Weekly Marriage Tips

ADHD & Marriage News - April 27, 2026

Quote of the Week

“It is often forgotten that one of the most useful ways a parent can love a child is merely to notice who she is or what he does."

- Edward (Ned) Hallowell, M.D.

Are You Seen in Your Relationship? 

Do you feel heard and seen in your relationship?  If not, I’ve got a simple, but very effective routine for you and your partner.  I call it my ‘See and Be Seen’ exercise and it goes like this:

Pick a time each day to spend 5-10 minutes asking and answering the three questions below.  Set an alarm as you get going so you can make it a routine and do it every day.

1. Tell your partner something you appreciate about who s/he is or what s/he did THAT DAY

2. Ask your partner ‘what’s the most interesting or significant emotion you experienced today?’  (Don’t judge or rebut…just listen to the response and get to know your partner’s experience better)

3. Tell your partner something you appreciate about him/her IN GENERAL

Reverse roles.

Simple, but effective.

Intent to Action (i2a) Membership Program

➤ REGISTER NOW

Sign up for i2a before April 30: Get a FREE 30 minute consultation with an ADHD and Marriage Senior Consultant.

Seminars, Groups:

Intent to Action (i2a) Membership Program - (Registration Ongoing) - where couples stop feeling alone and start making real progress. 

What's inside:
→ Live Expert-led Office Hours
→ Weekly Action Tips to keep you engaged
→ Workshops with tools that work
→ Book Clubs
→ Community Discussion Forum
→ Unlimited Video Replays

Spring bonus! Get a FREE 30 minute consultation with an ADHD and Marriage Senior Consultant when you sign up for i2a before April 30th!

i2a delivers the strategies, expert support, and community that transform how ADHD-impacted couples communicate, collaborate, and connect. Learn more and sign up here!  

Live ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - (Next in Fall 2026) Is your relationship in trouble? Melissa and senior consultants help partners improve their lives together in this premier 9-session ZOOM seminar that has changed the lives of many, many couples impacted by ADHD. Mental Health Professionals, take $50 off and check out our Affiliates Program.

The Self-Study Seminar - (Ongoing)  Move at your own pace. Includes materials & recordings from recent live seminar lessons and Q&As. 3 months of Office Hours to support your learning! Military and Mental Health Professional discounts.

Non ADHD Partner Support Group - (Full) - Join a community exploring similar issues; learn from each other's successes and struggles; find new, more effective ways to be your best self in your relationship. 

ADHD Partner Support Group - (Fall 2026) Participants have space to speak honestly about what’s hard. Feel understood, connect with others who truly “get it” and gain valuable insight and advice. 

Couples Support Group - (Full) - Seven sessions. 5 couples only will work with Internal Family Systems (IFS) master facilitator, Jason Weber, to understand what ‘parts’ of themselves are participating in the parent-child dynamics and learn how to compassionately move away from it. 

Foundations in Habit Development - (Fall 2026) This special series is for ADHD partners who have completed The ADHD Effect Couples' Seminar. This two month program helps you solidify the changes you have started to make. 

ADHD & Marriage Consulting Group - (Ongoing) - Work with an ADHD expert who understand the issues faced by individuals and couples impacted by ADHD. We STRONGLY recommend you also take the ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar

Therapist Training & more - (Ongoing) - For counselors, therapists, social workers, coaches, and other professionals who currently work with adults and couples impacted by ADHD, or who would like training to help improve their skills in this important therapeutic area.

 Free Resources:

• Weekly Marriage Tips email newsletters;
• Free Treatment E-book "How to Optimize Treatment for Adult ADHD";
• A community forum with other couples facing similar issues;
• A large number of blog posts on various topics;
• Referrals for ADHD-Savvy Therapists;
• Chore Score Worksheet;
• Recommended Reading for Couples Impacted by Adult ADHD
• The ADHD Effect on Marriage, Huff Post's top book that therapists suggest all couples should read.

Is there hope?  This video may help you answer that question: 

• Our Team
• New Here? Is ADHDMarriage right for you?
• en Español

Register for free marriage tips here! "Your weekly messages are beyond wonderful to receive, I cannot thank you enough! Please know the gifts that you give are treasured."

ADHD & Marriage News - April 21, 2026

Quote of the Week

“All partnerships between people are mutually beneficial. They are all give and take. If they aren't give and take it's enslavement or war. I can't see any characteristics of the disorder ADHD that would render someone incapable of understanding the foundation of human relationships…"

- Poster with ADHD in the ADHDmarriage.com forum

ADHD and Responses to ADHD

Sometimes I hear people with ADHD claim that they will never be a good partner because of their ADHD.  This lack of hope and insight always saddens me, for the vast majority of adults with ADHD can manage that ADHD really well when they optimize their treatment.  And then it becomes not about ADHD, but about partnership.

Parent/child dynamics can interfere in ADHD-impacted relationships making it impossible to be partners.  But this isn’t about ADHD – it’s about ADHD AND responses to ADHD.  It’s about misinterpretation of symptoms, and poor coping strategies being used by both partners.  When full blown, parent/child interactions create both enslavement and war.  Horrible!

Rebalancing the power in relationships is what getting rid of parenting and child-like behaviors is all about.  ‘Parents’ learn to stop believing that ‘pushing’ and ‘dictating’ are the best way to get things done while ‘child-like’ ADHD partners stop giving up their autonomy and power to another…taking responsibility for being reliable enough in the relationship.  It is then that partners can negotiate – on equal terms – the give and take of a genuine partnership.

If you’re experiencing parent/child dynamics, it’s time to figure out how to move beyond this enslavement.  Consider enrolling in our Intent to Action (i2a) Membership Program for help.

Intent to Action (i2a) Membership Program

➤ REGISTER NOW

Sign up for i2a before April 30: Get a FREE 30 minute consultation with an ADHD and Marriage Senior Consultant.

Seminars, Groups:

Intent to Action (i2a) Membership Program - (Registration Ongoing) - where couples stop feeling alone and start making real progress. 

What's inside:
→ Live Expert-led Office Hours
→ Weekly Action Tips to keep you engaged
→ Workshops with tools that work
→ Book Clubs
→ Community Discussion Forum
→ Unlimited Video Replays

Spring bonus! Get a FREE 30 minute consultation with an ADHD and Marriage Senior Consultant when you sign up for i2a before April 30th!

i2a delivers the strategies, expert support, and community that transform how ADHD-impacted couples communicate, collaborate, and connect. Learn more and sign up here!  

Live ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - (Next in Fall 2026) Is your relationship in trouble? Melissa and senior consultants help partners improve their lives together in this premier 9-session ZOOM seminar that has changed the lives of many, many couples impacted by ADHD. Mental Health Professionals, take $50 off and check out our Affiliates Program.

The Self-Study Seminar - (Ongoing)  Move at your own pace. Includes materials & recordings from recent live seminar lessons and Q&As. 3 months of Office Hours to support your learning! Military and Mental Health Professional discounts.

Non ADHD Partner Support Group - (Full) - Join a community exploring similar issues; learn from each other's successes and struggles; find new, more effective ways to be your best self in your relationship. 

ADHD Partner Support Group - (Fall 2026) Participants have space to speak honestly about what’s hard. Feel understood, connect with others who truly “get it” and gain valuable insight and advice. 

Couples Support Group - (Full) - Seven sessions. 5 couples only will work with Internal Family Systems (IFS) master facilitator, Jason Weber, to understand what ‘parts’ of themselves are participating in the parent-child dynamics and learn how to compassionately move away from it. 

Foundations in Habit Development - (Fall 2026) This special series is for ADHD partners who have completed The ADHD Effect Couples' Seminar. This two month program helps you solidify the changes you have started to make. 

ADHD & Marriage Consulting Group - (Ongoing) - Work with an ADHD expert who understand the issues faced by individuals and couples impacted by ADHD. We STRONGLY recommend you also take the ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar

Therapist Training & more - (Ongoing) - For counselors, therapists, social workers, coaches, and other professionals who currently work with adults and couples impacted by ADHD, or who would like training to help improve their skills in this important therapeutic area.

 Free Resources:

• Weekly Marriage Tips email newsletters;
• Free Treatment E-book "How to Optimize Treatment for Adult ADHD";
• A community forum with other couples facing similar issues;
• A large number of blog posts on various topics;
• Referrals for ADHD-Savvy Therapists;
• Chore Score Worksheet;
• Recommended Reading for Couples Impacted by Adult ADHD
• The ADHD Effect on Marriage, Huff Post's top book that therapists suggest all couples should read.

Is there hope?  This video may help you answer that question: 

• Our Team
• New Here? Is ADHDMarriage right for you?
• en Español

Register for free marriage tips here! "Your weekly messages are beyond wonderful to receive, I cannot thank you enough! Please know the gifts that you give are treasured."

ADHD & Marriage News - April 14, 2026

Quote of the Week

“Our perception and attitude toward any situation will determine the outcome."

- Chinese fortune cookie

Unintended Messages

More than likely, when you generate negative responses from your kids, there are two things going on. First, kids with ADHD often hear neutral comments as criticism because they are hypersensitive to negative feedback. Second, there may well be an underlying message that you are not saying directly, but they are hearing loud and clear, like, “You messed up again,” or “I feel like I can’t count on you.” Even when our intentions are good, we say things in a way that sounds judgmental or accidentally puts our kids on the defensive. We don’t mean for that to happen, of course—but we all do it. So when your child responds negatively, you may get triggered in return . . . and a vicious cycle continues.

Changing your tone starts with shifting your expectations and becoming aware of the unintended messages you are actually sending—so that you can choose the messages you want to send. For example, consider classic parent statements like “Why can’t you just . . . ?” “Why don’t you ever remember to . . . ?” “When are you going to . . . ?” and the most famous one of all, “How many times do I have to tell you?”

From Parenting ADHD Now

Those in relationships impacted by ADHD know instinctively how relevant this idea is for adults with ADHD and those who love them.  You don’t mean to communicate ‘you are broken’ to your ADHD partner, but every time you remind, nag, cajole, critique, or ‘educate,’ you do just that.

As a rule of thumb, when non-ADHD partners ‘parent’ ADHD partners, the result is that no matter how nicely you try to say it, the message received is still the same – you are ‘less than’ you could be.

As you step away from parenting, your partner finally has the room to grow into taking the responsibility you always wanted them to have.

Intent to Action (i2a) Membership Program

➤ REGISTER NOW

Spring bonus! Get a FREE 30 minute consultation with an ADHD and Marriage Senior Consultant when you sign up for i2a before April 30th!

Seminars, Groups:

Intent to Action (i2a) Membership Program - (Registration Ongoing) - where couples stop feeling alone and start making real progress. 

What's inside:
→ Live Expert-led Office Hours
→ Weekly Action Tips to keep you engaged
→ Workshops with tools that work
→ Book Clubs
→ Community Discussion Forum
→ Unlimited Video Replays

Spring bonus! Get a FREE 30 minute consultation with an ADHD and Marriage Senior Consultant when you sign up for i2a before April 30th!

i2a delivers the strategies, expert support, and community that transform how ADHD-impacted couples communicate, collaborate, and connect. Learn more and sign up here!  

Live ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - (Next in Fall 2026) Is your relationship in trouble? Melissa and senior consultants help partners improve their lives together in this premier 9-session ZOOM seminar that has changed the lives of many, many couples impacted by ADHD. Mental Health Professionals, take $50 off and check out our Affiliates Program.

The Self-Study Seminar - (Ongoing)  Move at your own pace. Includes materials & recordings from recent live seminar lessons and Q&As. 3 months of Office Hours to support your learning! Military and Mental Health Professional discounts.

Non ADHD Partner Support Group - Join a community exploring similar issues; learn from each other's successes and struggles; find new, more effective ways to be your best self in your relationship. 

ADHD Partner Support Group - (Fall 2026) Participants have space to speak honestly about what’s hard. Feel understood, connect with others who truly “get it” and gain valuable insight and advice. 

Couples Support Group - (Full) - Seven sessions. 5 couples only will work with Internal Family Systems (IFS) master facilitator, Jason Weber, to understand what ‘parts’ of themselves are participating in the parent-child dynamics and learn how to compassionately move away from it. 

Foundations in Habit Development - (Fall 2026) This special series is for ADHD partners who have completed The ADHD Effect Couples' Seminar. This two month program helps you solidify the changes you have started to make. 

ADHD & Marriage Consulting Group - (Ongoing) - Work with an ADHD expert who understand the issues faced by individuals and couples impacted by ADHD. We STRONGLY recommend you also take the ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar

Therapist Training & more - (Ongoing) - For counselors, therapists, social workers, coaches, and other professionals who currently work with adults and couples impacted by ADHD, or who would like training to help improve their skills in this important therapeutic area.

 Free Resources:

• Weekly Marriage Tips email newsletters;
• Free Treatment E-book "How to Optimize Treatment for Adult ADHD";
• A community forum with other couples facing similar issues;
• A large number of blog posts on various topics;
• Referrals for ADHD-Savvy Therapists;
• Chore Score Worksheet;
• Recommended Reading for Couples Impacted by Adult ADHD
• The ADHD Effect on Marriage, Huff Post's top book that therapists suggest all couples should read.

Is there hope?  This video may help you answer that question: 

• Our Team
• New Here? Is ADHDMarriage right for you?
• en Español

Register for free marriage tips here! "Your weekly messages are beyond wonderful to receive, I cannot thank you enough! Please know the gifts that you give are treasured."

ADHD & Marriage News - April 7, 2026

Quote of the Week

“We all chose the wrong person – if we expect that person to make us happy all the time.  However, if together we create moments of meaning, rituals of romance, and try to make some of our dreams come true, happiness is available."

- Cheryl Fraser, Ph.D.

Dream Together 

Start with something small.  

Tell your partner you love him or her (better yet, tell them you adore them, if it’s true.)  Share what you’re grateful for.  Do something small, but thoughtful, like make coffee, and deliver it with a kiss.  I know of one couple in which the man puts his wife’s towel into the dryer to warm it up for her, then gives it to her as she gets out of the shower. Romantic, right?

These small indications of caring really add up.  It’s how you repair and get onto a road of wondering – just wondering – if you couldn’t go even ‘bigger and better’. 

Could you start dreaming together again?

Intent to Action (i2a) Membership Program

➤ REGISTER NOW

Spring bonus! Get a FREE 30 minute consultation with an ADHD and Marriage Senior Consultant when you sign up for i2a before April 30th!

Seminars, Groups:

Intent to Action (i2a) Membership Program - (Registration Ongoing) - where couples stop feeling alone and start making real progress. 

What's inside:
→ Live Expert-led Office Hours
→ Weekly Action Tips to keep you engaged
→ Workshops with tools that work
→ Book Clubs
→ Community Discussion Forum
→ Unlimited Video Replays

Spring bonus! Get a FREE 30 minute consultation with an ADHD and Marriage Senior Consultant when you sign up for i2a before April 30th!

i2a delivers the strategies, expert support, and community that transform how ADHD-impacted couples communicate, collaborate, and connect. Learn more and sign up here!  

Live ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - (Next in Fall 2026) Is your relationship in trouble? Melissa and senior consultants help partners improve their lives together in this premier 9-session ZOOM seminar that has changed the lives of many, many couples impacted by ADHD. Mental Health Professionals, take $50 off and check out our Affiliates Program.

The Self-Study Seminar - (Ongoing)  Move at your own pace. Includes materials & recordings from recent live seminar lessons and Q&As. 3 months of Office Hours to support your learning! Military and Mental Health Professional discounts.

Non ADHD Partner Support Group - Join a community exploring similar issues; learn from each other's successes and struggles; find new, more effective ways to be your best self in your relationship. 

ADHD Partner Support Group - (Expected Fall 2026) Participants have space to speak honestly about what’s hard. Feel understood, connect with others who truly “get it” and gain valuable insight and advice. 

Couples Support Group - (Full) - Seven sessions. 5 couples only will work with Internal Family Systems (IFS) master facilitator, Jason Weber, to understand what ‘parts’ of themselves are participating in the parent-child dynamics and learn how to compassionately move away from it. 

Foundations in Habit Development - (Expected Fall 2026) This special series is for ADHD partners who have completed The ADHD Effect Couples' Seminar. This two month program helps you solidify the changes you have started to make. 

ADHD & Marriage Consulting Group - (Ongoing) - Work with an ADHD expert who understand the issues faced by individuals and couples impacted by ADHD. We STRONGLY recommend you also take the ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar

Therapist Training & more - (Ongoing) - For counselors, therapists, social workers, coaches, and other professionals who currently work with adults and couples impacted by ADHD, or who would like training to help improve their skills in this important therapeutic area.

 Free Resources:

• Weekly Marriage Tips email newsletters;
• Free Treatment E-book "How to Optimize Treatment for Adult ADHD";
• A community forum with other couples facing similar issues;
• A large number of blog posts on various topics;
• Referrals for ADHD-Savvy Therapists;
• Chore Score Worksheet;
• Recommended Reading for Couples Impacted by Adult ADHD
• The ADHD Effect on Marriage, Huff Post's top book that therapists suggest all couples should read.

Is there hope?  This video may help you answer that question: 

• Our Team
• New Here? Is ADHDMarriage right for you?
• en Español

Register for free marriage tips here! "Your weekly messages are beyond wonderful to receive, I cannot thank you enough! Please know the gifts that you give are treasured."

ADHD & Marriage News - March 31, 2026

Quote of the Week

“Unlearning old habits and developing new ones takes patient effort.  It helps to meditate each day, whether the weather of our mind is bright or gloomy."

- Dr. Edward Hallowell

Developing New Habits 

Meditation is a form of mindfulness that encourages calm, emotional regulation, and internal strength.  And all of these qualities help when you are trying to break old patterns and replace them with new.

For me, meditation took the form of a journal that I wrote on my computer (password protected, of course!) to help me explore myself.  Who was I?  Who did I want to be, and why?  And how would that person act?

No matter what form of ‘meditation’ you select – moving meditation, yoga, journaling, mindfulness meditation or any of the other options – creating a practice of reflection and calm can be a life saver.

Who do you want to be, and why?

LIVE Couples' ADHD Effect In-Depth Seminar 

➤ REGISTER NOW - Still Time to Enroll

Access the live recording and Q&A from Session 1: Optimizing ADHD treatment; The differences between you. 

.... And join us Wednesday, April 1 for Session 2: Three important patterns in your relationship

Intent to Action (i2a) Membership Program

➤ REGISTER NOW

Spring bonus! Get a FREE 30 minute consultation with an ADHD and Marriage Senior Consultant when you sign up for i2a before April 30th!

Seminars, Groups:

Intent to Action (i2a) Membership Program - (Registration Ongoing) - where couples stop feeling alone and start making real progress. 

What's inside:
→ Live Expert-led Office Hours
→ Weekly Action Tips to keep you engaged
→ Workshops with tools that work
→ Book Clubs
→ Community Discussion Forum
→ Unlimited Video Replays

Spring bonus! Get a FREE 30 minute consultation with an ADHD and Marriage Senior Consultant when you sign up for i2a before April 30th!

i2a delivers the strategies, expert support, and community that transform how ADHD-impacted couples communicate, collaborate, and connect. Learn more and sign up here!  

Live ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - (Started, Registration Still Open) Is your relationship in trouble? Melissa and senior consultants help partners improve their lives together in this premier 9-session ZOOM seminar that has changed the lives of many, many couples impacted by ADHD. Mental Health Professionals, take $50 off and check out our Affiliates Program.

The Self-Study Seminar - (Ongoing)  Move at your own pace. Includes materials & recordings from recent live seminar lessons and Q&As. 3 months of Office Hours to support your learning! Military and Mental Health Professional discounts.

Non ADHD Partner Support Group - Join a community exploring similar issues; learn from each other's successes and struggles; find new, more effective ways to be your best self in your relationship. 

ADHD Partner Support Group - (Expected Fall 2026) Participants have space to speak honestly about what’s hard. Feel understood, connect with others who truly “get it” and gain valuable insight and advice. 

Couples Support Group - (Full) - Seven sessions. 5 couples only will work with Internal Family Systems (IFS) master facilitator, Jason Weber, to understand what ‘parts’ of themselves are participating in the parent-child dynamics and learn how to compassionately move away from it. 

Foundations in Habit Development - (Expected Fall 2026) This special series is for ADHD partners who have completed The ADHD Effect Couples' Seminar. This two month program helps you solidify the changes you have started to make. 

ADHD & Marriage Consulting Group - (Ongoing) - Work with an ADHD expert who understand the issues faced by individuals and couples impacted by ADHD. We STRONGLY recommend you also take the ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar

Therapist Training & more - (Ongoing) - For counselors, therapists, social workers, coaches, and other professionals who currently work with adults and couples impacted by ADHD, or who would like training to help improve their skills in this important therapeutic area.

 Free Resources:

• Weekly Marriage Tips email newsletters;
• Free Treatment E-book "How to Optimize Treatment for Adult ADHD";
• A community forum with other couples facing similar issues;
• A large number of blog posts on various topics;
• Referrals for ADHD-Savvy Therapists;
• Chore Score Worksheet;
• Recommended Reading for Couples Impacted by Adult ADHD
• The ADHD Effect on Marriage, Huff Post's top book that therapists suggest all couples should read.

Is there hope?  This video may help you answer that question: 

• Our Team
• New Here? Is ADHDMarriage right for you?
• en Español

Register for free marriage tips here! "Your weekly messages are beyond wonderful to receive, I cannot thank you enough! Please know the gifts that you give are treasured."

ADHD & Marriage News - March 24, 2026

Quote of the Week

“The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity."

- Amelia Earhart

Love, Tenacity and Flexibility

I love this quote!  Of course, I bring my own baggage to interpreting it.  I assume, for example, that the ‘act’ being decided is a worthy one – steeped in love and courage.  But I really do agree that love, tenacity and flexibility of mind can help one approach almost any challenge.

Why flexibility of mind?  Sometimes the approach we take simply doesn’t work, no matter how tenacious we are.  At that point we need to let go of that approach and try something different.

Are you having difficulty acting on something important?  If so, what do you need to make you more certain?  And if your uncertainty is because you feel there are huge roadblocks in your way, is there a different approach you might take?

STARTING March 25th!

LIVE Couples' ADHD Effect In-Depth Seminar 

➤ REGISTER NOW 

No matter where you are in the world.... you can take our life-changing ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar. 

Don't Miss the Opportunity to Repair Your Relationship & Thrive!

Melissa Orlov, the leading expert in ADHD relationships, has dedicated her career to helping couples understand how ADHD impacts emotional connections, communication, and day-to-day relationship dynamics.

STARTING THIS WEEK!

NON-ADHD Partner Support Groups

➤ REGISTER NOW  

Does you partner have ADHD? Led by trusted ADHD-savvy professionals, each session focuses on one or two topics chosen by group members for in-depth exploration. Get support and advice on your biggest issues and problems.  

Seven Monday at 5pm EDT: March 23, 30, April 6, 13, 20, 27, May 4

Seven Monday at 9pm EDT: March 23, 30, April 6, 13, 20, 27, May 4  

Seven Tuesday at 9pm EDT: March 24, 31, April 7, 14, 21, 28, May 5

Seminars, Groups:

Intent to Action (i2a) Membership Program - (Registration Ongoing). i2a helps couples impacted by ADHD find practical strategies, a safe space to work through challenges, and a supportive community of peers. Included: Office Hours. Weekly Action Tips.  Workshops. Book Club.  Community Discussion Forum. Unlimited Video Replays.  Our mission is to equip you with actionable expert guidance, a reduced sense of isolation, and foster real, lasting change in your relationships. Learn more and sign up here!  

Live ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - (Registration Open) Starts MARCH 25! Is your relationship in trouble? Melissa and senior consultants help partners improve their lives together in this premier 9-session ZOOM seminar that has changed the lives of many, many couples impacted by ADHD. Mental Health Professionals, take $50 off and check out our Affiliates Program.

The Self-Study Seminar - (Ongoing)  Move at your own pace. Includes materials & recordings from recent live seminar lessons and Q&As. 3 months of Office Hours to support your learning! Military and Mental Health Professional discounts.

Non ADHD Partner Support Group - (Registration Open) - Starting NOW. Join a community exploring similar issues; learn from each other's successes and struggles; find new, more effective ways to be your best self in your relationship. 

ADHD Partner Support Group - (Expected Fall 2026) Participants have space to speak honestly about what’s hard. Feel understood, connect with others who truly “get it” and gain valuable insight and advice. 

Couples Support Group - (Full) - Seven sessions. 5 couples only will work with Internal Family Systems (IFS) master facilitator, Jason Weber, to understand what ‘parts’ of themselves are participating in the parent-child dynamics and learn how to compassionately move away from it. 

Foundations in Habit Development - (Expected Fall 2026) This special series is for ADHD partners who have completed The ADHD Effect Couples' Seminar. This two month program helps you solidify the changes you have started to make. 

ADHD & Marriage Consulting Group - (Ongoing) - Work with an ADHD expert who understand the issues faced by individuals and couples impacted by ADHD. We STRONGLY recommend you also take the ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar

Therapist Training & more - (Ongoing) - For counselors, therapists, social workers, coaches, and other professionals who currently work with adults and couples impacted by ADHD, or who would like training to help improve their skills in this important therapeutic area.

 Free Resources:

• Weekly Marriage Tips email newsletters;
• Free Treatment E-book "How to Optimize Treatment for Adult ADHD";
• A community forum with other couples facing similar issues;
• A large number of blog posts on various topics;
• Referrals for ADHD-Savvy Therapists;
• Chore Score Worksheet;
• Recommended Reading for Couples Impacted by Adult ADHD
• The ADHD Effect on Marriage, Huff Post's top book that therapists suggest all couples should read.

Is there hope?  This video may help you answer that question: 

• Our Team
• New Here? Is ADHDMarriage right for you?
• en Español

Register for free marriage tips here! "Your weekly messages are beyond wonderful to receive, I cannot thank you enough! Please know the gifts that you give are treasured."

ADHD & Marriage News - March 17, 2026

Quote of the Week

“When you start down the road to revenge, first dig two graves."

- Confucius

We Could Be Nicer

I was working with a couple recently about how they interact with each other.  Their basic conclusion was ‘we could certainly be nicer to each other.’  As we continued talking, it was clear that both also knew HOW to communicate in a more respectful, nicer way.  Yet they were having trouble making that choice when talking with each other.

You can imagine the result.

Sometimes we ‘just don’t feel like’ being kind to our partner…but as Confucius suggests, when we stop making that effort we impact our own self and our own lives as much as our partner’s.

So, when deciding how to respond to your partner, always ask yourself “How could I be kind?”  It will improve your life.

STARTING NEXT WEEK!

LIVE Couples' ADHD Effect In-Depth Seminar                                                      Begins Wednesday, March 25th!

➤ REGISTER NOW 

No matter where you are in the world.... you can take our life-changing ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar. 

Repair your marriage & learn to thrive now!

Melissa Orlov, the leading expert in ADHD relationships, and senior consultants, Rachel Ban and Ashley Paradise, help partners improve their lives together.

NON-ADHD Partner Support Groups

➤ REGISTER NOW  Starting Next Week!

Does you partner have ADHD? Led by trusted ADHD-savvy professionals, each session focuses on one or two topics chosen by group members for in-depth exploration. Get support and advice on your biggest issues and problems.  

Seven Monday at 5pm EDT: March 23, 30, April 6, 13, 20, 27, May 4

Seven Monday at 9pm EDT: March 23, 30, April 6, 13, 20, 27, May 4  

Seven Tuesday at 9pm EDT: March 24, 31, April 7, 14, 21, 28, May 5

ADHD Partner Support Group

➤ REGISTER NOW  Starting Next Week!

Are you the partner with ADHD? Led by trusted ADHD-savvy professionals, each session focuses on one or two topics chosen by group members for in-depth exploration. Participants have space to speak honestly. Feel understood, connect with others who truly “get it” and gain valuable insight and advice.  

Seven Thursdays at 4:30pm EDT - March 26, April 2, 9, 16, 23, 30, May 7 

Limited to 10 people

Seminars, Groups:

Intent to Action (i2a) Membership Program - (Registration Ongoing). i2a helps couples impacted by ADHD find practical strategies, a safe space to work through challenges, and a supportive community of peers. Included: Office Hours. Weekly Action Tips.  Workshops. Book Club.  Community Discussion Forum. Unlimited Video Replays.  Our mission is to equip you with actionable expert guidance, a reduced sense of isolation, and foster real, lasting change in your relationships. Learn more and sign up here!  

Live ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - (Registration Open) Starts NEXT WEEK. Is your relationship in trouble? Melissa and senior consultants help partners improve their lives together in this premier 9-session ZOOM seminar that has changed the lives of many, many couples impacted by ADHD. Mental Health Professionals, learn about our Affiliates Program.

The Self-Study Seminar - (Ongoing)  Move at your own pace. Includes materials & recordings from recent live seminar lessons and Q&As. 3 months of Office Hours to support your learning! Military and Mental Health Professional discounts.

Non ADHD Partner Support Group - (Registration Open) - Starts NEXT WEEK. Join a community exploring similar issues; learn from each other's successes and struggles; find new, more effective ways to be your best self in your relationship. 

ADHD Partner Support Group - (Registration Open) - Starts NEXT WEEK. Participants have space to speak honestly about what’s hard. Feel understood, connect with others who truly “get it” and gain valuable insight and advice. 

Couples Support Group - (Full) - Seven sessions. 5 couples only will work with Internal Family Systems (IFS) master facilitator, Jason Weber, to understand what ‘parts’ of themselves are participating in the parent-child dynamics and learn how to compassionately move away from it. 

Foundations in Habit Development - (Expected Fall 2026) This special series is for ADHD partners who have completed The ADHD Effect Couples' Seminar. This two month program helps you solidify the changes you have started to make. 

ADHD & Marriage Consulting Group - (Ongoing) - Work with an ADHD expert who understand the issues faced by individuals and couples impacted by ADHD. We STRONGLY recommend you also take the ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar

Therapist Training & more - (Ongoing) - For counselors, therapists, social workers, coaches, and other professionals who currently work with adults and couples impacted by ADHD, or who would like training to help improve their skills in this important therapeutic area.

 Free Resources:

• Weekly Marriage Tips email newsletters;
• Free Treatment E-book "How to Optimize Treatment for Adult ADHD";
• A community forum with other couples facing similar issues;
• A large number of blog posts on various topics;
• Referrals for ADHD-Savvy Therapists;
• Chore Score Worksheet;
• Recommended Reading for Couples Impacted by Adult ADHD
• The ADHD Effect on Marriage, Huff Post's top book that therapists suggest all couples should read.

Is there hope?  This video may help you answer that question: 

• Our Team
• New Here? Is ADHDMarriage right for you?
• en Español

Register for free marriage tips here! "Your weekly messages are beyond wonderful to receive, I cannot thank you enough! Please know the gifts that you give are treasured."

ADHD & Marriage News - March 10, 2026

Quote of the Week

“In an achievement-oriented culture, we often feel ashamed if we can’t handle exorbitant amounts of pressure, because it seems like everyone else can.  We think there must be some problem with us, and we keep quiet about it."

- Aviva Romm, MD

Achievement Oriented Culture

Stress impacts us all.  For ADHD partners it makes symptoms worse.  For non-ADHD partners, it makes patience and empathy hard to find.  It’s exhausting and emotionally draining.  And yet, we ‘accept stress’ with phrases such as “I’m not in control – this is how it’s done” and “I would like to have less stress in my life, but there’s just too much to do!”

I’m here to tell you that for most of us this is simply not true.  Once your basic needs are met, you do have some options for reducing stress.  Here are just a few tactics:

• Times during the day without electronic connections

• Learn to say “no” when others ask you to add to your obligations

• Meditate and exercise

• Ruthlessly cull your ‘to do’ list

• Set time aside for people and relationships, rather than chores

• Hold your partner at the end of the day (or beginning)

• Say ‘thank you’ and ‘I love you’ regularly

What stress could you eliminate?

REGISTRATION OPEN:

LIVE Couples' ADHD Effect In-Depth Seminar                                                      Begins Wednesday, March 25th!

➤ REGISTER NOW 

No matter where you are in the world.... you can take our life-changing ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar. 

Repair your marriage & learn to thrive now!

Melissa Orlov, the leading expert in ADHD relationships, and senior consultants, Rachel Ban and Ashley Paradise, help partners improve their lives together.

NON-ADHD Partner Support Groups

➤ REGISTER NOW  

Seven Thursdays at 4:30pm Eastern - Led by Ashley Paradise

March 26, April 2, 9, 16, 23, 30, May 7

There can be a lot to work through when your partner has ADHD. Join a community exploring similar issues, learn from each other's successes & struggles and find new, more effective ways to be your best self in your relationship. Understand how ADHD impacts emotional connections, communication, and day-to-day relationship dynamics. Each Zoom session focuses on member chosen topics for in-depth exploration and actionable strategies. 

Seminars, Groups:

Intent to Action (i2a) Membership Program - (Registration Ongoing). i2a helps couples impacted by ADHD find practical strategies, a safe space to work through challenges, and a supportive community of peers. Included: Office Hours. Weekly Action Tips.  Workshops. Book Club.  Community Discussion Forum. Unlimited Video Replays.  Our mission is to equip you with actionable expert guidance, a reduced sense of isolation, and foster real, lasting change in your relationships. Learn more and sign up here!  

Live ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - (Registration Open) Starts March 25. Is your relationship in trouble? Melissa and senior consultants help partners improve their lives together in this premier 9-session ZOOM seminar that has changed the lives of many, many couples impacted by ADHD. Mental Health Professionals, learn about our Affiliates Program.

The Self-Study Seminar - (Ongoing)  Move at your own pace. Includes materials & recordings from recent live seminar lessons and Q&As. 3 months of Office Hours to support your learning! Military and Mental Health Professional discounts.

Non ADHD Partner Support Group - (Registration Open) - Starts March 26. Join a community exploring similar issues; learn from each other's successes and struggles; find new, more effective ways to be your best self in your relationship. 

Foundations in Habit Development - (Expected Fall 2026) This special series is for ADHD partners who have completed The ADHD Effect Couples' Seminar. This two month program helps you solidify the changes you have started to make. 

ADHD & Marriage Consulting Group - (Ongoing) - Work with an ADHD expert who understand the issues faced by individuals and couples impacted by ADHD. We STRONGLY recommend you also take the ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar

Couples Support Group - (Full) - Seven sessions. 5 couples only will work with Internal Family Systems (IFS) master facilitator, Jason Weber, to understand what ‘parts’ of themselves are participating in the parent-child dynamics and learn how to compassionately move away from it. 

Therapist Training & more - (Ongoing) - For counselors, therapists, social workers, coaches, and other professionals who currently work with adults and couples impacted by ADHD, or who would like training to help improve their skills in this important therapeutic area.

 Free Resources:

• Weekly Marriage Tips email newsletters;
• Free Treatment E-book "How to Optimize Treatment for Adult ADHD";
• A community forum with other couples facing similar issues;
• A large number of blog posts on various topics;
• Referrals for ADHD-Savvy Therapists;
• Chore Score Worksheet;
• Recommended Reading for Couples Impacted by Adult ADHD
• The ADHD Effect on Marriage, Huff Post's top book that therapists suggest all couples should read.

Is there hope?  This video may help you answer that question: 

• Our Team
• New Here? Is ADHDMarriage right for you?
• en Español

Register for free marriage tips here! "Your weekly messages are beyond wonderful to receive, I cannot thank you enough! Please know the gifts that you give are treasured."

ADHD & Marriage News - March 4, 2026

Quote of the Week

“Love isn’t a perfect state of caring.  It’s an active noun like ‘struggle.' "

- Fred Rogers

Sweat the Small Stuff

One of the more common ‘mistakes’ that couples make is that they forget to actively nurture their connections.  As Rogers points out – sustained love doesn’t just ‘happen’ – you really have to work at it.  And ‘struggle’ is just the right word to choose…because sometimes it really IS a struggle!  Your partner pulls some boneheaded move and you have to look inside yourself to find patience or empathy with her.

Part of that struggle is finding the balance between letting things go and focusing enough attention on the most important items so that both of you feel heard and attended to.  Many older couples will tell you that they finally figured out that ‘sweating the small stuff’ wasn’t a great approach…but sitting down, when it’s really important, and learning how to gently but firmly speak your mind is.

We don’t land in a relationship knowing how to create that balance.  That’s all part of the struggle – taming your baser instincts to find ways to accommodate the needs you both have so that you both feel cared for.

REGISTRATION OPEN:

LIVE Couples' ADHD Effect In-Depth Spring 2026 Seminar 

➤ REGISTER NOW 

No matter where you are in the world.... you can take Melissa's life-changing ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar. 

Given the current economic climate, we know that couples affected by ADHD may be feeling even more strain—emotionally, relationally, and financially. To help make support more accessible, we’re offering a $30 discount for couples who register for our upcoming Live ADHD & Marriage Couples Seminar by February 28.

 Mastering Learning Conversations Thursday, Mar 5, 2026
7-8:30pm EST

➤ Space Limited. Learn more here or Sign up here

This Free live session is for couples navigating communication challenges in ADHD-impacted relationships — this tool can really help couples in difficult moments. 

You’ll learn:

• What a “learning conversation” is and how it helps
• What makes ADHD-related communication loops so sticky — and how to shift them with care
• How ADHD & Marriage can continue to support your relationship – with great bonuses when you attend live!  

NON-ADHD Partner Support Groups

➤ REGISTER NOW  

Spring, 2026 ADHD Partner Support Group:
Thursdays at 4:30pm Eastern Time - Led by Ashley Paradise
Seven Thursdays evenings: March 26, April 2, 9, 16, 23, 30, May 7

There can be a lot to work through when your partner has ADHD. Join a community exploring similar issues, learn from each other's successes & struggles and find new, more effective ways to be your best self in your relationship. Understand how ADHD impacts emotional connections, communication, and day-to-day relationship dynamics. Each Zoom session focuses on member chosen topics for in-depth exploration and actionable strategies. 

Couples Support Group - Couples in Connection

➤ REGISTER NOW  

Spring 2026 group: 

Dates: 7 Wednesday evenings: April 8, 15, 22, 29, May 6, 13, 20
Time: 6:00 - 7:30 pm Eastern Time

True connection doesn’t mean avoiding discomfort — it means learning how to stay present through it. Join Molly Schoenhoff and Jason Weber — partners in both life and work, and an ADHD couple themselves — for a unique, small-group experience designed for 5 couples ready to grow together.

Seminars, Groups:

Intent to Action (i2a) Membership Program - (Registration Ongoing). i2a helps couples impacted by ADHD find practical strategies, a safe space to work through challenges, and a supportive community of peers. Included: Office Hours. Weekly Action Tips.  Workshops. Book Club.  Community Discussion Forum. Unlimited Video Replays.  Our mission is to equip you with actionable expert guidance, a reduced sense of isolation, and foster real, lasting change in your relationships. Learn more and sign up here!  

• Free Learning Conversations Masterclass — March 5, 2026, 7:00–8:30 PM ET register here.

Live ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - (Registration Open) Starts March 25. Is your relationship in trouble? Melissa and senior consultants help partners improve their lives together in this premier 9-session ZOOM seminar that has changed the lives of many, many couples impacted by ADHD. Mental Health Professionals, learn about our Affiliates Program.

The Self-Study Seminar - (Ongoing)  Move at your own pace. Includes materials & recordings from recent live seminar lessons and Q&As. 3 months of Office Hours to support your learning! Military and Mental Health Professional discounts.

Non ADHD Partner Support Group - (Registration Open) - Join a community exploring similar issues; learn from each other's successes and struggles; find new, more effective ways to be your best self in your relationship. 

Foundations in Habit Development - (Expected Fall 2026) This special series is for ADHD partners who have completed The ADHD Effect Couples' Seminar. This two month program helps you solidify the changes you have started to make. 

ADHD & Marriage Consulting Group - (Ongoing) - Work with an ADHD expert who understand the issues faced by individuals and couples impacted by ADHD.  We STRONGLY recommend you also take the ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar

Couples Support Group - (Registration Open) - Seven sessions. 5 couples only will work with Internal Family Systems (IFS) master facilitator, Jason Weber, to understand what ‘parts’ of themselves are participating in the parent-child dynamics and learn how to compassionately move away from it. 

Therapist Training & more - (Ongoing) - For counselors, therapists, social workers, coaches, and other professionals who currently work with adults and couples impacted by ADHD, or who would like training to help improve their skills in this important therapeutic area.

 Free Resources:

• Weekly Marriage Tips email newsletters;
• Free Treatment E-book "How to Optimize Treatment for Adult ADHD";
• A community forum with other couples facing similar issues;
• A large number of blog posts on various topics;
• Referrals for ADHD-Savvy Therapists;
• Chore Score Worksheet;
• Recommended Reading for Couples Impacted by Adult ADHD
• The ADHD Effect on Marriage, Huff Post's top book that therapists suggest all couples should read.

Is there hope?  This video may help you answer that question: 

• Our Team
• New Here? Is ADHDMarriage right for you?
• en Español

Register for free marriage tips here! "Your weekly messages are beyond wonderful to receive, I cannot thank you enough! Please know the gifts that you give are treasured."

ADHD & Marriage News - March 4, 2026

Quote of the Week

“Love isn’t a perfect state of caring.  It’s an active noun like ‘struggle.' "

- Fred Rogers

Sweat the Small Suff

One of the more common ‘mistakes’ that couples make is that they forget to actively nurture their connections.  As Rogers points out – sustained love doesn’t just ‘happen’ – you really have to work at it.  And ‘struggle’ is just the right word to choose…because sometimes it really IS a struggle!  Your partner pulls some boneheaded move and you have to look inside yourself to find patience or empathy with her.

Part of that struggle is finding the balance between letting things go and focusing enough attention on the most important items so that both of you feel heard and attended to.  Many older couples will tell you that they finally figured out that ‘sweating the small stuff’ wasn’t a great approach…but sitting down, when it’s really important, and learning how to gently but firmly speak your mind is.

We don’t land in a relationship knowing how to create that balance.  That’s all part of the struggle – taming your baser instincts to find ways to accommodate the needs you both have so that you both feel cared for.

REGISTRATION OPEN:

LIVE Couples' ADHD Effect In-Depth Spring 2026 Seminar 

➤ REGISTER NOW 

No matter where you are in the world.... you can take Melissa's life-changing ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar. 

Given the current economic climate, we know that couples affected by ADHD may be feeling even more strain—emotionally, relationally, and financially. To help make support more accessible, we’re offering a $30 discount for couples who register for our upcoming Live ADHD & Marriage Couples Seminar by February 28.

 Mastering Learning Conversations

➤ Space Limited. Learn more here or Sign up here

Date: Thursday, Mar 5, 2026
Time: 7-8:30pm EST

This Free live session is for couples navigating communication challenges in ADHD-impacted relationships — this tool can really help couples in difficult moments. 

You’ll learn:

• What a “learning conversation” is and how it helps
• What makes ADHD-related communication loops so sticky — and how to shift them with care
• How ADHD & Marriage can continue to support your relationship – with great bonuses when you attend live!  

NON-ADHD Partner Support Groups

➤ REGISTER NOW  

Spring, 2026 ADHD Partner Support Group:
Thursdays at 4:30pm Eastern Time - Led by Ashley Paradise
Seven Thursdays evenings: March 26, April 2, 9, 16, 23, 30, May 7

There can be a lot to work through when your partner has ADHD. Join a community exploring similar issues, learn from each other's successes & struggles and find new, more effective ways to be your best self in your relationship. Understand how ADHD impacts emotional connections, communication, and day-to-day relationship dynamics. Each Zoom session focuses on member chosen topics for in-depth exploration and actionable strategies. 

Couples Support Group - Couples in Connection

➤ REGISTER NOW  

Spring 2026 group: 

Dates: 7 Wednesday evenings: April 8, 15, 22, 29, May 6, 13, 20
Time: 6:00 - 7:30 pm Eastern Time

True connection doesn’t mean avoiding discomfort — it means learning how to stay present through it. Join Molly Schoenhoff and Jason Weber — partners in both life and work, and an ADHD couple themselves — for a unique, small-group experience designed for 5 couples ready to grow together.

Seminars, Groups:

Intent to Action (i2a) Membership Program - (Registration Ongoing). i2a helps couples impacted by ADHD find practical strategies, a safe space to work through challenges, and a supportive community of peers. Included: Office Hours. Weekly Action Tips.  Workshops. Book Club.  Community Discussion Forum. Unlimited Video Replays.  Our mission is to equip you with actionable expert guidance, a reduced sense of isolation, and foster real, lasting change in your relationships. Learn more and sign up here!  

• Free Learning Conversations Masterclass — March 5, 2026, 7:00–8:30 PM ET register here.

Live ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - (Registration Open) Starts March 25. Is your relationship in trouble? Melissa and senior consultants help partners improve their lives together in this premier 9-session ZOOM seminar that has changed the lives of many, many couples impacted by ADHD. Mental Health Professionals, learn about our Affiliates Program.

The Self-Study Seminar - (Ongoing)  Move at your own pace. Includes materials & recordings from recent live seminar lessons and Q&As. 3 months of Office Hours to support your learning! Military and Mental Health Professional discounts.

Non ADHD Partner Support Group - (Registration Open) - Join a community exploring similar issues; learn from each other's successes and struggles; find new, more effective ways to be your best self in your relationship. 

Foundations in Habit Development - (Expected Fall 2026) This special series is for ADHD partners who have completed The ADHD Effect Couples' Seminar. This two month program helps you solidify the changes you have started to make. 

ADHD & Marriage Consulting Group - (Ongoing) - Work with an ADHD expert who understand the issues faced by individuals and couples impacted by ADHD.  We STRONGLY recommend you also take the ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar

Couples Support Group - (Registration Open) - Seven sessions. 5 couples only will work with Internal Family Systems (IFS) master facilitator, Jason Weber, to understand what ‘parts’ of themselves are participating in the parent-child dynamics and learn how to compassionately move away from it. 

Therapist Training & more - (Ongoing) - For counselors, therapists, social workers, coaches, and other professionals who currently work with adults and couples impacted by ADHD, or who would like training to help improve their skills in this important therapeutic area.

 Free Resources:

• Weekly Marriage Tips email newsletters;
• Free Treatment E-book "How to Optimize Treatment for Adult ADHD";
• A community forum with other couples facing similar issues;
• A large number of blog posts on various topics;
• Referrals for ADHD-Savvy Therapists;
• Chore Score Worksheet;
• Recommended Reading for Couples Impacted by Adult ADHD
• The ADHD Effect on Marriage, Huff Post's top book that therapists suggest all couples should read.

Is there hope?  This video may help you answer that question: 

• Our Team
• New Here? Is ADHDMarriage right for you?
• en Español

Register for free marriage tips here! "Your weekly messages are beyond wonderful to receive, I cannot thank you enough! Please know the gifts that you give are treasured."