reliable support for your relationship to thrive!
Live ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - (Registration Open, Starts Jan 14th) Is your relationship in trouble? Melissa and senior consultants help partners improve their lives together in this premier 9-session ZOOM seminar that has changed the lives of many, many couples impacted by ADHD. Mental Health Professionals, learn about our Affiliates Program.
The Self-Study Seminar - (Ongoing) Move at your own pace. Includes materials & recordings from recent live seminar lessons and Q&As. 3 months of Office Hours to support your learning! Military and Mental Health Professional discounts.
Non ADHD Partner Support Group - (Registration Open, Starts Jan 5th - Spots fill quickly — 4 sessions are FULL!) - Join a community exploring similar issues; learn from each other's successes and struggles; find new, more effective ways to be your best self in your relationship.
Foundations in Habit Development - This special series is for ADHD partners who have completed The ADHD Effect Couples' Seminar. This two month program helps you solidify the changes you have started to make.
ADHD & Marriage Consulting Group - (Ongoing) - Work with an ADHD expert who understand the issues faced by individuals and couples impacted by ADHD. We STRONGLY recommend you also take the ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar
Couples Support Group - (Full) - Seven sessions. 5 couples only will work with Internal Family Systems (IFS) master facilitator, Jason Weber, to understand what ‘parts’ of themselves are participating in the parent-child dynamics and learn how to compassionately move away from it.
Therapist Training & more - (Ongoing) - For counselors, therapists, social workers, coaches, and other professionals who currently work with adults and couples impacted by ADHD, or who would like training to help improve their skills in this important therapeutic area.
Free Resources:
- Weekly Marriage Tips email newsletters;
- Free Treatment E-book "How to Optimize Treatment for Adult ADHD";
- A community forum with other couples facing similar issues;
- A large number of blog posts on various topics;
- Referrals for ADHD-Savvy Therapists;
- Chore Score Worksheet;
- Recommended Reading for Couples Impacted by Adult ADHD
- The ADHD Effect on Marriage, Huff Post's top book that therapists suggest all couples should read.
Is there hope? This video may help you answer that question:
Register for free marriage tips here! "Your weekly messages are beyond wonderful to receive, I cannot thank you enough! Please know the gifts that you give are treasured."
For those in marriages impacted by ADHD
|
|
Adult ADHD can have a huge impact on your relationship. ADHDmarriage.com can literally change your life! Questions? Contact us |
© 2026 Melissa Orlov |
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Meandering Conversations
ADHD & Marriage News - December 9, 2025
Quote of the Week
“Not all those who wander are lost.”
- J.R. R. Tolkien
Meandering Conversations
The ADHD mind wanders…a lot! It comes upon something interesting and off it goes, exploring it! And conversations often meander, too. I had one man with ADHD tell me that he ‘liked to talk about things in the same way that a movie unfolds – with overlapping plot lines.’ His ‘straight-line-from-point-A-to-point-B’ wife was completely fed up!
Having a mind (and conversational style) that meanders takes time. It doesn’t arrive at its landing point in the fastest possible way. Yet wandering is not an indication that the person is broken or doesn’t have a valid point of view. It’s just stylistic. Furthermore, that meandering can bring really interesting ideas…if you only have the patience to follow the journey.
Note to non-ADHD partners: it’s my experience that non-ADHD partners may not understand WHY the ideas brought in by mental exploration and meandering are interesting at the time…in my own case, my own desire to ‘get things done so I could move on’ (i.e. impatience) got in the way of appreciating the twists and turns of my ADHD family members’ minds. It was not until my kids were a bit older and I could start to slow down more that I could enjoy these ‘journeys’ with my family members more.
So here’s the kicker. If you slow down and learn to enjoy the journey simply because your partner is taking you on it, three things can happen: your partner starts to open up to you more often; your partner starts to feel more appreciated and happy; and you actually start to enjoy yourself because you and your partner are sharing more deeply. You become more connected.
What could you start doing to ‘enjoy the journey’ more?
REGISTRATION OPEN:
LIVE Couples' Seminar with Melissa Orlov - The ADHD Effect In-Depth
➤ REGISTER NOW Starts Jan 14th
9 Sessions / Wednesdays, 8:00pm - 9:45pm EST. Melissa's premier seminar has changed the lives of many, many couples impacted by ADHD. It provides hope, information and the tools you need to move towards a HAPPIER, HEALTHIER & THRIVING RELATIONSHIP.
The next live seminar will be in Spring, 2026.
NON-ADHD Partner Support Groups
➤ REGISTER NOW Starts Jan 5th
Does your partner have ADHD? Each Zoom session focuses on one or two topics chosen by group members for in-depth exploration.
Non-ADHD support groups' objectives:
- Join a community exploring similar issues
- Learn from each other's successes & struggles
- Find new, more effective ways to be your best self in your relationship.
i2a Masterclass: Mastering Learning Conversation
➤ REGISTER NOW Jan 7th
Free, one-hour webinar — How to Turn Tension into Understanding in ADHD-Impacted Relationships. Learning conversations are structured, compassionate dialogues that replace blame with curiosity and create safety for real connection. Discover practical strategies, examples and tools to apply at home right away! Plus, ask your questions live with an ADHD & Marriage Expert Consultant.
Seminars, Groups:
Intent to Action (i2a) Membership Program - (Registration Ongoing - Subscribe by Dec 31, 2025 to secure the special rate). i2a helps couples impacted by ADHD find practical strategies, a safe space to work through challenges, and a supportive community of peers. Our mission is to equip you with actionable expert guidance, a reduced sense of isolation, and foster real, lasting change in your relationships. Learn more and sign up here! i2a Masterclass: Mastering Learning Conversation - Jan 7th.
Live ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - (Registration Open, Starts Jan 14th) Is your relationship in trouble? Melissa and senior consultants help partners improve their lives together in this premier 9-session ZOOM seminar that has changed the lives of many, many couples impacted by ADHD. Mental Health Professionals, learn about our Affiliates Program.
The Self-Study Seminar - (Ongoing) Move at your own pace. Includes materials & recordings from recent live seminar lessons and Q&As. 3 months of Office Hours to support your learning! Military and Mental Health Professional discounts.
Non ADHD Partner Support Group - (Registration Open, Starts Jan 5th) - Join a community exploring similar issues; learn from each other's successes and struggles; find new, more effective ways to be your best self in your relationship.
Foundations in Habit Development - This special series is for ADHD partners who have completed The ADHD Effect Couples' Seminar. This two month program helps you solidify the changes you have started to make.
ADHD & Marriage Consulting Group - (Ongoing) - Work with an ADHD expert who understand the issues faced by individuals and couples impacted by ADHD. We STRONGLY recommend you also take the ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar
Couples Support Group - (Full) - Seven sessions. 5 couples only will work with Internal Family Systems (IFS) master facilitator, Jason Weber, to understand what ‘parts’ of themselves are participating in the parent-child dynamics and learn how to compassionately move away from it.
Therapist Training & more - (Ongoing) - For counselors, therapists, social workers, coaches, and other professionals who currently work with adults and couples impacted by ADHD, or who would like training to help improve their skills in this important therapeutic area.
Free Resources:
- Weekly Marriage Tips email newsletters;
- Free Treatment E-book "How to Optimize Treatment for Adult ADHD";
- A community forum with other couples facing similar issues;
- A large number of blog posts on various topics;
- Referrals for ADHD-Savvy Therapists;
- Chore Score Worksheet;
- Recommended Reading for Couples Impacted by Adult ADHD
- The ADHD Effect on Marriage, Huff Post's top book that therapists suggest all couples should read.
Is there hope? This video may help you answer that question:
Register for free marriage tips here! "Your weekly messages are beyond wonderful to receive, I cannot thank you enough! Please know the gifts that you give are treasured."
For those in marriages impacted by ADHD
|
|
Adult ADHD can have a huge impact on your relationship. ADHDmarriage.com can literally change your life! Questions? Contact us |
© 2026 Melissa Orlov |
|
Should a Happy Marriage be Easy?
ADHD & Marriage News - December 3, 2025
Quote of the Week
“Through greater effort and hard work a precious dream comes true.”
- Chinese fortune cookie
Should a Happy Marriage be Easy?
I was reading about research interviews recently conducted with couples who had been married many decades. Karl Pillemer, a Cornell University gerontologist, and author of 30 Lessons for Loving, noted “Everybody – 100% - said at one point that the long marriage was the best thing in their lives. But all of them also either said that marriage is hard, or that it’s really, really hard.”
This sure aligns with my own experience, as well as the broader array of marriage research. We are taught to believe that great feelings and a happy marriage should be ‘easy’ and just come. That aligns with many courtship experiences and sells magazines, but doesn’t align with reality. The reality is that long-term, about 3% of couples end up staying in that romantic fairyland that we think is the ‘norm’ we somehow have missed.
Nope. A good marriage is really hard work!
Are your expectations based in reality?
REGISTRATION OPEN:
LIVE Couples' Seminar with Melissa Orlov - The ADHD Effect In-Depth
➤ REGISTER NOW
Starts Jan 14th - 9 Sessions / Wednesdays, 8:00pm - 9:45pm EST. This is Melissa Orlov's premier seminar that has changed the lives of many, many couples impacted by ADHD.
It provides hope, information and the tools you need to move towards a HAPPIER, HEALTHIER & THRIVING RELATIONSHIP.
The next live seminar will be in Spring, 2026.
ADHD Partner Support Groups
➤ REGISTER NOW Starts Jan 5th. There's a lot to work through and think about when you are married to a partner with ADHD. These support groups for non-ADHD partners are given by Zoom and led by trusted, ADHD-savvy professionals.
i2a Masterclass: Mastering Learning Conversation
➤ REGISTER NOW Jan 7th, 7:30-8:30pm EST - Free, one-hour webinar — How to Turn Tension into Understanding in ADHD-Impacted Relationships. Learning conversations are structured, compassionate dialogues that replace blame with curiosity and create safety for real connection. Discover practical strategies, examples and tools to apply at home right away! Plus, ask your questions live with an ADHD & Marriage Expert Consultant.
Seminars, Groups:
Intent to Action (i2a) Membership Program - (Registration Ongoing - Subscribe by Dec 31, 2025 to secure the special rate). i2a helps couples impacted by ADHD find practical strategies, a safe space to work through challenges, and a supportive community of peers. Our mission is to equip you with actionable expert guidance, a reduced sense of isolation, and foster real, lasting change in your relationships. Learn more and sign up here! i2a Masterclass: Mastering Learning Conversation - Jan 7th.
Live ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - (Registration Open, Starts Jan 14th) Is your relationship in trouble? Melissa and senior consultants help partners improve their lives together in this premier 9-session ZOOM seminar that has changed the lives of many, many couples impacted by ADHD. Mental Health Professionals, learn about our Affiliates Program.
The Self-Study Seminar - (Ongoing) Move at your own pace. Includes materials & recordings from recent live seminar lessons and Q&As. 3 months of Office Hours to support your learning! Military and Mental Health Professional discounts.
Non ADHD Partner Support Group - (Registration Open, Starts Jan 5th) - Join a community exploring similar issues; learn from each other's successes and struggles; find new, more effective ways to be your best self in your relationship.
Foundations in Habit Development - This special series is for ADHD partners who have completed The ADHD Effect Couples' Seminar. This two month program helps you solidify the changes you have started to make.
ADHD & Marriage Consulting Group - (Ongoing) - Work with an ADHD expert who understand the issues faced by individuals and couples impacted by ADHD. We STRONGLY recommend you also take the ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar
Couples Support Group - (Full) - Seven sessions. 5 couples only will work with Internal Family Systems (IFS) master facilitator, Jason Weber, to understand what ‘parts’ of themselves are participating in the parent-child dynamics and learn how to compassionately move away from it.
Therapist Training & more - (Ongoing) - For counselors, therapists, social workers, coaches, and other professionals who currently work with adults and couples impacted by ADHD, or who would like training to help improve their skills in this important therapeutic area.
Free Resources:
- Weekly Marriage Tips email newsletters;
- Free Treatment E-book "How to Optimize Treatment for Adult ADHD";
- A community forum with other couples facing similar issues;
- A large number of blog posts on various topics;
- Referrals for ADHD-Savvy Therapists;
- Chore Score Worksheet;
- Recommended Reading for Couples Impacted by Adult ADHD
- The ADHD Effect on Marriage, Huff Post's top book that therapists suggest all couples should read.
Is there hope? This video may help you answer that question:
Register for free marriage tips here! "Your weekly messages are beyond wonderful to receive, I cannot thank you enough! Please know the gifts that you give are treasured."
For those in marriages impacted by ADHD
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Adult ADHD can have a huge impact on your relationship. ADHDmarriage.com can literally change your life! Questions? Contact us |
© 2026 Melissa Orlov |
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Speak the Truth
ADHD & Marriage News - November 26, 2025
Quote of the Week
“‘I’m the only person who cares about you enough to tell you the truth,’ (my friend said.) Why did I keep going back for more abuse? Because I figured her honesty was keeping me honest – when in fact it was just keeping me injured.”
- Elizabeth Gilbert
Speak The Truth
One woman whom I respect greatly tried to convince me that being forthright was her way, and speaking the truth as it came to mind was fine no matter how much it hurt. My husband (when he was angry) used to do this, too. I called it ‘the truth at all costs.’ It felt like a weapon, yielded to bludgeon me into submission.
The reality is that there are lots of ways to speak the truth, and they don’t all hurt. And in healthy relationships you actively seek to find ways to be honest with your partner that are constructive, not destructive. You may be a blunt and honest person, but you don’t have to hurt your partner in service of this habit…for it is a habit, not a core personality trait.
Speaking honestly and well means being aware of your partner’s trigger points and avoiding setting them off. That means using kind words, even if they are strong, rather than spiteful words. That means using soft starts and talking about your own feelings, rather than critiquing your partner’s actions.
And it means listening to your partner’s differing point of view and considering it fully. Listening and considering is a critical part of being honest with another.
REGISTRATION OPEN:
December 3, 2025, 7:30-8:30pm EST - i2a Masterclass: Mastering Learning Conversation - Reserve your spot today.
Free, one-hour webinar — How to Turn Tension into Understanding in ADHD-Impacted Relationships. Learning conversations are structured, compassionate dialogues that replace blame with curiosity and create safety for real connection. Discover practical strategies, examples, and have a chance to ask your questions live with an ADHD & Marriage Expert Consultant. Learn More and RSVP Now! Apply these tools at home right away!
LIVE Couples' Seminar with Melissa Orlov - The ADHD Effect In-Depth
➤ REGISTER NOW for the Live Winter 2026 Seminar!
Starts Jan 14th / 9 Sessions / Wednesdays, 8:00pm - 9:45pm EST. This is Melissa Orlov's premier seminar that has changed the lives of many, many couples impacted by ADHD.
It provides hope, information and the tools you need to move towards a HAPPIER, HEALTHIER & THRIVING RELATIONSHIP.
The next live seminar will be in Spring, 2026.
ADHD Partner Support Groups
➤ REGISTER NOW. There's a lot to work through and think about when you are married to a partner with ADHD. These support groups for non-ADHD partners are given by Zoom and led by trusted, ADHD-savvy professionals.
Seminars, Groups:
Intent to Action (i2a) Membership Program - (Registration Ongoing) i2a helps couples impacted by ADHD find practical strategies, a safe space to work through challenges, and a supportive community of peers. Our mission is to equip you with actionable expert guidance, a reduced sense of isolation, and foster real, lasting change in your relationships. Learn more and sign up here!
Intent to Action (i2a) Book Club - Experts talk about their books. Join us!
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December 1st 7:30p EST: We're thrilled to announce that Dr. Sharon Saline will join us on to talk about her fabulous book What Your ADHD Child Wishes You Knew.
- "In the Community Forum and Office Hours I got ideas for how to look at things from my partners point of view, and it helped me so much to get direction on a different way to handle a long term issue -- and it really helped where I was really stuck!" (Non ADHD Partner)
Live ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - (Registration open) Is your relationship in trouble? Melissa and senior consultants help partners improve their lives together in this premier 9-session ZOOM seminar that has changed the lives of many, many couples impacted by ADHD. Mental Health Professionals, learn about our Affiliates Program.
The Self-Study Seminar - (Ongoing) Move at your own pace. Includes materials & recordings from recent live seminar lessons and Q&As. 3 months of Office Hours to support your learning! Military and Mental Health Professional discounts.
Non ADHD Partner Support Group - (Registration open) - Join a community exploring similar issues; learn from each other's successes and struggles; find new, more effective ways to be your best self in your relationship.
Foundations in Habit Development - This special series is for ADHD partners who have completed The ADHD Effect Couples' Seminar. This two month program helps you solidify the changes you have started to make.
ADHD & Marriage Consulting Group - (Ongoing) - Work with an ADHD expert who understand the issues faced by individuals and couples impacted by ADHD. We STRONGLY recommend you also take the ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar
Couples Support Group - (Full) - Seven sessions. 5 couples only will work with Internal Family Systems (IFS) master facilitator, Jason Weber, to understand what ‘parts’ of themselves are participating in the parent-child dynamics and learn how to compassionately move away from it.
Therapist Training & more - (Ongoing) - For counselors, therapists, social workers, coaches, and other professionals who currently work with adults and couples impacted by ADHD, or who would like training to help improve their skills in this important therapeutic area.
Free Resources:
- Weekly Marriage Tips email newsletters;
- Free Treatment E-book "How to Optimize Treatment for Adult ADHD";
- A community forum with other couples facing similar issues;
- A large number of blog posts on various topics;
- Referrals for ADHD-Savvy Therapists;
- Chore Score Worksheet;
- Recommended Reading for Couples Impacted by Adult ADHD
- The ADHD Effect on Marriage, Huff Post's top book that therapists suggest all couples should read.
Is there hope? This video may help you answer that question:
Register for free marriage tips here! "Your weekly messages are beyond wonderful to receive, I cannot thank you enough! Please know the gifts that you give are treasured."
For those in marriages impacted by ADHD
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Adult ADHD can have a huge impact on your relationship. ADHDmarriage.com can literally change your life! Questions? Contact us |
© 2026 Melissa Orlov |
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Reinforce the Positive
ADHD & Marriage News - November 19, 2025
Quote of the Week
“Whether you think you can or you think you can't, you're right”
- Hallowell NYC Center wall
Reinforce the Positive
Research in psychology and behavioral science clearly shows us that how we think about our situation – and our future – impacts what happens next. In fact, fMRI scans demonstrate that our outlooks impact the actual wiring of our brains. When we practice mindfulness, for example, the parts of our brain that reinforce the positive and optimism become stronger.
In relationships impacted by ADHD, thinking you can or can’t is critically important. If you convince yourself that past struggles will always continue because that’s been the pattern in the past (before you knew how to handle ADHD and responses to ADHD) then little progress will be made. Every positive change will be discounted as an aberration, rather than as a move towards a brighter, and better, future.
Eventually, the idea that ‘we can’t do this’ will become a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Instead, choose to stay open to the positive:
- Non-ADHD partners do best when they learn to say ‘thank you’ and ‘I noticed that!’
- ADHD partners thrive when they think “I may have fallen short of my goal right now, but I CAN do this!”
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Celebrate small victories, and don’t interpret the inevitable stumbles as an indication that change is impossible.
Yes, you can!
Highlights:
December 3, 2025, 7:30-8:30pm EST - i2a Masterclass: Mastering Learning Conversation - Reserve your spot today.
Free, one-hour webinar — How to Turn Tension into Understanding in ADHD-Impacted Relationships
Want to talk to your partner without it turning into a fight or a shutdown?
Learning conversations are structured, compassionate dialogues that replace blame with curiosity and create safety for real connection.
Discover practical strategies, examples, and have a chance to ask your questions live with an ADHD & Marriage Expert Consultant.
Learn More and RSVP Now! Apply these tools at home right away!
Registration Open - Non ADHD Partner Support Group
Seminars, Groups:
Intent to Action (i2a) Membership Program - (Registration Ongoing) i2a helps couples impacted by ADHD find practical strategies, a safe space to work through challenges, and a supportive community of peers. Our mission is to equip you with actionable expert guidance, a reduced sense of isolation, and foster real, lasting change in your relationships. Learn more and sign up here!
Intent to Action (i2a) Book Club - Experts talk about their books. Join us!
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December 1st 7:30p EST: We're thrilled to announce that Dr. Sharon Saline will join us on to talk about her fabulous book What Your ADHD Child Wishes You Knew.
- "In the Community Forum and Office Hours I got ideas for how to look at things from my partners point of view, and it helped me so much to get direction on a different way to handle a long term issue -- and it really helped where I was really stuck!" (Non ADHD Partner)
Live ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - Is your relationship in trouble? Melissa and senior consultants help partners improve their lives together in this premier 9-session ZOOM seminar that has changed the lives of many, many couples impacted by ADHD. Mental Health Professionals, learn about our Affiliates Program.
The Self-Study Seminar - (Ongoing) Move at your own pace. Includes materials & recordings from recent live seminar lessons and Q&As. 3 months of Office Hours to support your learning! Military and Mental Health Professional discounts.
Non ADHD Partner Support Group - (Registration open) - Join a community exploring similar issues; learn from each other's successes and struggles; find new, more effective ways to be your best self in your relationship.
Foundations in Habit Development - This special series is for ADHD partners who have completed The ADHD Effect Couples' Seminar. This two month program helps you solidify the changes you have started to make.
ADHD & Marriage Consulting Group - (Ongoing) - Work with an ADHD expert who understand the issues faced by individuals and couples impacted by ADHD. We STRONGLY recommend you also take the ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar
Couples Support Group - (Full) - Seven sessions. 5 couples only will work with Internal Family Systems (IFS) master facilitator, Jason Weber, to understand what ‘parts’ of themselves are participating in the parent-child dynamics and learn how to compassionately move away from it.
Therapist Training & more - (Ongoing) - For counselors, therapists, social workers, coaches, and other professionals who currently work with adults and couples impacted by ADHD, or who would like training to help improve their skills in this important therapeutic area.
Free Resources:
- Weekly Marriage Tips email newsletters;
- Free Treatment E-book "How to Optimize Treatment for Adult ADHD";
- A community forum with other couples facing similar issues;
- A large number of blog posts on various topics;
- Referrals for ADHD-Savvy Therapists;
- Chore Score Worksheet;
- Recommended Reading for Couples Impacted by Adult ADHD
- The ADHD Effect on Marriage, Huff Post's top book that therapists suggest all couples should read.
Is there hope? This video may help you answer that question:
Register for free marriage tips here! "Your weekly messages are beyond wonderful to receive, I cannot thank you enough! Please know the gifts that you give are treasured."
For those in marriages impacted by ADHD
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Adult ADHD can have a huge impact on your relationship. ADHDmarriage.com can literally change your life! Questions? Contact us |
© 2026 Melissa Orlov |
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Savor the Journey
ADHD & Marriage News - November 12, 2025
Quote of the Week
“Sometimes when you plan a little less, you experience a little more.”
- Oprah Winfrey
Savor the Journey
One of the differences between non-ADHD partners and ADHD partners is that the former tend to like to go from point A to point B in something that resembles a straight line. People with ADHD rarely do this. A few use planning things out in great detail as a way to keep their lives under control.
Yet for anyone who likes to ‘stay on track’ there is much to be gained by learning to savor the journey…celebrating and enjoying what happens along the way, rather than focusing on how it might take longer or upset your schedule.
Living in a straight line is efficient – something that Americans value greatly. But it usually isn’t ‘deepening,’ and that is where a lot of the best parts of relationships lie. When done right, saying ‘yes’ rather than ‘we don’t have time’ can create opportunities to enjoy together, to get to know each other better, to explore new places or ideas, or simply to smile.
Don’t misunderstand me. I’m not suggesting you get to the emergency room in Boston by way of Des Moines. There are times in your life when that straight line is absolutely necessary. It’s just not as often as many non-ADHD partners think it is.
Can you find time to savor the journey this week?
Highlights:
i2a Masterclass: Mastering Learning Conversation - December 3, 2025, 7:30-8:30pm EST Reserve your spot today.
Our November masterclass filled fast — we’ve added one more!
Want to talk to your partner without it turning into a fight or a shutdown?
Learning conversations are structured, compassionate dialogues that replace blame with curiosity and create safety for real connection.
Learn More and RSVP Now! Apply these tools at home right away!
November 13th, 6:00pm EST - Registration Opens:
Seminars, Groups:
Intent to Action (i2a) Membership Program - (Registration Ongoing) i2a helps couples impacted by ADHD find practical strategies, a safe space to work through challenges, and a supportive community of peers. Our mission is to equip you with actionable expert guidance, a reduced sense of isolation, and foster real, lasting change in your relationships. Learn more and sign up here!
Intent to Action (i2a) Book Club - Experts talk about their books. Join us!
-
December 1st 7:30p EST: We're thrilled to announce that Dr. Sharon Saline will join us on to talk about her fabulous book What Your ADHD Child Wishes You Knew.
- "It's so great to get all of this support for a small amount every month. It was very cost effective to join i2a -- it's hard to find folks who know about ADHD impacted relationships, so i2a is everything on a platter! You can't get 1 hour of counseling for our monthly price." (Non ADHD Partner)
Live ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - Is your relationship in trouble? Melissa and senior consultants help partners improve their lives together in this premier 9-session ZOOM seminar that has changed the lives of many, many couples impacted by ADHD. Mental Health Professionals, learn about our Affiliates Program.
The Self-Study Seminar - (Ongoing) Move at your own pace. Includes materials & recordings from recent live seminar lessons and Q&As. 3 months of Office Hours to support your learning! Military and Mental Health Professional discounts.
Non ADHD Partner Support Group - Registration will open Thursday, November 13th at 6:00pm EST. Join a community exploring similar issues; learn from each other's successes and struggles; find new, more effective ways to be your best self in your relationship.
Foundations in Habit Development - This special series is for ADHD partners who have completed The ADHD Effect Couples' Seminar. This two month program helps you solidify the changes you have started to make.
ADHD & Marriage Consulting Group - (Ongoing). Work with an ADHD expert who understand the issues faced by individuals and couples impacted by ADHD. We STRONGLY recommend you also take the ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar
Couples Support Group - Registration will open Thursday, November 13th at 6:00pm EST. Seven sessions. 5 couples only will work with Internal Family Systems (IFS) master facilitator, Jason Weber, to understand what ‘parts’ of themselves are participating in the parent-child dynamics and learn how to compassionately move away from it.
Therapist Training & more - (Ongoing). For counselors, therapists, social workers, coaches, and other professionals who currently work with adults and couples impacted by ADHD, or who would like training to help improve their skills in this important therapeutic area.
Free Resources:
- Weekly Marriage Tips email newsletters;
- Free Treatment E-book "How to Optimize Treatment for Adult ADHD";
- A community forum with other couples facing similar issues;
- A large number of blog posts on various topics;
- Referrals for ADHD-Savvy Therapists;
- Chore Score Worksheet;
- Recommended Reading for Couples Impacted by Adult ADHD
- The ADHD Effect on Marriage, Huff Post's top book that therapists suggest all couples should read.
Is there hope? This video may help you answer that question:
Register for free marriage tips here! "Your weekly messages are beyond wonderful to receive, I cannot thank you enough! Please know the gifts that you give are treasured."
For those in marriages impacted by ADHD
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Adult ADHD can have a huge impact on your relationship. ADHDmarriage.com can literally change your life! Questions? Contact us |
© 2026 Melissa Orlov |
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Engage Your Pain
ADHD & Marriage News - November 5, 2025
Quote of the Week
“Pain is mandatory for all of us. It’s what teaches us. Suffering is what’s optional. That’s what happens when we try to skip over the pain.” -
- Glennon Doyle
Engage Your Pain
Pain is part of life. In my own life, much of that pain (though certainly not all) has come from trying to figure out how to live with the unexpected hitchhiker in my relationship – ADHD. At this point I’ve worked with a whole lot of couples doing the same thing and one thing is abundantly clear. You cannot move away from suffering this pain unless you engage with it. Confront the ADHD in yourself or your partner. Accept that it’s there, and allow it to teach you.
What can that pain teach? Compassion. Love. Understanding. Resilience. Your power to affect change in challenging circumstances. That together you can be triumphant.
In order to move away from pain and stop suffering, you have to move all the way through the pain cycle, which has several steps. Or, you can choose to avoid pain and disengage or retreat. If you do this latter, you will continue in your suffering, for what’s causing the pain will likely not go away. Even divorce, which can eliminate the issues a specific partner brings to the relationship, doesn’t fully address the pain. I have yet to meet a person who wouldn’t have preferred to be happily married to a past partner instead of divorced.
Can you be brave enough to engage with your pain, and take the steps you yourself need to take to start to work through it?
i2a Masterclass: Mastering Learning Conversations
Turn tension into understanding in your ADHD impacted relationship.
November 18 - FULL. Wow! We've had an overwhelmingly positive response to our Masterclass on Learning Conversations!
NEW DATE: December 3, 7:30p EST - We're opening a second date to make sure that all of you who want to join us, can.
RSVP Now!
Want to talk to your partner without it turning into a fight or a shutdown?
Learning conversations are structured, compassionate dialogues that replace blame with curiosity and create safety for real connection.
Learn More and RSVP Now! Apply these tools at home right away!
i2a Highlights:
i2a Book Clubs -- Experts joining us to talk about their books. Join us!
November 6th 8:30p EST: We get to talk to Dr. Lyne Piche again, this time more specifically about her book, ADHD & Sex. Melissa will facilitate this conversation – it’ll be a fun evening!
December 1st 7:30p EST: We're thrilled to announce that Dr. Sharon Saline will join us on to talk about her fabulous book What Your ADHD Child Wishes You Knew.
Seminars, Groups:
Intent to Action (i2a) Membership Program - (Registration Ongoing) i2a helps couples impacted by ADHD find practical strategies, a safe space to work through challenges, and a supportive community of peers. Our mission is to equip you with actionable expert guidance, a reduced sense of isolation, and foster real, lasting change in your relationships. Learn more and sign up here!
- "It's so great to get all of this support for a small amount every month. It was very cost effective to join i2a -- it's hard to find folks who know about ADHD impacted relationships, so i2a is everything on a platter! You can't get 1 hour of counseling for our monthly price." (Non ADHD Partner)
Live ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - Is your relationship in trouble? Melissa and senior consultants help partners improve their lives together in this premier 9-session ZOOM seminar that has changed the lives of many, many couples impacted by ADHD. Mental Health Professionals, learn about our Affiliates Program.
The Self-Study Seminar - (Ongoing) Move at your own pace. Includes materials & recordings from recent live seminar lessons and Q&As. 3 months of Office Hours to support your learning! Military and Mental Health Professional discounts.
Non ADHD Partner Support Group - Registration will open Thursday, November 13th at 6:00pm EST. Join a community exploring similar issues; learn from each other's successes and struggles; find new, more effective ways to be your best self in your relationship.
Foundations in Habit Development - This special series is for ADHD partners who have completed The ADHD Effect Couples' Seminar. This two month program helps you solidify the changes you have started to make.
ADHD & Marriage Consulting Group - (Ongoing). Work with an ADHD expert who understand the issues faced by individuals and couples impacted by ADHD. We STRONGLY recommend you also take the ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar
Couples Support Group - Registration will open Thursday, November 13th at 6:00pm EST. Seven sessions. 5 couples only will work with Internal Family Systems (IFS) master facilitator, Jason Weber, to understand what ‘parts’ of themselves are participating in the parent-child dynamics and learn how to compassionately move away from it.
Therapist Training & more - (Ongoing). For counselors, therapists, social workers, coaches, and other professionals who currently work with adults and couples impacted by ADHD, or who would like training to help improve their skills in this important therapeutic area.
Free Resources:
- Weekly Marriage Tips email newsletters;
- Free Treatment E-book "How to Optimize Treatment for Adult ADHD";
- A community forum with other couples facing similar issues;
- A large number of blog posts on various topics;
- Referrals for ADHD-Savvy Therapists;
- Chore Score Worksheet;
- Recommended Reading for Couples Impacted by Adult ADHD
- The ADHD Effect on Marriage, Huff Post's top book that therapists suggest all couples should read.
Is there hope? This video may help you answer that question:
Register for free marriage tips here! "Your weekly messages are beyond wonderful to receive, I cannot thank you enough! Please know the gifts that you give are treasured."
For those in marriages impacted by ADHD
|
|
Adult ADHD can have a huge impact on your relationship. ADHDmarriage.com can literally change your life! Questions? Contact us |
© 2026 Melissa Orlov |
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Knowledge is the first step to a thriving ADHD relationship. Join our upcoming live couples' seminar to learn what you need to know.
Next one starts on Jan 14, 2026. Sign up Now!
Need a little support? Join one of our small groups non-ADHD partner support groups, led by experts. Group starts Jan 2026. RSVP Now!
The ADHD Effect on Marriage was listed in Huff Post as a top book that therapists suggest all couples should read.
Register for free marriage tips here!
"Your weekly messages are beyond wonderful to receive, I cannot thank you enough! Please know the gifts that you give are treasured."
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